I'm turning 20 and there's this married guy (33-35 yo) at work I've a crush on. I'm almost sure he's interested as I catch him giving me that look and if he doesn't look away, we end up staring at each other longer than usual, he waits for me when I'm the last person to get up when the break's over, his hands lingered on mine when I covered his eyes, and so.
I haven't really done anything one would consider flirting but I'm affectionate and I usually hug and lean into friends be it a girl or guy. I rarely do it to him though, just twice I think, in respect to the fact that he's married. But there was one drinking incident when he was beside me and I hugged him from behind (which I didn't think wrong because I do it to everyone). Later on, we both went out for air, I was tipsy and hugged him again, I looked up and remember him just quietly looking down at me, he didn't hug back. The Monday after that, he believed and kept teasing that I was drunk. But I could feel he felt awkward and tried to avoid me, at least in situations where we would both be alone even when it's just the pantry while I'm heating food and there are other people around.
I can't tell if he's being like that to avoid temptation or if it's because he has 2 other friends who like me and doesn't want to get caught up as well. Also, I think it's gone to his head that I like him because of the hug thing, that he took it the wrong way even if my intentions then were nothing dirty but just friendly.
I haven't really done anything one would consider flirting but I'm affectionate and I usually hug and lean into friends be it a girl or guy. I rarely do it to him though, just twice I think, in respect to the fact that he's married. But there was one drinking incident when he was beside me and I hugged him from behind (which I didn't think wrong because I do it to everyone). Later on, we both went out for air, I was tipsy and hugged him again, I looked up and remember him just quietly looking down at me, he didn't hug back. The Monday after that, he believed and kept teasing that I was drunk. But I could feel he felt awkward and tried to avoid me, at least in situations where we would both be alone even when it's just the pantry while I'm heating food and there are other people around.
I can't tell if he's being like that to avoid temptation or if it's because he has 2 other friends who like me and doesn't want to get caught up as well. Also, I think it's gone to his head that I like him because of the hug thing, that he took it the wrong way even if my intentions then were nothing dirty but just friendly.
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Seriously, I would really appreciate some real insight and not judging. If someone's going to make a lecture, go ahead, not like I can stop you anyway, but please be respectful. I asked nicely for people's objective insights, not judgement or criticism. I know more than enough about cheating in marriages and how it affects so and so in the family, I am someone's kid who doesn't want her parents stolen as well too, obviously.
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