Why don't girls like short guys?

I don't know how tall I am but I'm no where near 5'9. I'm probably somewhere around 5'3-5'6.

I don't understand the big deal though. I can't get taller and what if I want a tall girl? Or a girl that's average height? Why should I have to settle for a girl that's shorter than me?

I don't want to see any comments about "protection" and "security" because there are some tall guys that are cream puffs and some short guys that are cream puffs. There are tall guys who can defend themselves and their girl and short guys who can defend themselves and their girl. Height has absolutely zero to do with that.

I mean do girls think short guys can't protect them? Not only would I protect them but any girl if I saw her being abused by another guy, even if I didn't know them. Height has nothing to do with weakness. There are some weak tall guys out there. JS.

Even though I said all that I know I'll probably get stupid comments about nature and genetics. BS.
I realize I may have picked a crazy answer for most helpful. I should have waited for better answers. Honestly everyone's answers should be considered most helpful.
This was my first time asking a question. Sorry.


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  • cos they are shallow. and the taller their BF , the more they feel other men will respect them. they dont care for finding a nice guy they click with , just a tall asshat.

    • I don't think that's really very fair. Men have their preferences just like women do. Yes I prefer a tall, strong, well built bear type guy but so long as they are taller than I am and not obese I'm willing to compromise on my 'ideal' list, we all have to sometimes and we can be better off for it meeting great people.

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    • I'm a genius. :)

    • Truth be told lel

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  • i don't require my lover to take the role of bodyguard and never understood the ”protecter” thing. i have dated boys my height and i'm open to dating shorter. height doesn't matter to me. at. all.
    shorter boys turn my head just as often as those of average and taller heights.

    • ^^^^ A real girl ^^^^

  • I'm gonna make answer brief. I don't why women make such a big deal out of this, but I can see why there's so many single people in the world. Because, if height is your biggest consideration factor for dating someone. Then you need to reshift your focus.

    Also, this question as been asked on here a million times before and I don't even have to look at the women's answers, because I know what stupid ass reasons there gonna give. And, it's actually quite funny. I just have to say, there is never gonna come a day were I pair my shoes with my man. If I want to wear heels, then I'll wear heals, whether I look taller then him or not! That seriously has to be the stupidest reason, to not date someone.

    Also, I know guys who are really short and guys who are super tall. And, guys who all the heights in the middle. And, I could really care a less about there height. I like people for who they are, not how tall they are. And, I'd date someone I had a great connection or chemistry. Not because are heights are compatible. I just don't work like that.

    • The point of the heels from what other women have said is that they want to feel taller and have authority. Yet then they don't want a guy who is shorter than them. *shrugs* I mean I could get specific too, can't we all? Can't we all say so and so has to be this and that?

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    • Yeah and a tall guy has to bend down to kiss their short asses. I doubt they think about that though. Truth is unless they are the same height or close to it then there is going to be a minor or major struggle for someone in the relationship.

      Your not being mean. It is a stupid concept but society encourages such concept.

    • I suppose it does. It's actually kinda sad. I guess nobody wants to be with someone for the right reasons, they seem to want to be with them for all the wrong ones.

  • After seriously thinking about it. its just one of those "society things" because all i could come up with is it looks wierd, i wouldn't wanna have to bend to kiss my boyfriend and the feel protected thing. there is no practical reason really. its one of those "thats how its suppose to be" things. Stupid but if you're raised like that, you can't help it you just go with it.

    • Your the first girl to say anything about being raised that way. That is a factor as to why I think it's wrong. What I believe in and find attractive is not based on how I was raised yet how some girls base their attraction is how they are raised. Just like at one time whites didn't think blacks were attractive and vice versa because they were raised that way. Now of course some still don't think the other is attractive but some do because the way they were raised is different. But again there are other factors that play into why girls really want guys that are taller. Good comment though.

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    • It's stupid that you've been rejected because you don't have blonde hair and blue eyes. I wouldn't have rejected you on those alone. Your pretty.

