what you think has no bearing on what i think and its doesn't affect me, and were being honest what we as men think affects you a lot, if we find it trashy you will be considered trashy, i have nothing esle to add.
I'm not trying to have bearing on what you think, I just wanted a polite conversation But equally, I think you'll find you actually have no bearing on my life either, and neither do most men
it is polite i just said one word and didn't really add much else , but you wanted to know why so here i am telling you why, it makes girls look trashy, easy and slutty the majorit of men i know target women with belly piercings, tattooes and such stuff casue they find such girls much easier, its not even as secret , and yes it does affect you if u want to ever date men.
You're definitely entitled to your opinion and I appreciate the explanation. Personally I'm not slutty, trashy and easy so that's fine. I'm still gonna look how I want to look. Decent guys won't judge my looks anyway! So it doesn't affect me cos I'm going to find the right guy for me anyway. In fact, it double doesn't affect me, cos I've already done just that and I don't even need to date any more!
Decent guys aren't interested in what? Women they get on well with whose personality they like and who they're happy with? Who they find attractive but they know that isn't the most important thing in their relationship? Because that's what I think decent guys are interested in, at least the ones who want successful long-term relationships like I do
how do you define a decent guy? a good looking guy with a good job, great personality and overall a good person... now lets be realistic here for a moment if a guy worked hard to reach a point where he is considered decent do you think he will throw it all away to be with a girl that looks trashy? no its safe to assume he won't, plenty of attractive girls around but not all are dating material.
you're applying whatever you personally like to men , it doesn't work like that we have different standards, i've met plenty of women who think they can be a certain way and marry a great dude, eventually they discover that it doesn't work like that and only a small handful luck out the rest fail.
i can just move on and not tell you any of this however if you really decent like you say you are then dont do things that masks your decency it's not worth it at all , classy girls are 100x times hotter.
I've pretty much given my definition of a decent guy. One that values our relationship, yeah he's generally overall a "good" person, and he values me as a person over my looks. And I've found a decent guy and he likes me. I'm already well on the way to where I want to be in life. I AM classy. You wouldn't even think otherwise if you saw me on a normal day, cos I don't go around showing my stomach and all my skin off and I don't act trashy. I'm just not a trashy girl, period. You don't seem to realise standards aren't set in stone - I want a guy who shares my standards, all guys have different standards and I don't like your standards, I like other guys' standards!!
Duuude the truth is I'm in a happy relationship, have a good life in general, and I like who I am including how I look. I just can't see this turning into a negative or destructive thing just because one guy who doesn't know me thinks I'm trashy 😂 And it doesn't say anything good about you or your prospects for the future that you feel the need to bring me down like this
iam not trying to bring you down iam just telling you from my experience how things work, you are free to disagree, but one question, if you are so cofident in your choices... why ask this question? i mean you dont seem to care if it makes you look trashy or not so...
Like I said, I really was just curious about what people generally think
The reason I don't care when people say it's trashy is because I honestly don't think it's trashy (I only recently got one so I know what it looks like from your outside perspective) I guess I'm just less judgy about looks, I judge on about personality and actions!
mhmm i see, well if you want it keep it i guess, but just one thing i want to add, most women do judge based on actions and personality (they do like looks quite a lot though) but men on the other hand... the things you care about is maybe number 5 for us not 1, so be careful with applying your own standards as a female to males.
@HereToProveMyPoint: Totally agree with you about actions making someone trashy. As far as looks, is all a matter of what you like. I love when a girl has tons of tattoos and piercings, and dresses kind of slutty to show off everything she's got. I like that LOOK, but I'd never want to be with someone who ACTED trashy. Thats not going to change no matter how successful I am.
Yes, you're reading me correctly. However my experience has not been the same as yours. I've have quite a few girlfriends that ran around in nothing but tight miniskirts and crop tops most of the time but never acted trashy.
They didn't got all fucked up and embarrass themselves at parties when they went. They were faithful when in a relationship. When single they had standards and self respect enough to not instantly sleep with every guy they met at the drop of a hat. Held jobs, paid their bills, were honest people. Were intelligent and could hold a conversation. Used birth control, kept themselves from getting or spreading stds. So, to me, they weren't trashy.
Not with any of them anymore. Usually because of different long term goals, I've known since I was a teenager I never want children. A couple of them from decades ago are currently fb friends. Both are currently happy and stable with children and families of their own.
It often doesn't. There are very few bad breakups in my past though. I rarely stay in touch afterward because I don't want it messing up a new relationship for me or her.
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I think actions make a girl trashy not looks, and I'm not actually trashy, so I don't really see why you say this
you do you i do me , its trashy what you think is irrelevant
What I think isn't irrelevant man, I'm the one who asked this question! But I value people's opinions, and I don't get yours
what you think has no bearing on what i think and its doesn't affect me, and were being honest what we as men think affects you a lot, if we find it trashy you will be considered trashy, i have nothing esle to add.
