Best friend lied to me Advice? I feel betrayed?

[Anonymous]

keep up. My best friends recently started dating each other. I am happy for them and approve can’t want to see how it goes it’s just extremely awkward. The girl is my best friend and I love her like a niece she’s way younger than me but I have known her for a long while. The guy and I have been best friends for over 5 years and basically were dating without making it official everyone knew we were a thing and waiting for us to announce our status. He and I grew close but he never would admit or ask me to be his girlfriend officially for what reasons I do not know. It was obvious we had a connection he just never asked me out sadly. I never knew my friends liked each other because he is closer to my age and she is like our child and she knew he and i were together they have been talking but more of a “I’m watching over and protecting you kinds of relationship” cause she’s younger than us and we love her so much. So this whole month has been a lot on our relationship he moved away and didn’t even tell me I happed to find out the day of by a friend that had my back and didn’t feel it was right to keep secrets. Then basically I found out that my best friends are dating an no one wants to tell me in the friends group cause they didn’t want to break my heart and he asked them not to tell me but to protect my heart (I feel more betrayed by them not telling me and him ghosting me). He just ignored me and acted like I wasn’t there and in my head I was spiraling thinking I did something wrong. He could have just told me and I would have been fine instead of him moving and having the rest of my friends keep secrets. I congratulated them and I’m happy for them but this has altered our friendship cause now I have to pretend I’m not upset when I am and I can’t confront him about it infront of my best friend. Now no one wants to invite me or tell me about our hand outs and I’m trying to not feel some kind of way but i do and it’s weird to see them together know. Advice?

[SueShe]

This best friend lied to you all that time since you know him and he never really showed his true face and character. Also, those fake friends that will not tell you things because they want to "protect you". That is a lame excuse and again, is not how real friends behave.

I personally would slowly distance myself from this group of friends. Show them in your own way that you disapprove of their behavior and they will eventually get the message. If they ask why you have turned "cold", then let them know what you think of them and their behavior.

[Makeushiver]

Well, time heals all wounds and hopefully it also wounds all heels. In Dante's 3 books with his extended poem in which he explores and assign numerical points -levels I guess. The worst sin -according to Dante-was betrayal. His peers knew that, and Dante fans, medieval s, & modern scholars scholars agree that is was because his main squeeze- Beatrice- fucked another guy or guys and the betrayed wrote 3 books still often required reading. If that wasn't enough boring pedantry their is a famous conversation by two British men of letter. One asked the other if he thought it was worse to betray a friend or betray a country. The person who was asked thought briefly and said this. I only hope that I would have the courage to betray my country. So there are 2 examples that you may find completely irrelevant, Maybe not

[Nikki1989]

You may need to take a step back and re-evaluate your friendships. True friends would not participate in a lie that hurts you.

[Selene1600000]

You’re hurt because they hid things and he ghosted you, not just because they’re dating, and that’s valid. Talk to him privately and be honest about how his actions affected you without attacking their relationship. If the group keeps excluding you or avoiding honesty, it’s okay to step back and protect your peace.

[EmmaMary]

Yet another lovely Mills and Boon romantic script.

[Anonymous]

U were probably too pretty he decided he can’t get u