Regardless of what women say, height IS one of the most important factors!

Question

Forget having a handsome mug or a face of a pretty boy. If you are short, girls will not notice you *as easily* as if you were a 6 foot giant. Guys who are cute and short have to work much harder to get a girl to notice him than a guy that is cute and tall (which makes him hot). Being a man of short stature 5'7, and a good face, I definitely don't stand out in a crowd. But if I go talk to a girl she notices my face and cha ching.

So I've revised my list of what women want accordingly:

1. Height

2. Good face

3. Nice body

4. Money

5. Social status

6. Personality (coming in dead last)

Am I not wrong?

The-All-Star · Accepted Answer

Dude you've totally missed it... you've got it right but the list is wrong.

What I mean is that personality does come first and you've proved the point in your post.

What are women attracted to personality wise? Confidence, optimism, funny, fun and so on.

Now you say that you get the chicks when you go talk to a girl and she notices your face, WRONG, she doesn't notice your face (first) she notices that you have the BALLS to walk up to her, even though your 'physically challenged'. If you had a nice face and you walked up to her like a p**** (signs of nervousness, awkward tension) then nothing is going to work, even your so called 'good face' (gosh, I hope there's more to you than your face)

You can get girls with that face, but later that face is going to age and wrinkle, then what are you going to do? You've rely on your face for your confidence to approach women, but that means when you lose it, you're going to lose all that confidence.

Personality is what women rate to be most attractive even if they don't know it. It doesn't matter how he looks, if he can make her feel special and good about herself nobody else can, nothing else will matter.

Now I don't disregard looks totally, I agree it's on the list. It's just not first, maybe second.. or somewhere down the bottom.

Buddy, I don't want you to go through life thinking looks is top matter, if you concentrate on looks, your height is only going to hinder you if your think it does. If you don't take time to master your emotions, your mind, self beliefs. You'll see the world only through your eyes and you'll feel nothing, nothing meaningful, no deeper meanings.

Not too long ago I was just like you, I had all sorts of physical features I wasn't entirely happy about. And so I spent most of my time unhappy and working on my appearance. I had enough and realized that it wasn't my appearance that was the problem, it was me. I got my internal issues sorted out and I was even more dedicated to changing how I thought of myself.

My life has never been better. - "Your world is only the projection of your mind"

Cartiphilus · Accepted Answer

Have any of you girls ever seen a movie with Dustin Hoffman? Hoffman is is drag and Lange is spewing all this crap about how she'd love a guy to just be honest and say a certain few words to her and she would go weak at the knees. So Hoffman, out of drag, gets his opportunity and says the exact words Lange wants to hear. What does Lange do? She gets p*ssed and throws her drink in his face.

What is the moral of my answer? Girls say one thing and do the exact opposite. All these girls here, for this question, are saying, "Oh, that's not true! A guy's height is not so important. It's confidence and personality that matters." Yet unless they're (the girls) are breaking their necks looking up, trying to keep the sun out of their eyes, there just isn't any, at all, interest in a guy. Some girls, though, have the estrogen to go out with and love a shorter guy than them so I can't stereotype. It's the general rule though, that unless the's 5'9' or 10 feet tall, he just doesn't register on the richter scale to a girl.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Are you serious?! LOL! That is too funny! The majority of women will pick personality over looks(height include) any day! Just look around you. If I had a dollar for every time I saw a gorgeous woman with a man who was less then attractive or in some cases, down right fugly without a dime to their name, I'd have more money then Bill Gates.

You've said a few times in some of the women's posts that you are a good looking guy but you aren't even considered because of your height. Did it ever occur to you that women want nothing to do with you because of your personality? Just read all of your comments and you'll see that you are a very angry, bitter person and no one in their right mind wants to be with someone like that no matter how good looking or how tall they are.

Also, if you're complaining about some of these things that you claim women want so much, how do you explain what men want in women? Most men won't even take a woman's personality into consideration unless she has every single thing he wants on the outside. Let me guess? That's acceptable? I don't think so.

Like it or not my dear, personality is the first thing women look for in a man and my family is living proof of that. Both the women and men in my family are short. The tallest man is probably 5'8" and they never had any problems in this department so my suggestion to you is to work on your personality because that's what your main problem is.

Justmean · Accepted Answer

height,body,personality,A job.

I don't want his money I just want someone at least has a life,not a lazy guy.

My friend of 4 years who is a guy 21y.o and has only little things but lots of girls are in love with him

1-THE nicest personality 2- height. 3- an amazing green eyes 4- great body 5- a job " not a millionaire " very normal guy.

LOts of girls like him waaay so much because he is a very understanding person.very serious person,honest,direct,What I say about him won't be a real description.