      Yeah I do have a very specific preference but less than 2% of girls in the entire world fit it. I am very deviant and I think my attraction changes. I have a general attraction for some types but sometimes I don't want to be attracted to certain types and instead switch...idk I'm difficult. LOL!! My sexuality is always heterosexual though.

    • Maybe my levels for certain attractions change. I think that's what I'm trying to say.

  • I didn't know that. I know plenty of short men who are married. Some to tall women others married shorter. Maybe it's an age thing. Your young your dating pool is probably young also. Wisdom comes with age (so I've heard) maybe date women a little bit older. Sorry for sloppy advice I wasn't aware that this was happening to guys

    • I got it...I'll get me a MILF. LOL!! I don't even believe in dating at this point. Maybe that's a youth problem too.

    • Not wanting to date isn't a problem. At least you can go a do whatever you like. You won't come home to an interrogation. You seem to have a great sense of humor. Good luck with everything.

  • Girls like to feel protected and feminine, it's not as easy to do that looking down at a guy. Most girls prefer tall guys, at least taller than them. Women like strong, tall men that they can feel safe and sexy around :-)

    • Just because a guy is tall doesn't mean he's strong or can protect you. :(

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    • Well I don't like that mindset, but at least I'm taller than 5'2. *Shrugs*

    • See? You won't have any problems then :-) we're not all part of the '6' and over club' lol.

  • Because short guys have this 'short man syndrome' where they need to make up for their height with making their personality more eccentric. And I don't like crazy personalities.
    Also, I enjoy wearing heels and I still want to be shorter than my guy while wearing them.

    • I don't know if I'm crazy but I'm a nice person. Your right though. Some short guys be turnt up. I call that being a banty. Look that up. Banty rooster.

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    • Probably because as a short guy we have people telling us are whole life we can't fight because were to small or short, that we can't make this amount of money because were to short, people making a mockery of us often making us smaller than we are that we can't play sports and some cases dating I don't mean to sound bitter but if you kept an open mind then you can at least try to understand why us short guys feel the need to prove to people that were just as manly as any 6ft2 guy who plays quarterback try having people put you down your whole life for being shorter but I can't expect you understand that's what you call short man syndrome but it is just another word for adversity or the underdog

    • Johny Foooootbaaaaalllll!!! Russel Wilson and the Sea hawks would say differently about the sports stuff.

      And hey I don't have short man syndrome. I thought that had to do with cock size?

  • I can't tell you why girls taller then you don't want you...

    But, I can tell you why I don't want guys shorter then me...

    I'm not into little kids or midgets.

    • This was my first time asking a question on here and I stated it wrong. I'm short and can empathize with other short guys but my height has never been a problem with girls. How tall are you?

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    • I never said all "little" people are dwarfs. I didn't even use that term.

    • I also never said that if they are shorter than you that means they are a "midget"(dwarf). What I meant to say is that doctors define it as being 4'8 or shorter, having strangly dispropotioned body parts, but I should have also said that there are probably many other factors. It again is a medical condition and is unnatural. People who are shorter than you are not necessarily "dwarfs". If you mean people who are shorter than you who don't have a medical condition for being shorter than you are "little people" I can agree with that.

  • Hum, you're like 2 inches taller then me but not every girl dislikes shorter guys. Most of us want a taller, stronger guy to makes us feel protected. Sometimes there are girls who want to be the taller one and feel like the one who comforts the guy. Preference dude, it isn't always up to us, find yourself a girl who doesn't care.

    • I'm still trying to figure out what that "protected" crap means. Protection depends of one thing heart. Like I said in my question there are tall guys who are pussies and short guys who are pussies. Who's a wimp and who isn't is not determined by height. Sorry to bust you ladies bubbles but there have been many times where a short guy has beaten the crap out of a tall guy.

      Preferred (verb used with object): to set or hold before or above other persons or things in estimation; like better.

      Discrimination (noun): Treatment or consideration based on class or category rather than individual merit; partiality or prejudice.