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I'm not trying to have bearing on what you think, I just wanted a polite conversation
But equally, I think you'll find you actually have no bearing on my life either, and neither do most men
it is polite i just said one word and didn't really add much else , but you wanted to know why so here i am telling you why, it makes girls look trashy, easy and slutty the majorit of men i know target women with belly piercings, tattooes and such stuff casue they find such girls much easier, its not even as secret , and yes it does affect you if u want to ever date men.
You're definitely entitled to your opinion and I appreciate the explanation. Personally I'm not slutty, trashy and easy so that's fine. I'm still gonna look how I want to look. Decent guys won't judge my looks anyway! So it doesn't affect me cos I'm going to find the right guy for me anyway. In fact, it double doesn't affect me, cos I've already done just that and I don't even need to date any more!
decent guys? i think you got it the other way around , decent guys aren't interested in that at all, dont lie to yourself like most girls
Decent guys aren't interested in what? Women they get on well with whose personality they like and who they're happy with? Who they find attractive but they know that isn't the most important thing in their relationship? Because that's what I think decent guys are interested in, at least the ones who want successful long-term relationships like I do
how do you define a decent guy? a good looking guy with a good job, great personality and overall a good person... now lets be realistic here for a moment if a guy worked hard to reach a point where he is considered decent do you think he will throw it all away to be with a girl that looks trashy? no its safe to assume he won't, plenty of attractive girls around but not all are dating material.
you're applying whatever you personally like to men , it doesn't work like that we have different standards, i've met plenty of women who think they can be a certain way and marry a great dude, eventually they discover that it doesn't work like that and only a small handful luck out the rest fail.
i can just move on and not tell you any of this however if you really decent like you say you are then dont do things that masks your decency it's not worth it at all , classy girls are 100x times hotter.
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Decent guys don't leave girls over ONE PIERCING
I've pretty much given my definition of a decent guy. One that values our relationship, yeah he's generally overall a "good" person, and he values me as a person over my looks. And I've found a decent guy and he likes me. I'm already well on the way to where I want to be in life. I AM classy. You wouldn't even think otherwise if you saw me on a normal day, cos I don't go around showing my stomach and all my skin off and I don't act trashy. I'm just not a trashy girl, period. You don't seem to realise standards aren't set in stone - I want a guy who shares my standards, all guys have different standards and I don't like your standards, I like other guys' standards!!
you will get hit with the truth one day and its going to destroy you, for now have fun while it lasts.
Duuude the truth is I'm in a happy relationship, have a good life in general, and I like who I am including how I look. I just can't see this turning into a negative or destructive thing just because one guy who doesn't know me thinks I'm trashy 😂 And it doesn't say anything good about you or your prospects for the future that you feel the need to bring me down like this
iam not trying to bring you down iam just telling you from my experience how things work, you are free to disagree, but one question, if you are so cofident in your choices... why ask this question? i mean you dont seem to care if it makes you look trashy or not so...
Like I said, I really was just curious about what people generally think
The reason I don't care when people say it's trashy is because I honestly don't think it's trashy (I only recently got one so I know what it looks like from your outside perspective) I guess I'm just less judgy about looks, I judge on about personality and actions!
mhmm i see, well if you want it keep it i guess, but just one thing i want to add, most women do judge based on actions and personality (they do like looks quite a lot though) but men on the other hand... the things you care about is maybe number 5 for us not 1, so be careful with applying your own standards as a female to males.
@HereToProveMyPoint:
Totally agree with you about actions making someone trashy. As far as looks, is all a matter of what you like. I love when a girl has tons of tattoos and piercings, and dresses kind of slutty to show off everything she's got. I like that LOOK, but I'd never want to be with someone who ACTED trashy. Thats not going to change no matter how successful I am.
@Sixgun77 so you like the trashy appearance but not actions? however usually girls who do look trashy act trashy so you're confusing me here
Yes, you're reading me correctly. However my experience has not been the same as yours. I've have quite a few girlfriends that ran around in nothing but tight miniskirts and crop tops most of the time but never acted trashy.
@Sixgun77 what do you mean by acting trashy? mabye we define it differently
They didn't got all fucked up and embarrass themselves at parties when they went. They were faithful when in a relationship. When single they had standards and self respect enough to not instantly sleep with every guy they met at the drop of a hat. Held jobs, paid their bills, were honest people. Were intelligent and could hold a conversation. Used birth control, kept themselves from getting or spreading stds. So, to me, they weren't trashy.
Trashy would be no standards, addicted, stupid, infected, dishonest, disloyal, unfaithful.
@Sixgun77 thank goodness someone agrees and understands what I'm on about!! Nice to have some backup haha
you're welcome. Similar opinions. ☺
@Sixgun77 why didn't it work out? sounds like you had good girls
Not with any of them anymore. Usually because of different long term goals, I've known since I was a teenager I never want children.
A couple of them from decades ago are currently fb friends. Both are currently happy and stable with children and families of their own.
@Sixgun77 i see , well sometimes it doesn't work out i guess
It often doesn't. There are very few bad breakups in my past though. I rarely stay in touch afterward because I don't want it messing up a new relationship for me or her.
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