What I hate about him is " he goes to bars,drinks,That's the only bad things about him".

You guys can't understand the real things that most girls want.

We don't want money,if we liked someone then we like him,it doesn't matter how he height or however he looks like,the important thing is that we like him with his bad and good things.

And you always complain about us running after looks and other stuff.

WELL!

You too run after the same things looks,body,hair,eyes,face,skin.

Well we both are similar,aren't we?Oo

Alpha5 · Accepted Answer

Personally, most of the more attractive men are shorter. Don't believe me, check the heights of male celebs. I'm 5'7 1/2, my exhusand is 5'5". (Great things can come in small packages.) Most of the men I've dated were "short" in that they were below 6'1". I asked my ex once about my height and his response was "we're the same height between the sheets". I agreed. :-) However, it is worth noting that there are plenty of men who are very insecure about dating taller women. So, even if a woman is open to dating shorter men, she can't be sure of how the height difference would make him feel. Even if they're not intending to be mean, men can make comments about "bigness" which make a woman feel insecure.

For me, personality is number one. And honestly, THESE DAY, height/weight is number 3. I have to admit that I do enjoy laying my head on an ample chest. It's hard to go from a large chested man, to a guy who's chest makes your head feel HUGE. But, if I met Mr. Right, and he happened to be my height, I wouldn't hold it against him.

Krisification · Answer

I'd like to contribute something here as well, but The-All-Star dude said it all. :)

Seriously, if you walk up to a girl thinking that you are bad looking, short and other negative thoughts, then you'll most surely will get blown out.

There's nothing more attractive to girls than when you walk up with confidence and don't care about what others might think.

My one advice for you would be to simply not even think about your looks. If you're funny and interesting, then girsl will have more than a reason sufficient to talk to you and be attracted.

All girls know that someday that good look on her face will disappear, that's why when different guys compliment her on her looks, are still blown away.(or if she acts polite and says thanks, that guy still doesn't stand a chance, unless he changes his game)

Women doesn't strive to find someone necessarily good looking, they want someone who understands them and make her feel positive emotions.

If you want to step forward, then you should clear your negative emotions. Simply, whenever you feel one, just try thinking that that isn't a part of you, that you want to change and finally try covering it up with good ones. Concentrate more on the good things, I'm sure there's plenty of interesting things about you. :)

And lastly, if you still feel insecure and don't know how to change, here's a link about a guy's blog a friend provided me, he's short and fat, but still manages to get the hottest girls.

link

EldaMaria · Answer

General appearance comes first, because let's admit that you can't tell someones personality when you see them for the first time. However, this is not the final say; because I have had men I thought were gorgeous who became quite ugly to me in a short period of time, as well as guys who I thought were unattractive, became very attractive because of their personality. Good looks are always a help, but my girlfriend and I find that what she finds attractive I find repulsive, and vise versa. I personally don't like tall men, it is too awkward kissing, hugging, as well as sex. I like to be face to face with my guy. I am 5'7" and I have dated shorter as well as up to 6 feet. But I prefer a guy that is between 5'7" and 5'10". Personality will win out over most physical characteristics; however whatever it is that makes one person attracted to another (chemistry) is either there or not. I've had experiences with really handsome nice guys who I have had no chemistry with at all...thought they were gorgeous, liked them, they were sweet/funny...but they might as well have been my brother. On the other hand I've had guys that look like gorillas and I have found an intense physical attraction to them. I don't know why...but it's true! So, I think the list should go like this:

general attractiveness (to the person)

personality

physical health

social status

money

height

cavs4life · Answer

If you are really worried about height dude, you are really over analyzing girls... The only girls I've seem to notice that care about height are taller girls. Now unless you want a girl who is 6 1 or 6 2, then you can be worried... but for the average height girl I am pretty sure they really don't care THAT much.  The only reason that a little taller is a good thing is that it makes the girls feel smaller, and feel more secure. But if you are a tough dude, or w/e they won't care.

gothicbabe253 · Answer

I don't give a sh*t about money. I won't date a guy with a lot of money because I grew up in a house that was falling apart and there for I know I can live without a lot of money. Just enough for the things I really need (not want). Now though I live in a better house and I want to send as much money as I can to the people that don't have a home and things like that. For me the only things that matter is 1) a guys personality 2) a guy that's not over weight.

Whats the list for guys?

1) Boobs?

2) Ass?

3) Face?

4) Body?

5) Money?

6) Personality? Social Status?

