Would getting a boob job change your views on a girl?

Question

I'm happy with my body in general but I'd be lying if I said I don't have a problem with my boobs or lack thereof. I'm basically flat chested (32 A/30B) and it bothers me. I've been told not to get a boob job by several people because it 'sends the wrong message' about my personality, even though I'm not shallow at all. I'm majoring in engineering, I have friends and a little sister I look after, I'm not sitting on my ass all day putting on makeup and posting selfies on Instagram. Which is why I think they're wrong, but I want to hear it from strangers.

Kimosabe · Accepted Answer

One of the most profoundly sexy and non-sexual attractive qualities a woman can ever have is being comfortable in her own skin; being who she is and being in synch with herself. When I meet someone who's had their appearance rearranged because they couldn't live with the way they look, I see insecurity. I'm not talking here about gross disfigurement, but common garden variety cosmetic surgery. I love a girl who knows that everyone looks different, and pulls it off by the way they relate to themselves and the people around them. People like that make me want to be around them, because they help me be more in synch with myself and my unique gifts. They understand what joy is, and where it comes from. I'd invest more energy in developing your personal values and your strength of personality (which will sharpen, not erode with age), and less on stuffing your boobies with synthetic goo. Just me, though.

by the way, don't know if the pics are you or another example, but the unenhanced girl looks wonderful to me.

guy532 · Accepted Answer

One of my closest female friend got one, I was happy for her and it didn't change my opinion about her at all. It was funny when I found out about it. I hadn't seen her for like 2 months because it was the holidays and we went home to visit etc. She didn't tell anyone about it and when she came over I didn't notice right away. After a few minutes though I finally realised that her boobs were bigger and I asked her and she told me she got a boob job but didn't want to tell anyone. I just kept staring at them and told her to get used to it because I wasn't going to stop.

misstalia_95 · Accepted Answer

Girl, it's your body and you can do whatever you want with it. It's great that you're working and doing something with your life but you do not EVER need to justify a boob job. Nowadays people hear "boob job" and they just envision huge tits that look like two basketballs. It's ridiculous. I got my boobs done when I was 19 (went up two cup sizes to a DD) and literally hardly anyone could tell. And those friends I did tell, were just like "well good for you, you look amazing". The best advice I can give you on this is 1) make sure you find a very good BOARD CERTIFIED doctor 2) do it for YOU and you only, surgery is serious and not something you want to do to impress someone 3) don't give a flying f*** what people say.

Bleh-___- · Accepted Answer

Honestly, you get a skilled surgeon and go for a natural size and no one will even be able to tell that you've had a boob job. The guys who say that all boob jobs are terrible - they probably came face to face with someone with a breast aug at some point in their life and didn't even know it.
You have other things going on in your life which shows you aren't preoccupied with your appearance. If you want to, go for it. I wouldn't think any less of the person under those conditions.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ok but there's is nothing wrong with sitting on your ass all day putting on makeup and posting selfies on Instagram. That's the shit I hate! If you wanna get your boobs done go get them but there's no need to address no one else lifestyle to say yours is better. You're just doing exactly what you don't want other people to do to you.

Elarra · Accepted Answer

It doesn't change my view point on them as a person. But I will say that unless there's no medical reason for it to be done then they're decision is extremely shallow and vain. But that doesn't make them a bad person. Just proves they're not confident about something. Everyone is self conscious about SOMETHING.

CarpX · Answer

I haven't felt a pair of implants yet that I enjoyed, so it would change my how I feel about them.

32A/30A is not "basically flat chested." It just means that you have a thin frame with smallER (but likely proportional) breasts. Personally, I think A's and B's are great. So, unless you have "empty sock" breast and want to get just enough to give them some filling (one of the few cases where I can understand it), I wouldn't recommend getting implants.

That said, it's your body and you have to be happy with yourself. So, I wouldn't think badly of you... unless you go porn star big.

