Is Innocence Cute?

Question

I'm so innocent when it comes to being intimate. I'm 16 and I haven't had my first kiss yet. I haven't even had anything that  could be considered a real relationship and I was wondering if this is attractive or unattractive.  I mean we all have to start somewhere and I'm not a complete idiot when it comes to talking to guys and I've held hands and done the usual little things but I kind of get nervous thinking about how I'm going to act with kissing. Do guys want more experienced girls when it comes to intimacy, or would they have no problem taking a girls first kiss?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This happened to me a while ago.. I do recommend you ket this guy know.. I did not have the for sight & it was really awkward. The guy I was with I think thought I was waaaayy more experienced then I am. He really kind of kissed me like we were already really in the thro's of passion. I was not even expecting him to kiss me, much less have someone stick there tongue down my throat.

We wee just walking home & I thought he wanted to be alone because he kept asking me how much longer would walk... Well when I turned to go he grabbed my hand swung me around and he barely looked in my eyes before his tongue was down my throat.

I was so shocked I think I just forgot to do anything. I remember that his hand was around my back & another around my waist which was sweet. However the kiss was a little too intense. I think he was a little nervous too.

I kind of wish I had the chance to 'expect' it a little... I did not think it would be such a big deal but a real full kiss is pretty invasive & there is something akin to loosing something else you might loose.

Well it was really awkward & truly having someones tongue in your mouth is weird for someone not used to it. .. He thought that I did not like it. I had to explain it to him or come up with another excuse.. I told him I had not had many rather then never kissed but still it got the point across. He kissed me differently after that. Still pretty full but at least I feel I can feel it more distinctly... I am still getting used to it but I really like it now. I am sure if he let me know he was going to kiss me, like looked into y eyes or something,i probably could have figured out a style even without telling him anything...

So I guess you should either let him know you don't like being surprised, or just tell him you have never kissed anyone... I wish I did.

Oh, but he has no problem with it. I am basically getting all of my first hand experience from him, I do not know if he is like this with other people but he seems to look forward to the intimate part of our relationship.. I kind of like having him show me stuff, tho I a used to being the mature one in situations so its a little weird.

We kiss a lot & I am getting better - at least more comfortable. I can kiss him now without waiting for him top kiss me, {WEll if we are already being intimate}

If a guy likes you & you & you do not have prior experience, think am sure he will be honored to be your first kiss. for your own enjoyment , I would agree with you letting him know.

Good Luck! - Keep me posted :-)

timetofly2010 · Accepted Answer

im 18 and haven't had my first kiss yet...i am definitely waiting for a really good guy to come along. but anyway I asked that question to my friends and from what they say/what is most likely to happen is that you probably would have told him that youve never kissed anyone and when the time comes he will know that youve never done it. I can't really imagine what would happen if the guy didn't know that youve never kissed anyone and he went for it? most guys like knowing that a girl hasn't been around with other guys and they would feel honored to be the one to kiss you first. plus there is no tension because he knows that your not going to judge him...unless he's a drooling slob.

but when you do kiss you should use your hands, run them through his hair, etc.

i am pretty sure that when it happens you will be fine, you might feel nervous but you'll soon realize that kissing helps you relax.

and innocent is cute unless its annoying and obnoxious

good luck! :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I had my first kiss when I was like 13, and it was just a peck...then I didn't kiss anyone again until I was 18 which is when I really made out and got into it.  Honestly the first time I thought it was kinda gross but now I love it.  I had read all the how tos and techniques but when it all comes down to it, it just happens and instinct takes over.  Don't be in a rush it doesn't mean anything bad about you at all.  Just don't stiffen up, and  that's my only advice to you.  You need to be comfortable with the guy first though and make sure you're alone that way you won't feel judged.

computerguy91 · Accepted Answer

Personally, I prefer innocence. It's much less stressful in new relationships. When a girl is really experienced, they have certain expectations and get patient if you go too slowly. I also don't like the feeling that I'm making out with someone who has made out with 100 other guys. It's much more romantic when it's one of her first kisses. I'd feel very special to be her first kiss and would love having the opportunity to make it special and romantic for us.

There's something just completely adorable about a girl who has never been kissed before. I'd really enjoy taking it slowly and helping her become more comfortable intimately. I remember when I was there and it would be a nice change from some of the sluts I've mistakenly gone out with.

Anyways, I hope you find a nice guy that realizes what a special opportunity he has and treats you properly :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Try not to worry about it, kissing someone new for the first time always keeps someone on their toes. Even a girl who has made out with every guy in the town, but still be bad at kissing, and a girl who has never made out ever could be better at kissing. Also if a guy knows you have never kissed someone its kinda nice to know so we don't expect anything good. If it is good it makes it better, and if its not, just gives us guys to have an excuse to kiss you more, for practice ;)

and if a girl is experienced kissing, she could essentially be a better kisser than the virgin kisser. but in a guys eyes is worse because he expects more from her. For me personally I would feel honored if I was a girls first kiss, than a girls 231412 kiss. more romantic wouldn't you think?

And-Once-I-Was-Human · Answer

I think it's cute. you're right when you say everyone has to start somewhere, and I would be fine easing into things so that she's feeling comfortable with everything. it's also kind of nice because the guy could feel like he could 'teach' you and it would be easier to show you what kinds of things he likes and also the fact that it might put his mind at ease that you won't be trying to compare him to a past experience

Anonymous · Answer

guys usually think it's cute and I'm already 19 so yeah I wonder when it stops being cute or if it always is :) I'm not even nervous about it if it were to happen because I don't think there would be much to it. everyone has there first kiss and I'm almost positive natural instinct takes care of eveything.

usrnayme · Answer

innocence is cuter when it comes to it, the more experinced girls they act all stressed out with a relationship and have high expitation for how a guy should act and think..

SergeantPain · Answer

we I'm about 2 b 17 and I've had my fair share of kisses but either way if your close enough to that person to kiss them go for it and don't think about it. if it was bad o well you got more times and no1 is perfect so practice will be needed

Narcist · Answer

Innocence is (in my opinion) a very good thing, it is both a turn on and and special for a guy to hear "you're my first kiss".  Simply put, yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell yea it is, I'm 21 and I wish I could find an innocent 21 year old female that hasn't let half of the neighborhood see her goodies so trust me a good guy would cherish and appreciate it especially at that age

Anonymous · Answer

Ahahaa don't worry about it. From my experience, and I was almost nineteen, mind you-- They don't care much. :) Sometimes they even think it's sweet.

EddyMetal · Answer

I would prefer experience, but I know I'm in the minority. Most like the innocent ones.

Anonymous · Answer

i had it when I turnd 14. and I was worrying about it. but its not a big deal at all. TRUST ME! you will get nervous though lol

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