Should a man have a say in what their woman wears?

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TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

Let's look at your question pragmatically... There's platonic FRIENDships which exist based upon mutual appreciation of values and THEN there is 'Dating' which is interaction to explore ROMANTIC potential. Think of the FIRST as being 'equitable' and EQUALLY respectable. The SECOND, 'Dating'... is a societal kind of 'job interview' to BECOME the singular focus of the Interviewer's lusty romantic fantasies, ... the 'object' of that Interviewer's desire.  One's 'Date' is wined & dined to assess how 'experienced' they are at life skills. Among those skills is idealizing self-merchandization.  When you 'date' you are displaying your 'best' Self according  to the preferences of them whom you're 'dating'. For that time, THEY are your only 'audience', ... judge & jury.   "WHY" YOU should be THEIR sole focus of THEIR resources and potential... possibly for the rest of YOUR life.  'Yes'  its potentially THAT serious;  you're auditioning for a life's mate. KNOWING THAT, ... a cunning Huntress would observe and research how BEST to give themself negotiation advantage.  If you want to catch mice, learn to make a noise like cheese;  
 and they'll beat a path to your door.  When dealing with humans,  their Subconscious appetites control MUCH behind-the-scenes, that they rationalize later.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Yes and hopefully their opinion matters.

IveGotNoName · Accepted Answer

The short answer is yes, people in a relationship should always have a say in matters that they are involved in.

The long answer is yes, to an extent.

Asking your SO to put on more clothes while they are wearing something that is revealing, but socially acceptable, is NOT okay.

Asking your SO to put on more clothes while they are wearing something that is revealing, to an extent that is NOT socially acceptable is okay.

Asking them to wear something else when they are dressing out of character revealing is okay.

However, it should ALWAYS be a discussion, not an order. If one one party is uncomfortable with what their partner is wearing, boundaries need to be discussed, and in a loving relationship, hopefully the other party understands and wants their partner to feel comfortable.

LittleSally · Accepted Answer

Although I understand your sentiment, a man knows who he got with - and that person is not going to change for them. If you don't like very revealingly dressed women, don't date them.

petitedollbabee · Answer

They can make suggestions or give their opinion, but ultimately it’s the ladies choice what she wears. It’s her body afterall and how she presents herself is her decision only. You would’ve known how your girlfriend dresses within a few months of being together. Don’t like it? Leave. Suddenly one day decide that you have an issue with her outfits when you’ve been together long term? Leave. Remove yourself from the relationship, because you’re the problem here. If she’s comfortable in what she wears then let her be. A woman is not an object. She’s not some doll for you to dress up however you see fit.

TruthBringer · Answer

Yes, a man should be able to have a say. And if that's too much for some of you ladies, then I advise doing us men a favor by staying single. You can't have your cake and eat it too by having the privileges of a relationship and not being willing to give something in return. A relationship is a TEAM effort. You can't go out in attire as if you're single. You represent not only yourself now, but also your significant other.  If my woman wears revealing clothes, then she might as well be single and allow me to find someone who is more respectful of herself and our relationship. Thankfully, my woman cares for my opinion and is crazy about vintage dresses or anything that shows she is a woman with class. And even then she asks me what my opinion is. And if I don't approve, she doesn't wear/buy it. Which rarely happens anyway.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

It can cause some conflict. Attention whores care more about general attention than they care about one person. Let us take the woman in the picture for instance... You think she cares about her man or children having to hear about this bullshit at work or school from others? She would probably enjoy that they hear about it and have not a care at all about the bullshit others go through because of it.

You can reason with them if it doesn't provide a source of income. If they're making money off it then forget trying... society is literally paying them to seek attention.

I would like to direct your attention to Mia Khalifa or Brittany Renner. Thirst traps and they've been paid for it... how did their marriages go? That's my point. One is porn and one is just internet clout... same results in the long run. But they get paid. Let's see where they go once they're over 40.

FriendlyCanadianGuy · Answer

Not really, but he has a say in if he wants to stay with you or not because of the way you dress.

If you dress a certain way initially, then suddenly change to more revealing or even unrevealing clothing; it could be not what we were attracted to.

When I was 22, My ex started dressing like an old lady/ librarian 2years into dating, stopped doing her makeup, stopped showering often and always wore her hair up, even to a banquet where I was expected to wear a suit...
I never broke up with her for it, but it definitely dulled my sexual attraction towards her over time --- it might have been a contributing factor in us not being together today.

