With my recent questions and looking at different girls pictures it made me want to revisit this Learning to be thankful for the skin you are in once again
I want to always restate that girls, no matter how much you think you look bad, many guys I would say 90 percent think you look better than you feel or better than how you perceive yourself.
There are guys that have strong standards that are pretty blatant about it but its not too many. Overall, guys like you and desire you more than you think.
That is just an example of a real picture. There are preferred weights and this is what I think I want to weight or what I should weight but odds are, you can be more confident than you give yourself credit for. I am not saying its not ok to go to a more healthier weight but don't drive yourself crazy trying to get down to an unreasonable weight just to make yourself feel better. Set yourself up for success. Pick a good weight and if you get below it great but aim for that weight and chose to be happy with it. Please don't look at all these fashion magazines
Girls, there is a better way. Just make reasonable choices, please don't eat rabbit food and have your hobby being exercising in your spare time. Make reasonable goals and learn to enjoy your life.
I will claim this, having a extra few pounds and enjoying your life with what you have is more valuable than being miserable and trying to go towards a goal you might not be able to achieve. Set reasonable goals for yourself but don't torture yourself to get there. Please girls enjoy life, enjoy your life! You will be a much happier person if you spend less time focusing on your body and more time focusing the things that make life worth living.
Its also, all about prospective. Check out this milk ad about a girls future self talking to her past self. In this clip, I want you to think about what you think when you look in the mirror.
Imagine your future self lifting you up. Think Positive
Take a look at this video, does this sound familiar to you.
You are not alone, change your prospective, and live happier and healthier
Another thing I want to touch on again
Girls can still be attractive without certain parts of the body standing out
My advice, know your assets
If you have a flat chest or butt then focus on something else. Wear clothes that feature something that really looks good on you.
My advice, get an employee from a clothing store to help you and find someone you are comfortable with. It might take a couple of tries to find a store employee that can be honest and fun to work with. But it would help to get an honest opinion about what look looks best on you. And you don't want a girl that will sugar coat it for you either. You want someone that can be nice but really be honest about what makes your body pop and I would even go as far as to ask "what do you think is the best area of my body?" Make her choose. Force her to choose. That way you have an honest idea of what you want to do to really make your body pop. It is a little extreme in ways to suggest that. But my whole overall idea, it is good to be honest with yourself and another girl helping to point out something that you might not have thought about or noticed would be a good thing. That is my point here
I would say, that dressing for your body shape is a start and I really liked the girl and in this video and she seemed to put it together really nicely and it seems her videos would be fun to follow too.
But overall, just learn to be happy wherever you are at in your body journey
http://www.brainybetties.com/welcome is amazing!!!!!
This is trying to sell something but just read thorough it because there are some good words in there that don't cost anything :)
I used to be RIGHT where you are RIGHT now.
I USED TO BE THIS BODY HATING, FOOD FEARING, EXERCISE OBSESSED, PERFECTIONISTIC WOMAN.
YOU’RE TRYING TO PROVE YOUR OWN WORTHINESS TO YOURSELF.
You can be a high achiever AND a perfectionist. But, they are 2 different things.
PERFECTIONISM LOOKS LIKE:
“I will finally be good enough when my body looks like that. I will finally be able to be happy then.”
“I’m sick today, but I need to get my workout in or I will feel guilty for falling further away from getting my ideal body.”
“The Halloween party at school is coming up. I better make sure I bring the most delicious, most creative cookies for the kids …I don’t want those other mom’s to think since I work full time, and am great at my job, that I not a good mom too.”
“At work, I just won the award for being the most awesome of all the awesome. But, yea that’s great, but not good enough. I will finally be able to be happy and celebrate when I win this other award…I will be good enough then.”
“I have to give this speech at work tomorrow. And my boss said it looks great, but I think it’s horrible! It’s now midnight, but I have to keep working on it. It’s just not good enough until it’s perfect….I don’t want my co-workers to think I’m not great at my job.”
“My body is tired and could use a nap. But, resting is for weak people, I need to make sure I’m being productive or I will feel lazy for not getting as much done as possible.”
BUT, WHEN YOU’RE CAUGHT IN THIS PERFECTIONISM TRAP AND PUTTING YOUR WORTHINESS IN THE HANDS OF OTHERS, IT’S A RECIPE FOR A HAMSTER WHEEL OF A LIFE.
And constantly jumping through hoops trying to prove your worthiness…
Hence why you’re exhausted…
So the answer is one you have to pay for but the symptoms and how you suffer from it are dead on. This webpage is speaking truth.
and to add to it, the answer is simple
positive thinking will always be better than faulty
That is just a simple start but speak positivity over yourself and go after reasonable goals. Learn to be healthy but it is far more important to be mentally healthy first and then physical health will follow.
I hope this was a slightly fresher take than the last and that this reaches some new gaggers that just came on the scene. Hope it helps you guys :)
Being happy helps you to be healthy, thanks for reading