Okay, so, on the one hand there's crossdressing, and on the other there's being transgender. If the compulsion to wear clothes from across the aisle is so strong that it effs your mind around people who've known you since birth, then the smart money is on transgender, with the dressing thing just happening to be your first route to discovery.
Because if it were just dressing, then, it'd just be dressing.
Crossdressers who are just crossdressers, i. e. who are NOT gender dysphoric, are not massively conflicted by, e. g., work dress codes, or by being around family with closed-minded/provincial outlooks. They follow THOSE 'rules' as long as the situations obtain... and then they indulge their little secret when they go home (or to their storage locker, hehe)
That you want to x-dress so often and so regularly, in fact, points toward the transgender hypothesis as well. The whole point of 'crossdressing', as a non-transgender non-dysphoric kink, is that it's a little secret to be shared only with a chosen few, if indeed with anyone.
Oh, and. Life lesson number 1-A.
People just DO. NOT. CARE. At all. About what you are doing. Unless their self-interest or safety (or those of their loved ones) is directly impacted.
Really, they just do not care at all. You could walk around the mall or around downtown in a porno-style schoolgirl outfit and nary a photo would be taken (people would just guess you were some crazy street performer, or just a street person).
Along the same lines, people also won't notice that expensive car or watch you went into massive high-interest debt for, so, don't buy 'nice things' to impress anyone but yourself.
(There are exceptions, such as 3rd world countries and small towns where EVERYONE is in your business about EVERYTHING. Since crossdressing in public brings threat of physical violence in most such places, I'll just assume you don't live there.)
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Hmmm, that's a pretty tough one. I would think that it would largely if not entirely depend on what your family is like. Are they generally more progressive, accepting of "alternative lifestyles" (haha, what a great euphemism)? Do you have a close relationship where you guys can talk about sexuality and whatnot openly and comfortably? Or are they more the traditional "family values" types where men are supposed to be tough and manly?
I think this is the inherent problem with asking advice from people here. Even somebody knowledgeable about how to go about it (definitely not me) would need to know more specifics to your case.
Your best bet is to seek out some local LGBT resources in your community. You need to ideally find someone who can talk to you about your specific case. In Canada it would be stupidly easy to find those resources. Just occurred to me that depending where you live, might not be as easy. In which case... online LGBT resources. This isn't something a random yokle will be able to help you with.
P. S I admire your balls (pun intended yes, offence meant, no) for wanting to get it off your chest and not want to hide who you are or what you're into. Cheers. Best of luck
I know it’s tough but you have to be your authentic self! Do you have anyone who you can trust or would be more accepting? If so, approach them first and just be honest. My brother came out of the closet a couple years ago and he’s so happy now. He told me first and I was honored.
I would just sit them down and tell them. Like ripping off a bandaid. I hope it goes well. And just know that if your family doesn't accept you, there's a whole community of people out there who will. It's going to be alright.
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Not something that is good to talk about, openly, here. PM? I know many in the LGBT family, and have a few friends, and one in my family.
Depends on your family's views on gay people. Like this statement or not, crossdressers are going to be looked at as homos.
Why do you have to "come out"? Don't make such a big deal out of it! Just be yourself and stop worrying.
Ease into it but if they disprove, then move further away.
In fashion, duh faggot
Depends on your families views
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