MementoMori777 · Answer

I think that all depends on the couple, personally If it bothers my partner then I'd put their feelings and emotions over what I want to wear and honestly I think every couple should because even tho a person should have the rights to choose what they wear it still doesn't change the facts that someones partner might feel a type of way about it and people should put their partners emotions over clothing, if you simply put the freedom of choice of clothes over your soulmates feelings then what does that really say about you, if you call someone toxic for feeling a type of way then perhaps the toxic one is you, a person shouldn't suppress those feelings simply cause you want to wear a pair of pants for example, if it bothers your partner then grow a pair and change your clothes, it's not a big deal.

seanras · Answer

In general -- should a partner have a say? Yes.

Not like it's a rule - but if they are important to you, it would matter.

Relationships should thrive on mutual unwavering affection and importance two people give each other instead of some rule book. The rule book comes in place when that affection is fading or gone completely. So then people have to think because they're not actually feeling that devotion they should. When you love someone, you don't need a rule book - every action you do, every thought is in their favor - because they are important. Then again, if these differences are a lot - they probably don't belong with each other.

CateM · Answer

Only to an extent. He can make suggestions but can't force her to change. Like that outfit above, he can encourage her to change into something else for something formal like a funeral or if she tried to wear white to a wedding, but if she refuses to change, so be it. But if she were to wear the outfit above for a girls night out, he should just fuck off. The same goes for men as well.

Msputiton · Answer

Naw. Odds are the way she dressed is what attracted him to her in the first place.

Now he's with her, he wants her to stop.

If what she wears is important to that guy don't date someone who dresses in a way that you find inappropriate in the first place.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

He can “not like” what she wears, he can decide he doesn’t want to be with someone who dresses like that. But no, he doesn’t have a right to dictate what she can and can’t wear anymore than a woman should dictate that to a man.

And then too, it’s one thing if she dressed more conservatively when first met and then changed how she dressed. But most times those men go after these women dressed with it all hanging out and then have an issue with it later when they’re dating…

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Yes to a degree because you don't want to become unattractive to your partner nor do you want to become attractive to everyone (that isn't your partner). How much beyond that, depends on the couple. Some women love being told exactly what to wear daily and others don't.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Yes, as a man you should have veto power over what your woman does. This doesn't mean you should invoke this power all the time, but as your woman is a reflection of you (and her) out in the world you should have a say in how she presents herself out there.

BeMuse · Answer

Obviously men can say whatever the hell the please. The women can disagree. The men can break up with them and tell them to go pound sand. It takes two to tango. If their views are vastly different, then they will go their separate ways. Women who repel many men and fail to consider their opinions will fail to acquire solid relationships. Eventually they end up self evaluating and adjust their strategy when it comes to dealing with men.

ShellyB · Answer

I think the girl should consider the guy's preferences and opinion with things like this but she is not required to follow it. There can be situations like, a guy likes seeing you in jeans which is fine. There can be other situations where the guy wants you to walk around half naked in public which is not fine if you are not comfortable with it (I say this having walked around half naked in public when I was not comfortable with it bc I couldn't say no to a guy, it is not a fond memory).

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes since otherwise you won't be a fit, so either she is okay with how he wants her dressed. Because a couple should please each others desires. If you can't then walk the streets alone. It's not like men has high demands in this regard only that you wear respectable clothes in public.

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

He should have a say in the same way your friends might. Like if you have a relationship with someone whether that be platonically or romantically, you value their opinions, and you may not agree with them all but you would still regard them right? So if my boyfriend told me something (that isn’t disrespectful) about what I was wearing I might ask him his reasoning or have him explain his thought process, but it’s not like he’s a dictator telling me what I should and shouldn’t be wearing.

CarolineW · Answer

Tricky question. My guy will often say which outfit he prefers, but he doesn't demand that I wear what he says. I tend to prefer a guy's opinion to another woman's opinion, though. They have different criteria.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

No. You went into a relationship knowing her outfit choices. If she suddenly changed to try different styles then you should support that. At the end of the day guys are going to look at her if she's in a mesh body suit or sweat pants and a baggy t. It literally doesn't matter.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I hate referring to my wife as "my woman" she isn't my possession and she wears what she wants. That said, if she wants to wear something with her tits hanging out and nipples poking through, im gonna question our relationship

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I was going to say NO! But when I saw the picture that went with the question, I think I’ll revise my answer and say yes within reason. THAT is completely inappropriate for ANY funeral, I don’t care that it’s black!

