My sister compares her boyfriend to mine. HELP?

[Anonymous]

Why is my sister always compare my boyfriend to her boyfriend. It's very annoying. I love and care about my boyfriend, he treates me very nice and makes me happy. I never actually talk about him to her, because of her attitude, but she still takes what she gets to make him look bad. I just want it to stop!

[Anonymous]

Hmm, I've done this, that doesn't mean she's trying to make him look bad, Maybe she doesn't want you to get hurt , Thats exactly what i do sometimes to my little sis, Cuz i love her more than anything in this world, so i just want her to expect anything , Just try to understand her, my sister may not understand me , But i just do not want her to get hurt the way i did, Good luck

[Asker]

I understand, but she knows he is a good guy. My parents meet him (loved him), my little sister meet him (liked him). He talked to my bigger sister on Skype (she though he was nice and collected), but every time he does something nice or even something like a little argument between us, she gets rude and offensive. Nothing he does is good.

[Asker]

When he does good, she says (my bf can do better), when we have our small arguments she says (ew, he is ugly anyways. Loser)...etc.

[Opinion Owner]

See , she knows he is a good guy, But thats it, She doesn't want you to get hurt one day,,, im sorry u may just not like what im saying, but i reallly understand her , maybe , maybe not.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok i cid t read the last thing u said, Well, I dono. Maybe she's jealous that u may be much happier than her

[Opinion Owner]

didn't read *

[halafax]

I think she is trying to show you she is grown up, and her bf is better than yours. How much younger than you is she? or is she older? Need a bit more details.

[Asker]

She is older than me. 2 years older. My bf has meet my parents, her boyfriend has not meet our parents yet. She has been dating him for 2 years, but they are not official. I been dating mine for 2 years also, but we got official one year ago... I

[halafax]

Maybe I missed something with the whole official unofficial thing.

though being together for 2 years and not being official is kind of odd. Maybe she is trying to show you that her bf is the real deal even if he won't give her the official status thing. Which honestly makes me wonder.

[Metal189]

have you asked her about it. nobody is a mind reader

[Asker]

I'm kind of scared to Ask her. She has such a strong personality and very outspoken, so I really don't know how to do it!

[Metal189]

the best way is just to say "why do you always compare your boyfriend to mine". you asked it on here, so just ask it to her. if she's an ass about it, then obviously she's not a very good sister either and you need to go to your parents then

[JohnWhilkins]

Actually a stronger person says nothing. She seems very insecure about herself. When people speak bad of others its to put them down because they're feeling threatened.