Take my guy for example. He claims he is the one that dumped her, because she cheated on him for months (he figured 3 months before he dumped her only). He says it matters but the thing it it doesn't matter if HE was the one that dumped her because it seemed SHE was the one that dumped him already since she moved on to sleep with other guys. SO who dumped who? and does it matter? Even though he claims to have dumped her, he couldn't get her out of his head/system and moped around waiting to get her back for another 6 months! And he continued to talk about her wanting her back for another 6 years! And when we met he talked about her non stop,comparing me to her and making me act/dress/have sex like her! So he cares who dumped who! RIGHT?
- No It doesn't matter who dumped who
- Yes it does matter (explain)
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No it doesn't matter at all who dumped who. It sounds like he was really hurt by the fact that she cheated on him. Lots of guys I have met have really been knocked by being cheated on. It hurts them a lot and knocks their confidence, but tell him that you are not her and want him to move on from the past and start thinking about you instead of having her in the back of his mind. Making you dress like her is very extreme and so is the sex. Ask yourself how this makes you feel because he should like you for who you are and not because he wants you to be like someone else. One of my ex-boyfriends wanted me to shave because his ex-girlfriends did and I told him that I wasn't them. It turned out that he was very hung up on sex in general and we split up, but he did lower my confidence.