Draco3471 · Answer

Sure if he wants his woman pissed off at him all the time but there are nice ways to say wow baby you certainly would look good in this outfit do you I think I like these colors better than I do those what do you think I'm just asking your opinion but I really love the way you look in this

Anonymous · Answer

A man can't demand a woman dress a certain way, but he definitely should share his displeasure if she dresses inappropriately. But most importantly, he will have the FINAL say in whether he will tolerate her as a woman, and when to cut her loose so she can dress like a slut any time she wants.

msmissydc · Answer

Within limits yes. If we go out together we both should be fine and feel comfortable arround the other. More like a veto right than a say what to wear I would say. On the other hand, suggestions what you like are greatly appreciated. 🤗

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I believe a man is allowed to demand sexual fidelity in his wife but he is not allowed to demand religious or moral fidelity. Only God is allowed to demand religious and moral fidelity.

EmmaMary · Answer

Naturally my husband has ever right to cast his opinion or suggestion, however I too have ever right to either ignore or accept it.

AdithyaR · Answer

I don't think so. If you're bothered by what your partner wears that says more about you then them. And this goes both ways in a relationship.
You can have preferences but you have no right to dictate what your partner wears.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, Just like they Should have a Say in what we wear.

Girls wear Clothes usually for themselves which is fair enough, But us Guys know what other Guys think when they see a Girl wearing something Revealing or Risque especially when the Girl is Attractive so you should respect your Partner wether they are Male or Female.

purplepoppy · Answer

He shouldn't dictate what she wears but he has a right to say her clothes make him uncomfortable.

IceCreamSandwich · Answer

Have a say? No. Have an opinion? Yes. And hopefully, if she values him, she will take his opinion into account.

kespethdude · Answer

Absolutely not, and anyone who says otherwise should be banned from the Internet. It's 2023 for crying' out loud!

SphynxUK · Answer

No, they cannot have a say, but they can suggest. Doesn’t mean she needs to listen. I’m sure you liked how they dressed when you met them.

matchrestore · Answer

I will tell my wife "that looks good on you" or "you should wear that more often" but I won't ever dictate what she can or cannot wear.

Summeroflove · Answer

If it is something totally indecent. Yeah.  Otherwise people can wear what they want. Don’t mean I want to be around them

cth96190 · Answer

Yes, but a man should also minful that if his woman dresses like a street walker she is probably looking to monkey branch to another man. Either way, he needs a different woman.

Lynnfriend · Answer

What do you mean by selling them. If you mean ln like stop chat, or chatterbate yes than is definitely a form of prostitution.

Bricealan · Answer

I just dumped a long term girlfriend, because she dresses like she is homeless, and she has money.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

If they are in a committed relationship, absolutely ‘yes’!

elizamichale1 · Answer

As long as they r both ok its no big deal.. all my dresses r usually picked out by my partner

BJP21 · Answer

Nope. Dress as you wish. If you're feeling comfortable with it. I want my future girl to feel sexy and confident if she happens to being wearing provocative.

orangecherry · Answer

Yes but its the girls decision in the end. if you hate the clothes she wears break up with her I guess. You can't force a girl to dress the way you want.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Only within the levels of formality of the occasion. But how she interprets that is up to her.

Grond21 · Answer

He should not be an authoritarian, but he definitely has a say in how they present themselves as a couple

Ionabrassiere · Answer

Well in all fairness, women are always trying to tell the men in their lives what to wear and women seem to want to ask a male their opinion of their outfit often enough, so yes, if it's not in a controlling way and as a suggestion.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I think if you respect each-other you’ll understand and dress for each-other.

humanearth · Answer

No, because many women already try this bullshit with men

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Women" eww don't objectify us" women also yeah let me dress like this Confused gender.

Anonymous · Answer

They can make suggestions, but anything beyond that is none of their business.

Kelly6 · Answer

he can only give his opinion, but can't force her

Justneedtokno · Answer

If I was in a relationship, he can have an opinion if he cares

Shamalien · Answer

Yes. Women have a say in what men wear all the time

Anonymous · Answer

If your man suggests something is inappropriate to wear you should listen.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, but he can always dump her if she dresses like a THOT.

Fuentes · Answer

No I wouldn't be with a chick who lacks common sense in the first place.

ManHater · Answer

sure honey you look like a slut dress like that its all good no one will judge you.

AngryCarl · Answer

He can have a say but it's unlikely he will get a casting vote.

OddBeMe · Answer

hell yes. How else are women supposed to let their violence out?

bamesjond0069 · Answer

He does by definition if it's his woman, he has a say on everything about her.

Paul09 · Answer

Not really. But you can have a strong opinion.

maximumpower · Answer

In the case of the photos - would just walk away - and not come back. Nothing need be said.

ShovelheadSpringer · Answer

If she is your wife absolutely but she should also have a say in what her husband wears. And there should be compromises

Anonymous · Answer

They do! If they don't approve they just refuse to go anywhere with them.

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