I'm not being sexist it's a question. You made one for the chicks so I half ass made one for the guys lol. But their all questions

TOXiCLOV3 · Answer

you are VERY wrong! I admit, I have always loved taller guys until I dated a guy the same height as me 5'7.. Then I grew to be okay with it because I loved him. Then to say we got divorced and I met this guy that is "OMG the sexiest guy I have ever seen in my life!" and he is about 5'5 to 5'6 so yeah he is like the f***ing sexiest guy I have ever seen regardless of his height! that is the least of my concerns! The things I love about him in order...

1.Nice Body

2.Good Face

3.Personality

4.Social Status

5.Money

6.Height

P.s. I have learned with this guy "It is way easier to f*** a guy a few inches shorter standing up and it don't hurt your legs so bad in a cramping way! ha ha :) (too much info right?) that was just another plus tho! )

NiceGuysDoFinishLast · Answer

THANK YOU! I Agree 100% and it is so messed up. I see some of the biggest losers with the best girls just because theyre tall.

I read the best answer, and I think maybe that only goes into effect when were talking about the late 20's+. I have the same age group as the author and I can think of evidence to support his entire list. YOUNGER GIRLS ARE SUPERFICIAL!

secondbestkiller · Answer

Your list is wrong, at least for me. But you have a point, height IS somewhat important. It's not a huge factor, but I probably wouldn't be attracted to a guy significantly shorter than me (I'm 5'4", so no one less than 5'3" or so). But it's not like I care much about their height. Also, personality is definitely NOT last. Here's my list:

1. Personality

2. Good face

3. Nice body (I actually don't care much, as long as they're not overly muscular or obese)

4. Height (I consider this kind of part of having a nice body, but as long as they're my height or taller it's all good)

5. Social status

6. Money

But 5'7" doesn't seem that short anyway...

nermalinda · Answer

I'm 5'5". I like for a guy to be taller than me. I would say 5'7" at the shortest. But I honestly do NOT like it when guys are too tall! 6' is my absolute cap, and my ideal height on a guy is 5'10". I just hate having to crane my neck to look at him.

I like a guy to have nice eyes and hair and a nice body. But if his personality isn't all that, I won't be interested to begin with.

I'm not sure what you mean by social status. I'm an introvert so it's not like I look for some uber popular guy who's a social butterfly or anything.

I don't want a broke ass scrub guy, but I find I can't relate to most people who are really into business, entrepreneurship, or making lots of money. It's way more important to me that a guy does something he enjoys and can pay his bills.

Anyways, that's just me, and I don't claim to be typical but there's my two cents.

Starsinthesky · Answer

No. This is totally wrong. I'm 5'10 and so the only problem I'd have with dating a shorter guy would be being scared that he'll feel uncomfortable always having to look up and me if I'm standing up, and also kissing might be a little awkward if we're standing up, but I'd get over it. Sometimes a taller guy catches my eye quicker because I don't live my life staring downwards, but whatever.

My version of your list :

1. Personality

2. Face / Body

3. Height

4. Social Status or Money because I don't care about either.

ape47ril · Answer

the fact that you seem to have an overall impression of girls being completely shallow probably doesn't play too much into your favor either. that being said, I'll admit I like tall guys, but it's in no way a deal breaker. and being 5' nothing, it's doesn't take much for a guy to be tall for me, your 5'6 is already plently tall. though from what you said about putting yourself out there and, "chaching?" I really don't see why you'd care. there's a lot of bitterness in your observation for someone who doesn't have a problem scoring.

thisislifebaby · Answer

I'm not even 5'6 when I wear my highest heels :P personally I think shorter guys go with shorter girls other wise it just seems weird I suppose for me it goes:

1. Face

2. Personality

3. Not being overweight

4. height doesn't really matter because pretty much all guys are taller then me I'm 5'1

Once I get to know a guy and he has a really good personality he will become more attractive to me but to be honest I am more inclined to want to get to know a guy with a good face, but as for the money thing I never really got that if you like someone you like them no matter what kind of money they make.

Birdsofprey · Answer

I'm 5 foot & don't like to date men shorter than me, though I would if I felt a connection. However, I there is no guy shorter than me, so I never run into this issue. For me, men can be too tall. I once got set up on a blind date with a guy who was 6'11. I felt so short next to him, & I found it a turn off. I prefer to date guys between the height of: 5'4 - 6'3. As far as what you think is important to women, let me tell you the real list.

