Is it okay for a woman to dictate what her man wears?

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OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Nah, I'm no woman's personal Ken doll. If she's trying to dress you and picking your clothes for you, it means you're not "good enough" and she's trying to "fix" you. She doesn't respect you and/or is ashamed of you. Let that dynamic creep in and she'll definitely be fucking Chad in no time.

I take pride in impeccable grooming and pay attention to how I dress. I'm usually one of the best dressed guys in the room. A woman is absolutely welcome to give me ideas, tips, or feedback. Hey, that works or, that doesn't. You should try X. Or that jacket ain't doing you any favors. I may or may not incorporate that into my style.

But if she starts shopping for me and laying out what she wants me to wear to a given event... there's gonna be a conversation and probably a river of tears when I wear what I want and start turning on the charm with her friends in front of her.

It's definitely a FAFO moment.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I don't know about dictating, but suggesting I think is fine as long as the guy is cool with it.

I personally have a strong sense of what I like to wear and I wouldn't like being told what to wear too much. All of my partners have been satisfied or have had no problem with the way I dressed. And they also loved my opinions on their outfits, which I was happy to give. I'd like to think my sense of aesthetic is pretty decent.

alli-112 · Accepted Answer

Not any more than it is for a man to dictate what a woman wears (that is to say, no, it isn't). Of course, it's necessary to dress appropriately for the context, but even if one person feels the other isn't doing so, that's a discussion that needs to be had very respectfully and with a clear acknowledgement of the individual's autonomy and preferences.

Is there a specific circumstance or context you're thinking of with this question?

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Not OK for man or woman to order their SO's wardrobe, or order AROUND their SO.  Think it's fine to give clothes to SO that you'd like to see them in, and see if your person likes what. you've chosen.

AviatorTom · Answer

No, she cannot dictate what he wears. She can voice her opinion, and tell him what she thinks, but it is his opinion, he decides what to wear.

Having said that, most men will do what their woman tells them. It keeps peace in the family. 😏

DishLady · Answer

"Dictate"? No. But if he doesn't have the best taste and she gets him a nice shirt or something, that's nice.

Summeroflove · Answer

Only if both people agree on that. Some couples like picking one another’s outfit so as long as they both agree. That’s their business.

Beckybooboo · Answer

I never dictate what he wears but I do tell him what he looks good in and he will wear it if we're going out. The same goes for me, if he mentions how good I look in a certain outfit, I'll wear it more often.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes, I can’t let him make me look like a joke by doing this

lorenzomichael · Answer

I don’t know, but if your lady does that for you maybe you don’t have a sense of Fashion for yourself Or you’re just a pansy and you let her dress you up however she likes. At any rate, if you don’t like it, tell her and if you can’t or won’t tell her, then I don’t know what to tell you.
But to be honest with you, I had a lady do that for me she used to dress me however she liked, oh yeah I forgot that lady was my mom and I was five.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

It's not okay for a woman to do anything without a man's permission  Now go make me a sandwich

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Only if he is allowed to dictate what she wears.. or no one should be telling the other what to wear, since if you don't like how your partner dresses date someone else.

sawno · Answer

Dictate no, but women have much better sense of style so if your girl gives style advice based on what she thinks looks good its probably better than your own ideas.

alice55 · Answer

Not ok that's controlling behavior which more likely than not will lead to abuse down the road (except if she just tell him not to wear stained or dirty clothes...).

hannamontana · Answer

Sorry to say, but some men really need that! Some of them honestly don’t know what to wear or how to wear it.

Communicationisking · Answer

Dictate no, strongly suggest yes for certain events. If it was the other way around I think the response would/should be the same.

rtj1211 · Answer

It's only OK if the man consents to her doing so. If not, it's one of those acts of female rape that we're not allowed to talk about...

Lliam · Answer

It's okay to suggest, but no one has a  right  to "dictate" anything. That goes for men and women.

EmmaMary · Answer

NO... Absolutely Not... The beginning of the end... That is if it ever began in the first place.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Dictate? No! Have an opinion? Yeah. And most guys would do well to listen to her opinion when it comes to what he wears. 🤣

Apple1996 · Answer

Nope in a relationship both people still have their own free will to dress how they want to

SotiCoto · Answer

Words are free. She can't actually MAKE him wear what she wants though, and if she tries resorting to blackmail or coersion then she is scum... simple as that.

genericname85 · Answer

Sure. It'd his choice to stay with her. So if he's not ok with it, he can always just ditch her. So I think it'd ok if she wants that. To each their own.

Miristheiss · Answer

She can gives suggestions... tell me her favorites. Never dictate.

RavVid · Answer

To a degree. Same as me telling her what she cannot wear.

Bricealan · Answer

@twototootutu2 I don't tell my woman friend what to wear, so the same goes for her.

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends. Does he want to fuck me? If not, sure, dress however you like babe

exitseven · Answer

yes, I am somewhat colorblind so I usually do not psy attention to colors.

Chayce · Answer

If she likes him but his style is ass, why not.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

kantian ethics would say. its n the individual, meaning just cause you do it, doesn't mean all girls should

WhitneySnow · Answer

No And it works both ways

Anonymous · Answer

If that's what happens in your household let it be known that she is getting railed by the bull next door

FreyaRed · Answer

Only if he likes that.

StephanieChick111 · Answer

No, it should be the other way around.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Only for certain events and venues.

Jeff51 · Answer

Shorts and a tee. I'm very easy.

chrissykerdock · Answer

yes it's ok

jahaims · Answer

Wtf.

Herofin · Answer

Ha no chance here

msc545 · Answer

It is not ok.

Anonymous · Answer

No it's not.

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