Why did my best mate lie to me?

[MoonFace2]

My guy best friend *Jack* was recently included on a mutual younger female acquaintance’s birthday party friends list on facebook. I remember the last time we’d discussed her, a few months ago, he’d admitted to fancying her and implied that she doesn’t want anything to do with him.

She’s little and cute and twenty five and he’s middle aged, obese and balding. Was he worried that I’d judge him for the fact that he and another mutual acquaintance, a guy around my age, are clearly hoping that this younger woman will sleep with them or date them? I think it’s a bit sad at their age, however, I don’t think it’s up to me to decide who they spend their time with.

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He’d wanted her in our friend group and my friend *Nancy* and I didn’t like her; because she’s blown us off twice at social invites and she seems prissy, overly serious and politically correct.

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On the contrary, I’m not upset at all. I’m slightly curious as to why he was so secretive about it.

[Nikki1989]

Jack might be simply interested in this woman and wants to get to know her better. There's no shame in having feelings for someone, even if they may not be reciprocated.

[MoonFace2]

That’s true 🥰

[MoonFace2]

and he has always treated the previous women in his life well 😊

[WhitneySnow]

I doubt she’s into your friend. What did he lie to you about?

[MoonFace2]

He said she doesn’t like him at all and that he’d decided he’d better leave her alone and then he went to her party.

[MoonFace2]

I doubt she’s into him as more than friends, too.

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah he was probably afraid you’d judge him for pursuing her

[MoonFace2]

Oh, okay. I already knew he wanted her, all the guys my age and older who met her acted like horny teenagers around her. But it doesn’t bother me. I just wish for his own sake that he’d find someone his own age who will return his feelings. He’s wasting his time.

[WhitneySnow]

I understand. Do you fancy him?

[MoonFace2]

Definitely not.

[WhitneySnow]

Good luck. I hope you get this worked out with him. I think he was just afraid you would judge him.

[MoonFace2]

Thanks 🥰

[Ironco]

At 35 you are still doing the high school drama?

[MoonFace2]

If you’re older than me and you’ve misread this whole situation at your age, then I don’t know what to tell you