      If you'd date a guy of any height but "prefer" tall guys then that's one thing. If you'd only date a tall guy then that's another thing.

      Your right I'm sticking with the real girls.

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    • I'm sorry. I'll try to keep my cool. Like I told the other person sometimes I see things and it's overwhelming to those who don't care or don't want to believe. I'm sure I'm taller than you but by only a few inches. I think I'm like 5'4 or something.

    • Nah it's cool, I get you. Yeah that's alright height, nothing to worry about, girls are as shallow as guys. Like I said before just try to find a girl who doesn't care about your height but your heart. :)

  • That's not true. I like tall guys, because I like hugging them around the waist, they attract me more and this has nothing to do with protection, I can protect myself. But my previous love was my height and it didn't bother me, because I loved him. You should give girls more credit and stop feeling sorry for yourself and blame just height. Girls feel that and it's not attractive.:) Good luck.

    • subconsciously it is for protection and you think you can protect yourself but not better than a man can.

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    • In other words try to win with a bad hand.

    • I want to learn martial arts one day.

  • I am around 5'3 and have dated plenty of short guys. I think it all boils down to how you present yourself. I dated this guy a couple of years ago who was 5'7 and he would constantly make comments of how short he was and how he got picked on in high school for it. If you're short, you need to own up to it. Work with what God gave you. It's not about height it's confidence in yourself is all that matters.

    • 5'7 as being short? Well I guess.

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    • Smh.

    • I'm 5'8 and I don't consider myself short! 5'7 is not short

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  • I too am a short man, and like you I have often wondered about this. However also like yourself, I have realized there is really nothing I can do about my height. I used to really worry about these sorts of things, and the best answer I can give you is to: One not worry about is so much; Two learn to relax about it; Three understand that it's kind of a numbers game, in the sense that if you are single, and looking the more you circulate the more likely it is you will find somebody who accepts you for WHO you are as opposed to how tall you are, how much money you make, if you are right or left handed etc... My point is you are more than the sum of your parts, you sound reasonably intelligent, and I'm sure there are many other qualities about you that go into making you WHO you are. I have emphasized WHO a number of times because if you think about it, this is really what makes you desirable, both as boyfriend/husband/friend material than your physical characteristics. Lastly you will, I'm sure as I have meet people who are hung up about these sorts of things, and quite frankly you are better off without those sorts of people in your life. People by in large are products of their environment, as such you have a choice on not only who you associate with, but how you interact with people, and it is from this basis that others will make decisions about you. I know my answer doesn't go into why some women like taller men, well it is a socialization issue, which can make for a whole other lecture, ultimately if the population you live in is composed of taller people and you are shorter than average (like me) then you fall out of that average (not always a bad thing) if you were say in Southeast Asia where the average height is lower then there would be less emphasis on your height. I hope this helps you and that this not so brief message finds you well. Just remember your height should not dictate how tall you are as a man ;-)

  • Im 5'2 and any gurls are kool with going down on meh =3
    I dont see why. Some gurls are shallow than the others. Just gotta meet the right person who arent. Those one are the ones who will look deep inside ur heart instead of outside ur heart if u can feel meh =}

  • This is ridiculous, physical features are important, it's simple as that, it's nature, NO ONE will go off of personality alone, even you satated you have preferences so don't be a hypocrite and hate girls that have them

    If your just going off of height and NO OTHER VARIABLES then yea a larger male has the advantage in protecting you, that's why we breed guard dogs to be big, that's why welterweights don't fight heavyweights, women don't choose men off of one sole factor alone

    • Eyyyy this cat gets it.

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    • Ayyyyy, most the girls that tell me that I ain't even trying to get with, so I be like cool

      I only need one girl to love and love me back, I ain't worried

    • Right.

  • I'm 5'4" and I've be with plenty of girls, many of whom were taller. I got told I made up for it by being muscular.

    You just gotta deal with it and not let it bother you. You can't tell people what their preferences should be and expect them to give a shit, that isn't how the world works. You remind me of fat girls who complain that men are wrong for not liking them as they are.

