Can intellect outweigh attractive looks?

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CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

As unfortunate as it sounds, it's a bitter truth that no matter how much you accomplish in your life or how intellectual or talented you are as a woman, at the end on the day men only care about physical appearance. And especially these days men are weaker than ever and think that they can get away with being shallow pricks by making themselves the victim to their biology, good Lord! For men their intellect could matter more than it does for women.

I do a lot of stuff that is apparently very 'attractive' to men as they claim. I read a lot of novels, don't wear very revealing clothing, have some good reputation for academic performance and extracurricular activities, I workout... Some quite desirable traits, only in fantasy. In real life, I'm seen as a boring person that no one wants to talk with. Working out is nice, but what use of it when I wear loose clothes that don't even show the shape of my butt, right? They only see my face and it's not attractive enough, they don't want anything more.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

It can of turnpike me who don't care so much about looks. By in my experience for many who cares about looks. No. Because while mayday they don't both. Most don't want a person too smart than them and can't get way with things in a relationship, like initiating sexual situations. The person overall wants somebody who shares their sexual desires. After all that's one of the only reasons many get into dating in the first place. They don't want friends.

EmbraceThePain · Accepted Answer

Well, I suppose it can depending on the specific persons involved.

For example, if you have the following two:

-a man who is intelligent and expresses this intelligence in a suave, charismatic, and confident manner.

And

-a woman who is open to dating or being with a wide variety of men, specifically not putting too much focus or emphasis on physical attractiveness,

then perhaps intellect can outweigh attractive looks when it comes to getting with a person initially, which is what I assume you’re referring to.

There’s probably more examples and things I could say, but I’ll leave it at that.

ImJustCurious13 · Accepted Answer

I think they're both important, and I tend to use the term "attractive" pretty loosely. For me, a woman can be genetically perfect in her looks, but if she's as dumb as a slice of bologna I wouldn't date her, and if a woman is incredibly intelligent but is obese, doesn't shower, lack of hygiene and hair looks like a rat's nest, I wouldn't date her either.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I think it’s both important but more importance on the intelligence/personality than looks.

I don’t believe in judging a book by its cover but if she looks fantastic and has a great personality/ intellect then I see win.

However, if she has only one of the other then I’ll only see her as a friend but nothing more. It varies person to person , just depends on who she is

markscott · Answer

It's a package deal. It's difficult to say just what always attracts a guy, as there are subliminal attractions as well as over attractiveness. Both intellect and looks are part of the mix, and for many guys, a good intellect is very attractive. I know it is for me. But to parse it down to percentages of looks vs. intellect, just isn't possible.

vlthmr · Answer

It depends, really. Realistically, there has to be something there phyiscially or an integral part of the overall attraction, the physical part, won't be any good. For me, at least, they dont need to be anyones definition of a perfect 10 and smart but I dont want to date someone I have no physical attraction too, ya know? But ignorant and hot? Ill pass. They usually aren't worth the trouble, even if theyre good in bed or whatever.

jay-88 · Answer

That's a tricky one... People are different and we all have our own unique tastes and preferences.

Some prefer looks, others go for intellect

Some like compassionate, others want someone with money

So in answer to your query, yes intellect CAN outweigh attractive looks.

Moonchild714 · Answer

Looks fade over time, Intellect and Personality are Forever!! For me, date base on Personality and Intelligence. I've dated more guys that most don't consider attractive but everyone loves hanging out with them. If it's just for a ONS looks don't hurt, but aren't essential.

KUNTAO · Answer

For most men over 25 to 28 who have experience and are worldly... will most likely prefer a smart caring women. She can even be sort of heavy but needs to be clean, gentle, and considerate and smart. Men at this age prefer women who both are industrious and can have a core character. If she has beauty and principle then she is a Jewel among the stones. However, most men prefer a woman's character, health, and personality before just either her intellect or her beauty. As these both actually fade over time. Beauty fades after child birth and intellect fades as you get past 48 and above? As a man of 50 plus years it is Character and Intellect before beauty. Beauty is nice in high school because you are just as STUPID as everyone else born with an extra chromosome; but as you get more educated and accumulate civilized experience you tend to see more with your mind than you do with your eyes. Because the Eyes do not really see your Mind does?

BCA6010 · Answer

Looks are what get someone to approach you, intelligence and personality are what make it last, that is if any kind of long term commitment is a factor.

thatonegirl00 · Answer

Of course. Personality always outweighs looks. People are so beautiful when they have a good personality and especially when they are smart. When I meet someone who is 'unattractive" by societal standards, if I like their personality, they automatically are gorgeous. As long as the person takes care of themselves and stuff (hygiene etc.) then they are good

Djolea · Answer

For me it usually is the case. A pretty face and attractive looks are nice, but in the end if we can't talk about things other than looks, clothes and what that friend of her's did the other day, I lose interest very fast.

blondfrog · Answer

Your picture doesn't exactly help. That woman is actually attractive lol. Glasses are hot just because of the style and the big frame can make her look even more attractive. It's like it can highlight her eyes even more. Also 99% of guys want to shoot their man gravy on them lol. We think that's hot.