1) RESPECT

2) Personality

3) Confidence

4) Looks

We don't all feel this way, but if a guy has these, I'll go for him. And before you say anything about #4, know all women have their own taste, & consider different men good looking. I'm not looking for Brad Pitt, I'm looking for the all-american-boy look. Glasses are a plus in my book too :)

imaboy · Answer

1. Character (Respect, Trust, Honor)

2. Social Status

3. Personality

4. Nice body (Athletic and active, after all)

5. Good face

6. Height

7. Money

Character is what makes or breaks any relationship. Social status means one is comfortable, confident, outgoing. Personality is similar interests. Nice body looks good and allows one to be active and competitive. Face... most people's face are fine, its important as well. Height - I wouldn't mind a bit to be 5'7". It would be nice to be at or slightly above a girls eye level. Money is irrelevant. It doesn't make one happy, learn to manage your finance, be happy buying nice things and take care of them and a family with a few children can live off a teacher's salary.

Michael92 · Answer

Girls will be attracted to a tall manly attractive guy, but those relationships probably won't last long if she's only attracted to your body. The better alternative is to be kind and caring to the girl you love. Yes, it will be harder to form a relationship than if you were a body-builder, but the relationship will be more meaningful than one based on looks. To communicate your love, just show her that you care about her day, or her new dress, or anything she talks about. If she rejects you flat out based on your height, she is probably a shallow person and should be avoided.

Vee72 · Answer

lol you are absolutely correct but your list is a little off. Re-arrange it and bam you're set.

But yes, I do agree to the fact that woman are attracted more to "taller" guys than "shorter" ones but then again not EVERY woman thinks that way.

In my opinion or why I would rather choose a taller guy rather than a shorter one is because I feel more protected when I'm with someone bigger and taller than me and that is what us woman want. To feel security and to be protected. Being with someone who is short kind of gives that awkward "you seem like a child" to me. I'm pretty short myself so anyone would be tall to me.

freehugs02 · Answer

actually you are wrong, at least in my opinion.

now, I'm 5'9, so I'll admit height is VERY important because I'm self conscious about my height, so I want a guy taller than me.

but if the choice is between a guy 6'5 who's a complete jerk, and guy who's 5'10 and matches my personality exactly, the shorter one would win hands down.

and although the things you listed are factors and help the overall package of a potential date, body, money, and social status really don't matter (atleast not to me)

of course appearances matter, because there has to be physical attraction in a relationship, but personality matters a lot more.

anabur · Answer

I've never heard a guy (or girl) say that height was the thing girls looked for most in a guy. I'm tall and very few girls even mention it as why they're attracted to me. I think everyone sees one way they aren't blessed and imagines that it's more important than it is to whoever they're trying to attract.

1) Confidence

2) Confidence

3) Confidence

4) Confidence

5) Body

6) Face

7) Money

Don't forget this, either: if you have the personality, you win the girl over. Once a girl is won over, other things don't matter. When you're attracted to a girl's personality, you don't say "She's so fun to be around and she's goofy and she's smart (or whatever you like about her)...but she isn't tall enough." Once you win someone over, they can only really see what they like about you

Gianni · Answer

ROFLMAO...never thought I'd be answering this one but I agree with you half way. I admit that I'm not really attracted to shorter guys...mostly because where I live the average height of a male is around 5'8" and I really and truly had a situation recently where I purposely did not get into a relationship because the guy was the same height as me 5'2''. it sounds a bit shallow considering but I can't help that I'm not attracted to short and by the way you aren't really that short...my first and longest relationship was with a guy your height.

Finally my version of your list:

1. Height (it's a little sad but true...its important)

2. Personality

3. Healthy Body (a nice body could be ridden with disease)

4. Good Face

5. Money (for those of us females who intend to make our own)

6. Social Status

Moonbeam32 · Answer

I think 5'6 is rather tall. Anyway, I don't really care about height. The guy could be shorter than me and if he is a nice guy I would be happy to date him. I'm a little under 5'2 though so I don't see many guys shorter than me. I do tend to like guys shorter than 5'9 or 5'8 because if they are too tall I feel like a midget or a little kid. But then again I have occasionally liked taller guys. I also don't care about money. If a guy works it shows responsibility, so I like it if they work or are at least in college. As long as he is doing something, even better if he enjoys it, with his life, I'm alright if he doesn't have much money. Social status is not an issue at all. If a guy has a good face and a nice body to one girl, others may not agree. It just depends. Personality is extremely important to me which is why I don't even think about dating a guy until I get to know him over many months maybe even a year or two.

Alex_Prower · Answer

That seems... pretty accurate.

You know what bugs me? How girls say "he must taller than me when I'm wearing high heels." It's almost as if they think wearing high heels is their true height. Example... a girl who's 5'3" who won't date a 5'7" guy because he's not taller than her when she wears 4" heels. Give us guys a freaking break. Any podiatrist will tell you that high heels are bad for your health anyway. God, I hate high heels. >_>

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