Suicide rate high in unattractive men?

[van35]

as I read questions on here I discover what I've known all along. looks are more important to women then the rest. I was reading online a few days ago about the suicide rate in men was very high and it was for one of the facts they felt they was unattractive to women which they was always told they were. I know what there feeling. its sad. unattractive guys have the same desires for affection and sex as the hot ones do but it doesn't get met simply for the fact there ugly to most women. as the world advances in time its going to get worse. I'm sure there like me . women tell them there not ugly but when you show interest in them its a different ball game

[Brando]

I've had my share of suicidal thoughts, but I've never considered it over what someone else has done to me. They aren't worthy enough for those kinds of thoughts. I maybe had issues with how I *thought* of them, or of myself, by I never allowed myself to be thinking that way because of how someone else treated me.

I've done my fair share of research as well, and the reasons people give for suicide (those who provide reasons) are reasons that have been compounded within that persons own head, out of reality. It's important to maintain perspective on the world so that you don't start becoming paranoid and inferring everything that you experience. This leads you to basically be walking on glass- it isn't certain and can break at any time, causing you to crumble down. Keep your feet on solid ground.

We all have our own personal issues. I'll keep my thoughts of suicide out of this because they aren't the norm and I don't feel they are necessary. But taking your own life because of a lack of success Is not worth it. If you stress what you don't have, then of course you will be saddled with depression. If you stop, organize your life, and give yourself the life that you want then you will find that worrying about women is ridiculous. Let them worry about themselves, you fix yourself up.

[jacob1973]

I am one of those unattractive men, who has never had a woman ask him out, and regularly gets turned down by women. I have never even kissed a woman, and yes I am still the big "V" (virgin) at 41. It hurts every day and every night thinking that I will never have a woman in my life and experience love. I come from a big family. I have basically become the oddball "spinster" in my family. I have everything else going for me. I make a great income, a great job, I am a kind and moral man, and everyone tells me that I am "a great catch". Yet day over day, month over month, and year over year goes by and I can never get past the first "blind date" that everyone wants to put me on. To say that I am sick of life (at 41) is not even close to being an overstatement. Just typing this is making me want to cry. So am I going to be one of those "statistics"? I honestly dont know, but I can't say right now that I won't be. I have all but lost hope, and have gotten to the point of almost not caring anymore.

[Armada]

I don't want to sound like an asshole but do you put yourself out there? I've seen like -10 mfers with beautiful women. If you really want change to happen, you have to MAKE IT happen.

[CNikki]

So sorry, man. It's unfortunate that society is so hooked up on superficial things and having no flaws. I give respect for the fact that at least you didn't disrespect yourself to the point of just getting anything that's out there, since some men pay for having prostitutes and whatnot if there's nothing else. I'm sure there will at least be one woman who will not care on the looks and take interest, and as the other person said to make sure you're seen by them. I know that can be hard, especially if one has SA which I do. Hopefully you won't be part of that statistic either. Good luck.

[PlainOldAdam]

Don't you hate it, hearing people lie straight to your face? If guys like us were catches, we wouldn't be where we are.

[NessMess]

@Armada you do understand that not everyone is meant to be with someone else, regardless of their choice

[Topher87090]

@Armada where. Where do you see this happen? You must not be ugly. It's hard for non ugly people to see the problem.

[Anonymous]

Although I'm a girl, I understand what you mean. I've thought about suicide.. way too much for my age. And I know that. I've seen SO many girls almost... ignore guys because they aren't up to their standards. I always at *least* say hi and give them a chance.

As for the last part goes... A lot of girls who randomly say that they're ugly are only saying it for attention. The girls who really don't say it (like if a group of friends brings it up &she's silent) usually are very insecure, and think they're ugly.

Then again, when the girl who MEANS it when she thinks she's ugly gets complimented, it usually can make her day. If a girl constantly disagrees with you, most likely it's because they want attention.

I'm sorry, I'm getting SO off topic XD

ANYWAYS. I think quite a few girls can relate, believe it or not.

[Anonymous]

Suicide is a result of depression, which is a disease. I would assume that perceiving yourself as unattractive, even when people say you are not ugly, is a part of that depression.

I'm not really sure what questions you are reading... most women find personality to be more important. And that would explain why even though these women are saying that you are not ugly, they are not dating you because you are so down on yourself all the time. That is not an attractive personality. If you read the questions on here, most women say that they are attracted to confidence. Now, I understand it is hard to be confident when you have depression. So my advice to you would be to get help for your depression, then build up your confidence, and then see how dating works out :)

[smartgirl81]

i think that a lot of women are shallow an its not fair...i my self do not bass things on looks...i think it is really sad that guys who feel unattractive take thier own life as they think its tha only way out...but I think there is a deeper rooted problem for the suicide...and I think girls who act like tht should be taking down a peg...i don't conceder my self to be ugly but I know I'm not a model an if a guy don't think I'm attractive then he don't have to look but I'm not gunna take my life over it cause 5 minutes later I could find a guy who thinks I'm hot...it is sad tht society makes people pick beuty over sweetness or honesty...

[antics333]

Yeah, I agree with you on this one. Though I haven't being called unattractive by women, I can understand how that would be. Women say such things, but they're lieing. They DO want attractive men, whom are well-endowed, rich, powerful, etc. They want the WHOLE package. Don't you forget that. And those I've being broken up for not meeting the "financial" part of the package, it has forged my understanding of women considerably as a whole. I know what women want, it's not a mystery, it's not a complexity, it's obvious for the world to see. It's just a matter of meeting the desires on a certain level.

[van35]

yes and I'm just willing to bet your the kinda dude that likes to give them a hardtime along with the rejection from the ladies aswell until they finally do themselfs in? I'm willing to bet you get a stronger orgasm while having sex knowing the last thing that crossed his mind before he blew his dome out that he couldn't get it and you seen to it he suffered more by rubbing it in his face

[Hartmut]

I'm not gonna lie, I've mentally played with the idea in the past. I remember drifting off into space during a lecture about a month ago, and saw the most vivid image of myself chaining myself down and setting myself on fire...

I suppose it bears mentioning that I've been single all my life, but I wouldn't say it was the only reason I've been having these thoughts lately.

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman and I have has suicidal thoughts because of my looks. I have been bullied because of how my face looks. I have never had a relationship. It's not just men who go through this. Women are often judged more harshly for their looks by both men and women. I won't do it because my dad did it, but I do have the thoughts. I have been told I might as well be a man since I am so ugly.

[CNikki]

I can relate. :/ It sucks too.

[snackeyg]

I'd think it's worse with women. Sure we have hard time but unnattractive women definitely have it harder over men.

As for this specific topic yeah I contemplate suicide a lot but I can't do it. I'm in love with a girl in KS(I live in WI. Stupid I know) and I hope to be with her someday. Can't do that if I die.

[Anonymous]

I've known 3-4 guys who killed themselves and they were all attractive. The more depressed you are, the more you feel like a failure, in general.

[Anonymous]

What if i told you I am horribly ugly and i have widest jaw you have ever seen? would you still ask me to try harder? Pls don't... we are meant to be dead...