JSmuve · Answer

Nope. I don't care if you went to a top school and were in the top 5 percentile of your graduating class. None of that means shit if you're not attractive, you're a bitch, you spend all your time on instagram, or you don't have life skills beyond book smarts.

monkeynutts · Answer

Nope, I'm cool if she can't open a jar of jam, I prefer a conversation without political discourse, but if she is fat and ugly, that's a deal breaker, I have no time for fat chicks, don't care how good at maths they are, check the scales, that's all she needs to be concerned with.

Bluebot · Answer

I don’t think so, I’d say they’re equally important. A person needs to look attractive for the approacher to be interested. But once you’re together you need more then looks, which is where intelligence and personality comes into play.

So yeah, looks are definetly important 😄

asd_nasa · Answer

Definitely, but she has to be moderately cute. It’s strange because I find that a really smart girl is really attractive even though she may be average looking to other people, simply being super intellectual makes her stand out from everyone else to me. There’s this you tuber, Tibees. She does a bunch of videos on math and physics. I remember feeling instantly in love with her when I first came across her channel and hearing her talk about the beauty of certain theorems and how it’s apparent in nature. To me a girls intellect makes the biggest difference if I’m going to be interested in her or not. Cute, hot and sexy girls are easy to come by, but a vast majority of them are average in nearly every way, personality wise. Meeting a girl who is passionate learning about nature (by nature I mean the most fundamental forces controlling this world). Unfortunately I’ve yet to meet a girl in person who is even remotely intelligent as to what I’m looking for.

chnapo · Answer

As long as girl is at least somewhat attractive (means not very unattractive), the intelligence is more important to me than the visual attractivity. So definitely yes! Among other things that outweigh attractive looks as well. Such as being a good person, pleasant to spend time with, playful in sexual terms and much more.

GraveDoll · Answer

I think they go hand in hand

It is nearly impossible not to. Intellect people may not be outside stereotype attractive but they do develop a sense of pose that makes them stand out and shin in thier own the light which is extremely attractive,

Anonymous · Answer

No
For women, no matter how intelligent, funny, kind, quirky, charismatic you are, if you have an ugly face, you're doomed..
It doesn't matter if you're millionaire, have a good style, are classy, Nobel prize winner, if you have a good voice or even a nice body and skin..
Trust me, this is coming from a girl with a nice body. If you're face shape and features aren't delicate and dainty, you're screwed. Most people will treat like $hit, no matter what you do...

SuperSWC · Answer

Yes. In my opinion a guy or girl who is a 10/10 in terms of looks but an idiot is equivalent to someone with a phd and post doc (as long as it is not in women studies) and looks like Fat Bastard from Austin Powers. Both are equally attractive to me

coachTanthony · Answer

Intellect doesn't outweigh it just enhances the average looking person. It can give you a boost in your overall attractiveness but it's only complementary... due to physical attractiveness always being first on our list.

Anonymous · Answer

This sort of question really requires a specific example. Otherwise the answer is, of COURSE it does (IF they two people are very similar on attractiveness but miles apart on intellect) and of COURSE NOT (IF they are really far apart on attractiveness and similar on intellect).

Liskitty · Answer

I will take intellect over looks any day. It's so much better for me in every way if I am with a guy who has brains compared to someone who hasn't.

little_bird1 · Answer

For women? No. Attractive looks outweigh everything. You can be the dumbess person in the world, if you are attractive, you'll be treated good, be given free stuff and be chased my men.

Seket · Answer

The answer is: yes. Many men prefer women with good brains. Most of us treat stupid princesses like dolls and toys, mostly because we can't seem to talk with them using our logic.

red324 · Answer

A personality yes. I went on a date with a girl once and didn't think she was the most attractive, but then after 1.5hrs of talking I realized she had quite the smartass little personality which I loved, so I wanted another date. Lol

Grond21 · Answer

Most definitely. Attractive looks draw you into the person, but it is their character that makes you stay. in the same way, if someone doesn't have an attractive look but a great character, you can learn to see them as very attractive

MecheD · Answer

Hell yeah, if you can please someone mentally they don’t care for the looks really. Which is why tbh you have a lot of controlling based relationships I believe.

lernulo · Answer

To me it's a great YES, I have been on a crush with many intellectuals on my past, although I must say I doubt they think on the same way, in fact I'm more popular with women who aren't so intelligent.

