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The answer is yes. 100%. I'm not guessing when I say that. Who you find attractive comes from the subconscious. So it is uncontrollable compared to the conscious mind but you can change and shape the subjective mind though repetition and emotion. I've done this. One of easiest ways to do this is through porn. You can start to like certain looking people regardless if you liked those types of looking people before. It isn't overnight but it can be done. The issue is there is 0 motivation for doing it. So even if you did it through porn by accident you will most likely not do it long enough to change permanent so the wiring in your brain will sooner or later die due to lack of watering it.
Another thing is you can right off the bat control it as well. Not in the same way but you can look for things you find gross in a person and try to focus on that instead of the good. I found that that works as well but if you are looking for permanent change it requires deep emotion and consistency. Dating someone you find unattractive but isn't too unattractive can help. I didn't like Asians but now I due because I dated a Asian girl and then now I like how Asians look.
TO BE CLEAR: if a person is very very ugly and it isn't due to you just disliking how that ethnicity of people look then that is harder but you can still focus on what is attractive about them. What I am preaching is more about average looking people that are a particular ethnicity that you find unattractive. It's almost like fetishing someone.
But one thing I notice is it does not change who you will pick over another person. The girl who makes your dick the hardest isn't the girl who you'd pick over another to marry. It's strange but has all to do with the subjective mind and self image and beliefs and also very old conditioning pasted down over thousands of years. Like u cannot because attractive to a bumble bee lol. There is a base line. Being aroused by and attracted too may very well be 2 different things that go far beyond physical attraction. At any rate my thoughts on the subject are not well though enough to explain this better. Just know attractive is based on more than just physical whether you believe that or not.
Why would you want to control that you feel what you feel that's it I think you're very special person because first of all you're admitting something that other people can't admit you also acknowledging so you not only see something that you probably feel something to me that tells me a lot I'm an empath and I can find beauty in everything and the reason why is because first of all I feel that energy coming from that person there are some homely people did other people don't find attractive and I can see their beauty and them because I can feel their energy I believe you would do the same thing and that is a very special gift I think and I think that makes you a very special special person I think and if you can really feel People's Energy first then you should start looking at other things and understanding what is really happening you too can be an empath according to your words I'm going to guess yes and if you are you need to know about it now because it will save you a lot of Heartache with the things that go on in your life or around your life you will have a better understanding of you and what is really going on sometimes I talk in a circle sometimes people don't understand it if you understand any of the above yes you are appear in if you're not sure send me a message and I will help you through it because for many years I felt as if I was lost because of the things that I was feeling and the things that I thought I was feeling I thought were coming from me but it wasn't it was coming from other people
Yes you can if your talking about image.
If your talking connection I will say yes too because this is focused on your self commitment, note the connection had to have been started or built it is not always instant.
Being that the reality is you may not ever connect with others ever, this is not due to image or control, simply due to the factor of not being able to connect with a person.
People who say no are people who lack self awareness and lack self control. Being that if you focus to much on a image it can become an obsession and if you try to remove that ideal from your environment and be around others you begin to learn to love other forms of life including self love.
Life will always be a contradiction if you maintain one belief over the possibility of another.
No not really. Attraction and preferences can change so you can be attracted to a person you wouldn't normally be attracted to if you really like him/her. But attraction can't be forced. For example, I was attracted to someone who's debatably slightly shorter than me but he's also good looking. I didn't think I would ever be attracted to someone shorter than me
I’m assuming you wouldn’t be attracted to someone shorter than you because you wouldn’t want to feel like a big, heavy, masculine woman. The fact that you’re not feminine is no man’s fault. Men want feminine women. Unfortunately, Girls like you have to face the truth that most attractive men will not be attracted to them. It’s always the fairly undesirable women who say these things. You know that. That’s why you’ve come to this conclusion.
@Jamesmooreisherenow I don't think I'm undesirable. In fact every guy or almost every guy who hit on me has either said I'm cute or pretty. I consider myself feminine too. I'm only 5'5 so it's reasonable for me to want a guy who's taller than me or at least my height. And what's wrong with me being attracted to handsome guys? I'm not bad looking lol. Why do you feel the need to insult me by saying I'm undesirable?
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I don't think someone can consciously change their mind about whether they find somebody attractive or not.
I do think/know that people will change their opinions on the subject over time, and can eventually find someone else attractive who they previously didn't. The opposite can also be true.
You can't control who you are attracted to, but you can choose who you have relationships with. Here in South Florida, a lot of women seem to date the most dysfunctional man they can find and when the relationship is in trouble, they get pregnant to try to save the relationship.
My best friend is like that. Thinking getting pregnant will help her relationship with her crappy boyfriend. Then she ended up being a single mother and the father is not in the child's life at all.
@hannahjo022 Tragic for the kid who does not have two parents in the picture.
My friend is an awesome mother though
@hannahjo022 Full respect to your friend, I'm sure she is doing great. Studies show the child does better with two parents.
