As unfortunate as it sounds, it's a bitter truth that no matter how much you accomplish in your life or how intellectual or talented you are as a woman, at the end on the day men only care about physical appearance. And especially these days men are weaker than ever and think that they can get away with being shallow pricks by making themselves the victim to their biology, good Lord! For men their intellect could matter more than it does for women.
I do a lot of stuff that is apparently very 'attractive' to men as they claim. I read a lot of novels, don't wear very revealing clothing, have some good reputation for academic performance and extracurricular activities, I workout... Some quite desirable traits, only in fantasy. In real life, I'm seen as a boring person that no one wants to talk with. Working out is nice, but what use of it when I wear loose clothes that don't even show the shape of my butt, right? They only see my face and it's not attractive enough, they don't want anything more.
It can of turnpike me who don't care so much about looks. By in my experience for many who cares about looks. No. Because while mayday they don't both. Most don't want a person too smart than them and can't get way with things in a relationship, like initiating sexual situations. The person overall wants somebody who shares their sexual desires. After all that's one of the only reasons many get into dating in the first place. They don't want friends.
Well, I suppose it can depending on the specific persons involved.
For example, if you have the following two:
-a man who is intelligent and expresses this intelligence in a suave, charismatic, and confident manner.
And
-a woman who is open to dating or being with a wide variety of men, specifically not putting too much focus or emphasis on physical attractiveness,
then perhaps intellect can outweigh attractive looks when it comes to getting with a person initially, which is what I assume you’re referring to.
There’s probably more examples and things I could say, but I’ll leave it at that.
I think they're both important, and I tend to use the term "attractive" pretty loosely. For me, a woman can be genetically perfect in her looks, but if she's as dumb as a slice of bologna I wouldn't date her, and if a woman is incredibly intelligent but is obese, doesn't shower, lack of hygiene and hair looks like a rat's nest, I wouldn't date her either.
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I think it’s both important but more importance on the intelligence/personality than looks.
I don’t believe in judging a book by its cover but if she looks fantastic and has a great personality/ intellect then I see win.
However, if she has only one of the other then I’ll only see her as a friend but nothing more. It varies person to person , just depends on who she is
It's a package deal. It's difficult to say just what always attracts a guy, as there are subliminal attractions as well as over attractiveness. Both intellect and looks are part of the mix, and for many guys, a good intellect is very attractive. I know it is for me. But to parse it down to percentages of looks vs. intellect, just isn't possible.
It depends, really. Realistically, there has to be something there phyiscially or an integral part of the overall attraction, the physical part, won't be any good. For me, at least, they dont need to be anyones definition of a perfect 10 and smart but I dont want to date someone I have no physical attraction too, ya know? But ignorant and hot? Ill pass. They usually aren't worth the trouble, even if theyre good in bed or whatever.
That's a tricky one... People are different and we all have our own unique tastes and preferences.
Some prefer looks, others go for intellect
Some like compassionate, others want someone with money
So in answer to your query, yes intellect CAN outweigh attractive looks.
Looks fade over time, Intellect and Personality are Forever!! For me, date base on Personality and Intelligence. I've dated more guys that most don't consider attractive but everyone loves hanging out with them. If it's just for a ONS looks don't hurt, but aren't essential.
For most men over 25 to 28 who have experience and are worldly... will most likely prefer a smart caring women. She can even be sort of heavy but needs to be clean, gentle, and considerate and smart. Men at this age prefer women who both are industrious and can have a core character. If she has beauty and principle then she is a Jewel among the stones. However, most men prefer a woman's character, health, and personality before just either her intellect or her beauty. As these both actually fade over time. Beauty fades after child birth and intellect fades as you get past 48 and above? As a man of 50 plus years it is Character and Intellect before beauty. Beauty is nice in high school because you are just as STUPID as everyone else born with an extra chromosome; but as you get more educated and accumulate civilized experience you tend to see more with your mind than you do with your eyes. Because the Eyes do not really see your Mind does?
Looks are what get someone to approach you, intelligence and personality are what make it last, that is if any kind of long term commitment is a factor.
Of course. Personality always outweighs looks. People are so beautiful when they have a good personality and especially when they are smart. When I meet someone who is 'unattractive" by societal standards, if I like their personality, they automatically are gorgeous. As long as the person takes care of themselves and stuff (hygiene etc.) then they are good
For me it usually is the case. A pretty face and attractive looks are nice, but in the end if we can't talk about things other than looks, clothes and what that friend of her's did the other day, I lose interest very fast.
Your picture doesn't exactly help. That woman is actually attractive lol. Glasses are hot just because of the style and the big frame can make her look even more attractive. It's like it can highlight her eyes even more. Also 99% of guys want to shoot their man gravy on them lol. We think that's hot.
Nope. I don't care if you went to a top school and were in the top 5 percentile of your graduating class. None of that means shit if you're not attractive, you're a bitch, you spend all your time on instagram, or you don't have life skills beyond book smarts.
Nope, I'm cool if she can't open a jar of jam, I prefer a conversation without political discourse, but if she is fat and ugly, that's a deal breaker, I have no time for fat chicks, don't care how good at maths they are, check the scales, that's all she needs to be concerned with.
I don’t think so, I’d say they’re equally important. A person needs to look attractive for the approacher to be interested. But once you’re together you need more then looks, which is where intelligence and personality comes into play.
So yeah, looks are definetly important 😄
Definitely, but she has to be moderately cute. It’s strange because I find that a really smart girl is really attractive even though she may be average looking to other people, simply being super intellectual makes her stand out from everyone else to me. There’s this you tuber, Tibees. She does a bunch of videos on math and physics. I remember feeling instantly in love with her when I first came across her channel and hearing her talk about the beauty of certain theorems and how it’s apparent in nature. To me a girls intellect makes the biggest difference if I’m going to be interested in her or not. Cute, hot and sexy girls are easy to come by, but a vast majority of them are average in nearly every way, personality wise. Meeting a girl who is passionate learning about nature (by nature I mean the most fundamental forces controlling this world). Unfortunately I’ve yet to meet a girl in person who is even remotely intelligent as to what I’m looking for.
As long as girl is at least somewhat attractive (means not very unattractive), the intelligence is more important to me than the visual attractivity. So definitely yes! Among other things that outweigh attractive looks as well. Such as being a good person, pleasant to spend time with, playful in sexual terms and much more.
I think they go hand in hand
It is nearly impossible not to. Intellect people may not be outside stereotype attractive but they do develop a sense of pose that makes them stand out and shin in thier own the light which is extremely attractive,
No
For women, no matter how intelligent, funny, kind, quirky, charismatic you are, if you have an ugly face, you're doomed..
It doesn't matter if you're millionaire, have a good style, are classy, Nobel prize winner, if you have a good voice or even a nice body and skin..
Trust me, this is coming from a girl with a nice body. If you're face shape and features aren't delicate and dainty, you're screwed. Most people will treat like $hit, no matter what you do...
Yes. In my opinion a guy or girl who is a 10/10 in terms of looks but an idiot is equivalent to someone with a phd and post doc (as long as it is not in women studies) and looks like Fat Bastard from Austin Powers. Both are equally attractive to me
Intellect doesn't outweigh it just enhances the average looking person. It can give you a boost in your overall attractiveness but it's only complementary... due to physical attractiveness always being first on our list.
This sort of question really requires a specific example. Otherwise the answer is, of COURSE it does (IF they two people are very similar on attractiveness but miles apart on intellect) and of COURSE NOT (IF they are really far apart on attractiveness and similar on intellect).
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