Sensmind · Answer

Yes it can happen for some a lot more than others - How you respond to stimulus is different for all - I believe people who say I am all "Looks" or "Personality" or "Intellect" are wrong, I think it is a combination with everyone having different ratios

Anonymous · Answer

We should not tell others that we are intelligent but I guess I am I have eidetic memory , and I have a M. S in physics and I can talk about different subjects I guess I have intellect I do talks , debates , elocutions in off time. But I guess women don’t consider intelligence that much in a guy at least I have never seen it , may be they do. I have helped one friend (girl) when she was much in distress and abused and at last she told me guys like me only have values after age 30

Dargil · Answer

Not just intelligence. That can be double edged. But personality/charm, etc. can make an average looking girl above average.

AcidT0y · Answer

I'm not gonna lie I tend to go for looks first. No point bullshitting about it xD
But intelligence is still important. I don't think a relationship will last if one person is much smarter than the other. Someone is going to get bored.

candyaurora · Answer

For most men looks are the most important initially bit intellect or personality keeps the relationship going, at least that is what I have observed with most men. Anyone who says he doesn't go for a woman's looks is honestly lying.

morimeme1 · Answer

Certainly, for me always if that intellect is coupled with kind personality.

Anonymous · Answer

If you have chemistry with someone that outweighs looks (because chemistry depends on a lot more components than just looks) and intellect can definietely be one of them. I find intellectual men to be very hot.

ChurchOfIron · Answer

No. Intelligence is boring as fuck. Ain't nobody gonna get hot from someone quoting pi to the 100th decimal place. Charisma can override everything.

I-C3_ME · Answer

For me it's a pyramid with attractiveness, intellect, personality in the corners they need to be in balance, i can fall for any women where the dot lands, as long as its balanced (for me)

rubyrose83 · Answer

Nope, I won't be with an idiot but I'm also not having sex with his brain so I still need to be attracted to him

eshedd · Answer

Pff no, I’m not the smartest but I’m smart (but then again it doesn’t take much to be smarter than people where I live soooo) and haven’t ever been on and date or ever been kiss so nope 😅😭

Enpassant · Answer

Intelligence is far more sexy than aesthetics. Intelligent women are a huge turn on for me.

BrookieCookie0422 · Answer

There’s nothing that dries me up faster than someone who is unintelligent. Yes it can outweigh looks.

Gavyn · Answer

If the smart person is also attractive, yes. Look, the fact of the matter is you have to find your partner physically attractive at the end of the day.

Samantha_17 · Answer

What about having both like this woman? She is my idol :)

TomasLyy · Answer

As much as we all like to preach about brains vs looks. What makes you approach someone in the first place? We all prioritize looks as a first impression it's a bonus if she or he is smart too

adamsshadow · Answer

too a certain degree, let's say we are using the 1-10 scale. you can be a 5 before I draw the line. I haft to be able to wake up, roll over and not be disturbed, or scared to be real.

Logorithim · Answer

For me it usually will. Exception might be if her intellectual interests don't match mine.

VanillaIcecream · Answer

Well it depends. If you’re an actress or model then you need to have good looks. Intelligence is for other professions.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Nope. People like to pretend it does. But it's just a lie that society pretends to believe so they don't seem as shallow. Lol

El_Duderino · Answer

I highly think so. A girl with no brains? It just wouldn't work on me. Brain and soul, that's what's important, it's what you will get attached to, not a body that changes and decays.

jgokgotit · Answer

Most definitely. Beauty fades but wisdom grows in spades.

Manhart1999 · Answer

Yes!! So much for me. I see that, people don't see it as that. So, just different preferences I guess. But intellect is what truly emotionally attracts me!

Shiningtempest · Answer

No, intellect or attractive looks doesn't matter. What matters most is emotional & mental stability, sharing same hobby & lifestyle, and amount of emotional baggage he/she has.

chunlilovesvega · Answer

no... especially if you are a female and if you are not pretty you are just a walking garbage :(

KeniKeni · Answer

Intelligence can make you attractive.  Attractiveness doesn't give you brain.

GD360 · Answer

Yes, but it really depends on personality for me. If not attractive

beebella · Answer

Intellect alone? No.  Intellect coupled with a nice personality? I think so.

stevejobless · Answer

For me, never. I'll admire someone for their intelligence, but that has nothing to do with attraction.

CoffeeWC · Answer

That's like trying to compare apples and oranges. I believe in a woman looks are more important, while in a man, intellect is more important.

xkforcesc2 · Answer

It is more like looks cannot outweigh a bad personality but a good personality can make someone more attractive physically.

derek2017 · Answer

I dont like intelligence (because I don't want her to use it against me!), if she cares about me and is a good person and knows how to tell a joke I wouldn't mind if she's not attractive (physically)

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

No, not really. Men are visual creatures. Stimulating our minds isn't necessarily stimulating our groins. We don't form connections the same way you do, especially when it comes to arousal. Men are entirely capable of being aroused without having any emotional attachment, in which case intellect is next to useless. Either you make us hot or you don't.

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