Actually, on that last point, I do think that the amount of implant that one can get and have them look good/natural is proportional to the starting size. If you're a 32A/30B now, then don't go bigger than a C.

histiletto · Answer

Our whole social system is based on others trying to tell us what they like and don't like and we should follow their perspective. Individuality isn't based on how others live their lives, it how you live your life. Things may happen to us and there will be things to deal with, but we grow by the choices we make and work out. That song by Paul Anka called "My Way" should be more of a creed for each person to use in planning their life's remembrances. So live your own life, and others will find a way it live theirs or they can ask you how they do it. Even perfect people have struggles to be better.

gmanhotman · Answer

I think initially it would be taken poorly by some people but after you explain that if u really want it and etc and it helps ur confidence those who stay will be great friends and family. And or boyfriend. Personly I could understand but anything bigger than a C cup starts getting a little big. I assume when girls get implants they want to look and feel beter about themselves you can have a great look and curves without watermelons on ur chest which will prob give u back problems in the future. Long story short not a prob if u do do it bUT make sure u want it and don't go to be and do some research.

Anonymous · Answer

It sends the wrong message because you're spending so much money on surgery just to get a bigger pair of fake boobs to attract more sexual attention from men. Whether you say it's just for you, that you're majoring in engineering, not taking selfies and all that, that's the impression it gives to people and you won't be able to change that.

If you're good looking, in shape and you have a great personality not having big boobs won't make a difference. It also sends the message that you're massively insecure, which is a negative thing in itself. Many people who have plastic surgery like that can still end up not being happy afterwards because the reason they had the surgery in the first place is because they're so insecure and obsessive over their appearance and what they see as flaws.

Silver158 · Answer

I would think she was shallow and obsessed with her appearance, has insecurities etc. Dated a girl years ago that had her lips done about a year ago I still found her attractive up until that point. Now I wouldn't go near her apart from in a friend capacity.

That being said, back to the boobs, Sometimes they look okay, like if the girl had reasonable sized boobs to start with and the implants don't add much size but mostly just sort of perk them up, then it looks fine. But if a girl is kinda flat chested to A cup and she gets massive implants it just ends up looking like she's just had 2 basketballs attached to her chest.

Also regardless of looks it doesn't feel right in your hands in any way at all. Just feels off.

godfatherfan · Answer

Do women really care that much about tits? Sure they are nice but most guys don't put much thought into them.
The guys I know pretty much agree that if a woman has so little self worth that she needs big tits to make her happy? then that is not a woman you want to get involved with.

Xx_DeeDee_xX · Answer

And I'm here wishing to have smaller boobs just cause I don't wanna wear a bra during the heat LOL! But anyways, you can get a boob job just be careful though. I know someone who gotten a boob job then had a bad allergic reaction to them and had to remove them. Some girls look a little odd with bigger boobs, but if you feel that insecure about your boobs being small.. I guess you could get them done. If that's what you wanted.

DonkeyRick69 · Answer

As a man of rather have the flat chest than the fake tits. I've been with a couple of chicks with fake ones, they don't look or feel natural or sexy and then there's the scar tissue.

madhatters4 · Answer

i have to admit i have a negative association with breast implants a major reason being that i just don't like enhanced breasts compared to natural. the feel and shape are just different and not as attractive in my opinion

i don't necessarily have a negative impression of the person as i know everyone has their reasons. i just prefer natural breasts

Anticipation · Answer

You have sexy nice breasts'. They are going to remain perky and firm into your 40's and 50's.

I you have kids they will mature into B and C cups.

If your breasts' feel aroused and sexy, your nipples hard, erect and need to be sucked on during intimacy,, why compromise the natural feeling,, flaunt them when you are wearing an even gown or when you are naked and with your man.

Stimulates my mind thinking about how sexy your breasts really are.