Nope. It's not a choice. We needn't feel shame for liking what we like. It's the purest form of attraction. We just have to roll with it. There are deep biological reasons for attraction, probably about best child-rearing partners and best compatible genes. "Don't fight nature" is my motto. :)
I don’t think you can really control it. There are guys I have met and not initially been attracted to, but their personalities make them physically more attractive. Same goes for a guy who’s hott but obnoxious… all of a sudden he’s not as attractive anymore.
Yeah? I mean how does anyone not do that?
If i show you a homeless guy then the exact same guy but looks great now and wealthy. I've just controlled the way he comes across to you making him more attractive.
Nvm talking about personal affection making someone more attractive. And all other way's attraction in controlled by multiple variables. And these variables can change easy.
Yes they can. But how ever thier true feelings will come out on top.
Some one could like blondes but really love a head of coal black hair.
I find a lot of people attractive. Just by thier looks. When we get to getting to know each other. There is when I find out if they will be in my life much longer or not.
It just seems more like you are developing preferences and there nothing to be ashamed or feel bad over. I have a huge preference of women who wear dresses and skirts but I definitely still go out with women who wear pants. As long your preference is simply only a preference and you aren't just using that as an excuse to be a dick towards others I say go out with any men or women you find more attractive.
I want to say yes because I'd say most people are attracted to whatever is trending in their community. However the fact is they aren't even aware of it so I'd ultimately subconscious. For example, I really only find skinny women attractive but I've tried other body types but either I'll have a weak erection or no erection. I'm weak to getting head and even that can't be used to get me hard with a fat chick. However if a skinny chick is barely cute just braces against me I'm fucking ready yow.
It's like asking can a drug addict kick the habit? Yes but that takes mental discipline... training one's mind. And maybe, just like some people are always hardcore drug addicts maybe some people just don't have the drive to control their minds.
No I don't believe you can control it. Everyone has their preferences and no matter how hard you try that will always ultimately be the case
Of course not. I do think as people age and change, what they find attractive and unattractive can change. But you have zero control over what you find attractive and not.
Not really, it is one part psychological things that influence it, personal taste like, and instinct. The taste can change or it can be influenced from the outside, the media or trends ofc.
No, but they can deny it to themselves and even give themselves a delusion about who they like without realising they're lying to themselves.
I think so... to an extent. Maybe there's a guy who you find 'whatever' but if you give yourself the time to let him in, to let yourself in into his life, who knows maybe something can bloom.
I don't think so. It seems like people either find someone attractive or they don't, and not much can be done to change it.
Yes, if you have a really nice personality I’ll see you as significantly more attractive regardless of if you’re “unconventionally attractive”
noi dont thin so, im always attracted to a certain type and they always catch my attention, its like a magnet i just can't help noticing them
I can turn my feelings on and off and if I love somebody it's always a choice.
yh. like i can find someone who i thought was attractive unattractive, so why not the other way around?
No I don't. Nor should you ever have to apologise or justify it.
Mostly they cannot. They certainly can't change their sexual orientation.
Yes only blonde thin women are attractive with big butts and boobs. I can't help what I am attracted to. If you are not that then you are ugly and need to gtfo.
you can't control how you feel but you can control how you act or not act on those feelings
@Still-alive Yeah if you have a crush on someone and it's not appropriate then you can't act on it in that situation
I believe men can; I think women are so completely lost in this made up reality they live in that they literally don’t know what’s real anymore.
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No. Preferences are biological. That is why light skinned women are more preferred
Attraction comes naturally so you can't control what you like.
You're 'uncomfortable being honest'. Got it. Wow.
Maybe you should just lie more. [shrug]
No, its not controllable. If you dont find someone attractive , you just dont. can't force it
I think no. A human can't control feelings about liking somebody.
No but someone who was first not attractive can become attractive with a good personality
No it’s subconscious. You can change it by changing yourself. Like reading more, getting fit, etc.
Not a chance. They'd be such people who objectify women if they happen to do that.
not everyone i couldn't control it when i saw my stepbrother and same with him
DM me?
and i made a mistake i meant stepsister
If they are drunk or haven't had any pootang in ages then every female probably looks great.
No, they can’t.
Thats why if someone says they’re not attracted to fat people, they shouldn’t be condemned.
Not exactly, probably can overlook some things but can’t really change what we feel is attractive
No you either do or don't
Attraction is not a choice
it's changeable. I know from experience and experiment but why anyone would want to change I have no clue
I don't think we can we like what we like
No not really. You like who you like.
No but they can control who they date.
Who would any anything but no?
Of course I believe that, doesn't everybody?
I don’t know really tough one
No; I don't think you can.
Yes we can't control it.
I know i can't but maybe some people
No it just happens sometimes
No, if so there wouldn't be incest
Yes I can.. sour grapes
No, it is not within our control.
Nope
No, you cannot.
no you can't
No I don’t
I don’t think so
No I don’t think so
I do believe so.
No not at all
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