Best friend lied to me to avoid hanging out

[Anonymous]

Sunday my friend took the initiative to hit me up and hang out, I said sure right as soon as I get off work. She said okay.

About 45 min before I got off she canceled because she said she had car problems. I asked if she needed help and she denied it. Her father was going to go with her for car parts and help her.

However come to find out that she actually went to go hang out with a group of friends in a get together. It slipped in conversation from a mutual friend. Fine.

Strike 1



Another story

She said she was having family issues so she wouldn't have been able to hang out last night. She also said she would let me know if she'll be able to.

So okay, I understood.

Now my coworker said that she saw her having dinner with her coworker last night at a bar.

2nd strike

Clearly she's putting me behind everyone and covering it all up with lies.

No I refuse to confront her, but I would like some advice on how to handle this situation in a way where she can understand that she's one strike away from losing me

[Anonymous]

You can't really get her to understand if you don't sit down and talk to her.. Friendship is based on people being honest and I know she hasn't been honest but she is probably making these things up so she doesn't hurt you and didn't expect it to get back to you.. I really think you should say something. How in gods name can you get the message across that she is one strike away from losing you when she has no idea that she is.. If you speak to her about it and she continues doing it then there is where the problem lies. I doubt she is doing it purposely to hurt you but if you don't voice your concerns then you will continue to get hurt..

[Asker]

I've only seen her once for the past month.

She canceled on me at s total of 6 times now.

Sorry but she's actually not a stupid girl

[Opinion Owner]

But if you tell her how you feel then she will know for certain won't she. If she already knows then what's the problem?. Your technically after answering your own question there,( how do you get it across to her without telling her) if she already knows.. You should ditch her if she knows how much it's hurting you, no one deserves to be treated like that esp if the other person knows that they are hurting them..

[Anonymous]

It's quite clear that she doesn't want to hang out with you. You should just find some other friend.