FemWorship · Answer

A
but also they don't feel the same, as good to either party
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smaller = more stylish clothes, cleavage w/o being x-rated and allowed to be more flirty and cock teaser w/o so many consequences from others

You'll get more men of your type by staying natural and more open to their advances... that you flirt out of them

Later on realize men keep one giving good sex/Bjs longer than big boobies

akadatank44 · Answer

I think she wasn't happy with her natural ones. That said if you do it. Don't go massive THAT sends the wrong message. Go for a more natural look. And also do it for yourself and not for us guys. If you don't do it, be happy either way as well because lots of girls look great with small breasts.

Nice_Guy_Last · Answer

Consider the medical implications:

A: With heavier breasts, your spine will have more stress on it. Especially with larger boobs, women tend to have more back problems later on in life. Also, running becomes more of a hassle.

B: Breast implants are linked to higher risk for breast cancer, as well as a specific kind of breast cancer that only affects women with implants that is much more aggressive.

capturemyheartnow · Answer

If your self esteem and confidence is low because of your insufficient boob size , please go ahead an get the needful boob job done. There is nothing wrong in doing so. Sometimes you don't get a good sized body naturally , and medical intervention can help you to achieve what you lack. Don't listen to a few people who try to bring you down. Their nature will not help you. So you should help yourself.

zeke0019 · Answer

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that she's shallow as shit but it'd change my view on her. I'd think she has some issues with her body that she needs to work out. For my own personal preference I don't like boob jobs. They look weird and they feel different. Even a smaller size is way better.

Anonymous · Answer

When I see women who've obviously had breast enhancement done, it's nearly always pictures on the Internet or other media and done to the extreme of having gravity-defying globes. Those aren't fooling anyone and perhaps do stigmatize breast enhancement in the way you suggest.

But most aren't like that. No one will know unless you want them to know and, by then, they'll already know you're not shallow.

Shaft50 · Answer

It's going to be your choice in the end... it's your body and you have your reasons. I could say that there is no wrong reason, but I would be lying. But my opinion on it is that I have known several girls who have had theirs done for various reasons and I never thought of them as shallow...

Wulfila · Answer

For me, my initial thought would be that the woman cares too much about her appearance.

I mean, it's one thing to lose / gain weight, tan, build muscle, change hair styles / lengths, dye hair, wax, etc. to help your self-esteem, but it's a whole other league to surgically implant visible foreign objects into your body for that same end. Just my two cents.

sawno · Answer

I find it ugly, i rather have a girl with small boobs then with fake boobs. Natural is beauty everything else is generally non proportional. But then again i seem to be attracted to smaller fitting boobs then huge ones.

Fancygoldfish · Answer

Her breasts were not small to begin with so why lose all that sensitivity in breasts and nipples from surgery? Also, there's probably implications for breast-feeding if she ever wants children and to breast-feed them.

Alessus · Answer

I regard every one who undertakes a 'beatification' surgery of any kind to be a person who is, for one reason or another, unsatisfied with their body. So, no I don't think getting a boob job automatically makes you shallow.

Underduress · Answer

Boob jobs just look bad and look fake and they will make you look fake. You are majoring in engineering; how do you have time to think about this boob nonsense anyways?

GabrielJassim1 · Answer

i think if she is willing to go through surgery to make hersrlf more noticed and to get more attention then its just wrong you should be getting attention because you are who you are. if she is doing because its what she truly wants and she doesn't care about being noticed then i guess its fair

taleets · Answer

honestly the stigma around plastic surgery is so dumb lol. i'm getting my ass done in a couple weeks because i want to. who cares? it's your body your life and it it makes you insecure then fix it.

ddawggedy · Answer

Just do what ever makes you happy. If it makes you feel more confident and better about yourself than do it. If you look at some of the polls on here you will see that many men don't care too much about breast size, and in fact many prefer smaller breasts. The one thing I would not recommend is making a huge jump up in size. For me at least, a large turn off is huge unnatural looking boobs.

