Flirting VS Bullying?!

Question

I really cannot understand this. There's this guy, he's a friend of one of my friends. He doesn't talk to me whatsoever. I tried to make small talk with him but he wouldn't even look at me properly. He just ignores my presence and snubs me. He even narrows his eyebrows to me as if I'm some kind of idiot. So I got the message that he didn't like me so I didn't bother with him anymore. But then, whenever my friends play a game, he almost, if not always, wants to see me lose with or without a dare for the loser. He even gives signs to the other guys to gang up on me but I know what he's doing and I can always tell. Sometimes, he just wants the game to end up with just me and him left so that he'd be one-on-one with me and make me lose to him. And whenever I win, he gets frustrated and angry. Then we end up playing the game until I lose! Because of that, I thought he just really doesn't like me all that much and even probably hates me for no reason. But then when we got into the elevator, my friend tried to stop me from getting out and he tried to help out. He kept poking my hand and trying to get my hand out when I was trying to hide the floor number I was going to. And I don't know, I was confused because he was touching my hands and I thought he hated me. But when I went out of the elevator, I almost tripped because he was blocking my way, trying not to let me get out. I'm really confused if I should be mad at him for bullying me and not treating me as a girl or not. Furthermore, does he still dislike me that's why he was doing this to me? I've only met him twice and on the second time, he did that. I want to be mad but I'm not sure if I should be mad? Does that make any sense? Furthermore, we're in second year college here. Isn't this too high school?!

NotSoBad · Accepted Answer

I agree this is too much "high school" . Let's say he is still immature and he likes you, it's possible that he is trying to flirt but has no idea how to properly do it. He wants your attention and the only way he knows how to get it is by being annoying. Unfortunately, if he continues to do that he will turn you off completely.

Now, lets say he doesn't like you and he is just bullying you. He is just a mean person then and not worth wasting your thoughts on. Try to avoid him.

You should stick up for yourself in either scenario. If he does something that bothers you again don't get upset, stay calm and just say, in a stern voice "if you like me trying being nice to me because you're starting to get annoying"

To make it come more naturally during the situation practice saying it in a mirror before hand so you feel more comfortable.

clashcity22 · Accepted Answer

Get the hell away from him. He obviously has a very aggressive personality and gets upset easily. Think about being with him. He gets angry and hits you. Do you want that? Just blow him off like he did to you. He'll get the message.

Newgirl1979 · Accepted Answer

Just avoid him for a while and don’t engage him at all, if any of his friends (or yours) ask why, just say it’s because he treats you badly so you would rather keep out of his way. Either that or wait until he is on his own (without his mates around) and ask him if he has a problem with you. I would still ensure you did this in a relatively public place just in case but I would call him out on it (and don’t be too confrontational yourself) ... he may then realise his actions are unacceptable