He's all bark and no bite...what the heck, guys?

[Prettygurl12]

I have a friend who had a boyfriend living in her dorm room with her and he got violent with her one day to the point where she wanted him out and was afraid to be alone with him. He refused her break up (who knew you could do that!) and he refused to leave.

Well this past Sunday she texted me and said that she wanted him out. She had told a guy friend of hers about him and he said that if she ever wanted his help kicking the guy out he'd be there to help. So since we were going to kick him out, she asked if he'd help. And you know what he did? He backed out! He was afraid to confront this guy. And the ex boyfriend is all of 5'6, 140 lbs and the guy friend is 6'3, 260 lbs.

He said it wasn't his fight. Which is true, but he *did* offer to help her so...

Guys! Please explain this to me. Why on earth would you offer your kick out services to a girl (who you claim to genuinely care for) knowing that the ex boyfriend is half your size and that your female friend was afraid for her safety (the ex has choked her out and assaulted her physically and sexually)?

He offered to help her if and when she was ready to kick him out and did nothing but talk about how he'd be there for her and how he was pumped to kick him out, but when she actually went to him to ask him for help, he caved and backed out.

He left my friend and I to do it ourselves. And she's all of 5'0, and terrified of this guy and I'm all of 5'4. And I'm no muscular threat :p I'm 110 lbs of nothing.

What the heck, guys. Why would he offer to help and then change his mind and leave two very small girls to confront a very violent guy alone? Granted the guy isn't much bigger than me, but he still has me by 30 lbs.

I mean, we got him out so that's good, but he landed a few punches on us and left a few bruises in the process. He and I actually got into a bit of a fight in her room. But seeing as we managed to kick him out, I like to think I won :p

Had her guy friend been there, I doubt he'd even have tried to fight us. Just having him there - a bigger, muscular person - would have been enough, I think.

So...guys, explain this logic. If you were in his shoes would you have backed out? If so, why?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like cowardice. He might suck at fighting and doesn't want to be exposed. He enjoys the imposing physique but can't back anything up and he knows it. The last thing he'd want is to be beaten down by a much smaller guy in front of a girl he cares about. Or he's paranoid the guy will just pull out a weapon. Those are the reasons I've heard of as to why a big guy won't fight.

Another less likely explanation could be that he'd be worried about legal trouble. If a 6'3, 260 pound man assaults a 5'6 140 pound man in the smaller man's living area, that does nothing but hurt him in a trial. If two small women fight him off, the women get off the hook almost by default. It technically wasn't his fight and maaaaaybe he was just looking out for his own criminal record (or lack thereof).

[Levin]

Why didn't you get the authorities to deal with it?

Violence is always a last resort, and never something planned. There are consequences for any action. He could have pulled a knife. It's fully possible for people who are trained, such as me, to do far more damage than they had intended, in the heat of the moment. Legal ramifications, etc. Sounds like there was nothing preventing him coming back or continuing to harass her.

Yes, the guy should have done something, but still, sentence one.

[laceyz565]

I'm not a guy but I can see a number of reasons why he would back off. # one he didn't think she was serious. # 2 he wanted to seem strong and tough but know he atcually isn't # 3he didn't wanna look like a p**** when he was getting his ass whopped. #4 he's a guy even if her roommate roughed you guys up a bit he's main focus of attack will be your male friend.

[RosaliaVanderbilt]

What a jerk. I have no idea why he would back out. He's obviously a coward. It's pathetic especially considering you two tiny girls have far more courage than him even though he SHOULD be more confident simply based on his size.

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

Wait, he threw punches? Report this guy to the authorities.

Your muscular friend is not a friend, he's a c.ock sucker and a p.ussy.

You guys should talk to the Hall Director or Resident Advisor about this s.hit and not take matters of this in your own hands, it will come back and bite you, what happens if this guy comes back to kill her?

[nolan]

Some guys just aren't fighters.. I you should be there to defend any girl let a lone a friend.. I'm not sure. Maybe he just hoped his size would intimidate the guy? Was this guy who she wanted out a figher? Has he ever been in a fight? I mean in fighting size is NOT everything. Trust me, experience is what counts.

I mean honestly some guys are afraid to get into conflicts I don't know what to tell you. Sorry he backed out though that's sad he left yall high and dry.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he wised up as to how he might be the guy that is called for help, but the jerk was the guy sharing the bed with the girl, which he never will be.

[Prettygurl12]

Well...that's not entirely true.

[SaltandVinegar]

wow that guy is such a p**** he could of destroyed the ex easily I mean the weight difference alone means that your big friend could keep him away from you ladies without escalating the situation. I don't know what to say but wow.

[gator909]

Size has nothing to do with fear. He was afraid.