Abraham1231 · Answer

Comparing Kylie Jenner is not a good idea. She literally changed every prt of her body, that could possibly attract males.  1. Her hips 2. Her ass 3. Her entire face 4. Her boobs 5. Her waist

Babycarrot · Answer

I don't know about guys, but if it makes you feel better you should do it, we don't judge people that grt braces even tho they're teeth are fine, but look crooked. ❤️❤️

DizzyAster · Answer

I'm against boob job, but I think you need to do things in life that make you happy.

If getting it will make you happy in the long term than do it.

Just remember how you present yourself is who you'll attract.

vishna · Answer

Not if she was my friend-I'd wish she was more confident in her natural body but would I look down on her-no way.

Lopezz1999 · Answer

Nope. Just like how women put on makeup, a boobjob is just for physical enhancements of her own self.

Totally_A_Dude · Answer

Personally, I prefer smaller breasts in general. It is your body, your decision. Just do it for the right reason. Do it for yourself or not at all. Remember that you are beautiful the way you are.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I want a girl to be happy with her physical appearance I just tell her that she can get the boob job but no matter what i love her the way she looks. With or Without a boob job.

RiceCrust · Answer

Yes, but I wouldn't think she's shallow. I would think about how she must've been a insecure person and if that would be shocking to me or not.

Yumix · Answer

Yes, and not only for the mentioned personality reasons. It's also a downgrade in my opinion, I rather have my girlfriend have small natural boobs than big fake ones. Big boobs are nice, but that doesn't mean that any kind of big boobs are nice.

Giacomanzo · Answer

Yes, but not for the same reasons you think. Any kind of plastic surgery is honestly very visually unappealing for me.
To be even more specific, I can't masturbate do enchanced boobs or lips. Huge visual turn off.

raspberry0416 · Answer

You should do it, but make sure it looks natural. So basically get a boob job to look like you were born with bigger breasts, not look like you went and got a boob job.

knight_55 · Answer

Fake is never worth it. It's a major turn-off. Men like women who are comfortable in their own skin. Many men don't care about boob size but upon how good the girl is.

JustCallMeLeon · Answer

Follow your dream. Why not change something you CAN? You come always first. And personally i like a pair of big fake round firm tits. Go for it. Fk the world.

Sluthater · Answer

When it happens during a marriage its the "Kiss of Death". Every woman who had one that I know ended up cheating on or leaving their husband.

cunningwolf22 · Answer

don't give a fuck to those who judging u about Ur boobs. do whatever make u happy. n ya don't seat on ass for make up. it's fake. I like Ur confidence babe.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't like the idea of fake breasts. Plus I actually like and prefer your current size. I think it is very hot. If you are petite and short I bet you look really cute and pretty.

i_love_stars · Answer

It's your body, which you can change for your liking.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a guy so I'm never getting a boob job but even if I did, I don't know how it's supposed to change my views on some girl. :P

catelyntje · Answer

No, I'd just think she was upset with something and decided to change it

ImATragedyNow · Answer

I think if it'll make you happy then do it you do you live your life how you want to live it

omykb1_one · Answer

you are fine.. not all guys care for their dates to have DD's

Z-Spark · Answer

unless she has the same kind of boobs as men aka flat chest then i dont see why she needs a boob job

Stamps · Answer

To me it's a definite turn-off. You can care about your physical appearance, but that much...

Anonymous · Answer

No I'd probably like it lol. As far as personality goes though it wouldn't make me look down on you it's your life not mine.

Anonymous · Answer

Saying it's shallow is kinda like saying guys that work out to get bigger muscles are shallow, which people do, but not as much

COCOCHANEL · Answer

i wouldn't assume that she was shallow

Chico_brah · Answer

It would just make me more attracted to her lol

Anonymous · Answer

When i wear my padded bras guys like it

james_mark · Answer

Been with a girl your size it's not biggie.

thedesperado12 · Answer

no it won't matter to me

Nahid1234 · Answer

Not for me. ☺️💕

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