    • Yeah every girl I've talked to likes me. Fuck those who don't though. I just wanted to see how females try to bring logic to bull shit.

    • You don't even have to be muscular either. I already know. I'm black too yet other races of girls like me. I mean I know that. The point of the question is to again see how they bring logic to bull shit.

  • this question makes me lol in the fact that it just popped into my mind that featherweight and lightweight boxers are the ones that demostrate alpha behavior
    that females want lol

    (confidence, strength, courage, and acutal protection abilities)

    Case Closed

    basically it has nothing to xo wit height, weight etc just confidence

    • I know. Most short guys are the ones running there mouths. LOL!! I don't but a lot do.

  • Just want to point out that the difference between 5-6 and 6-0 is only 9 percent. So much fuss about nine percent.

    • The difference in person looks more than it does on paper.

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    • :/ It's crazy.

    • 9 percent can determine if you pass or not.
      9 percent can hurt you
      .1 percent can kill you

  • Height, stature is associated with masculinity and dominance, which is attractive to many women. And that, my friend, is a good thing. Well, at least in my book it is.

    The fact remains, tall guys are promoted in their careers significantly more than their shorter counterparts. They are also respected by both men and women more and, unfortunately, for short guys, they are, in most cases, seen as the archetypical male. Being taller simply gives one more opportunities. In other words, taller guys, in general, are iconic and overall more successful than shorter guys.

    Personally, I've yet once heard a kid say, "man, I wish I could grow to 5'5feet and stop growing". And by the discontent you've expressed in your post, I'm assuming you would not reject being taller either, correct?

    "Why should I have settle if I wanted a taller girl? Settle... you should not. By the same token, why should women settle for shirt guys if they are into the opposite?

    • Girls settle for tall guys. I settle for any height of girls. Again there have been taller girls that really think I'm attractive. I said me but I meant short guys in general.

      I don't care anymore. It just shows the real from the fake and you haven't said anything I don't know. I'm just pointing out the discrimination.

      Racism is good to have as well. I mean whites are superior to blacks.

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    • That may be, but still, there are girls out there that would date you. Attractive girls. I never said the process will be easy.

    • I was talking to the girl under our comments but yeah man I know. I ain't mad or nothing. I'm straight.

  • It is culturally dictated.
    Men are "supposed" to be taller than women.
    Look at our movies or cartoons: the men are huge in comparison to the women. The only time when a couple is depicted as tall woman/short man is for comedic effect.

    It is funny because it "isn't supposed to be that way".

    There is a biological aspect of tall being a sign of health and wealth as well but to be honest we live in times where those things aren't that important anymore.

    We are programmed this way. By culture. By media.

    Being fat was once a sign of health and wealth, now it is a sign of poverty and being unhealthy.

    Being tan was once a sign of poverty, now it means you are healthy.

    Really frustrating and silly in case you are a short guy, for sure.
    But what doesn't help is whining about it. I mean: "I usually don't date short guys but because he said that I was a stuck up superficial bitch if I wouldn't, we are now together" said no woman ever.

    • oh my goodness preach brother!!!
      i wish i could that mentality. for me alone honestly.

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    • Then why are you complaining?

    • Empathy.

  • It's mostly because women are programmed by images and the media. Supposedly a taller guy is more able to protect them, which we all know is not true.

    Don't listen to the women saying that the same thing applies to men wanting women who aren't overweight as that's something an extent that can be changed unlike height. Also don't listen to girls saying shorter guys have insecurity issues as they're the reason why shorter guys have them.

    It sounds difficult but make your height become less important by bringing your personality to attention.

    • Yeah but the key to that is to only stick with girls who are unshallow.

    • If they are unshallow then you don't even have to bring personality to it.

  • Why should you have to settle for a girl that's shorter than you?

    Why you should a girl have to settle for a guy that's shorter than her?

    • (Ignore the "you" in the second question)

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    • And some people given a royal flush to start the game, where as others are given trash cards. Make it work.

    • You right bruh. Thanks.

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