Well, women often try to change what their husbands wear too - usually when the guy dresses down or wears old, dirty clothes. Married people should try to accommodate the other's wishes to an extent. But it is overbearing and controlling to make demands. Men of certain personality types or from certain cultures will try to dictate not just what their woman wears but also where she goes, who she can talk to, etc. Maybe it springs from some inner insecurity or mistrust.
To those below saying going braless looks gross... it's a look you often see on fashion runways, red carpets, at galas, in magazines, etc. It just depends on the clothes and the person. Also, some women are small and thin and don't require much support anyway, so it doesn't look strange for them to be braless in a T-shirt or tank top.
If I were married, I'd want her to wear what she's comfortable with and which expresses her personality. Some are honestly more comfortable wearing less. In most cases, that shouldn't be a problem. But if you are dressing a certain way to get the attention of other guys, then that's a symptom of a much deeper problem.
I think it depends on what she is wearing. If they are shorts that expose half of your ass, with a crop top that has cleavage half the way down your shirt, as well as thong straps visable above your waist band, then i can see why he would have a problem with it. But otherwise, i don't think its alright for him to have a say.
And even if it is appropriate for him to have a say, he shouldn't force you not to wear it. He should tell you how he feels about it, and ask you kindly not to wear it.
No, I do not think it is okay for a husband to dictate what is appropriate for his wife to wear. A man who does that is overstepping his boundaries and essentially creating a highly inappropriate, unhealthy dynamic between wife and husband. Honestly, that tends to be the first warning sign of an abusive relationship when a man starts trying to dictate how the woman in his life dresses and GIVES HER ORDERS on what she can and cannot do (as a grown ass adult/her own person).
Your husband’s friend has no concern with what you choose to wear. It is none of her damn business what you wear and he needs to accept the fact that he doesn’t have any legitimate right to control a woman.
If my husband or boyfriend ever tried to dictate what I wear, I would leave him.
I don't think so, if he wants you to wear a bra, tell him to wear a bra around all day and see how uncomfortable they are.
Also I do think it's ok to ask your wife to tone it down if she is wearing things that are very inappropriate because I can see why some men feel disrespected by really hoochie outfits their wives wear. But he has no right to demand it or have a dress code for her. And if it's just something a little sexy, then get over it.
s I think it's okay for him to tell what he likes and/or what he doesn't like, BUT he DOESN'T have the right to make demands. From the moment he does that, he stops being the husband and transforms himself into a dictator.
A husband is supposed to be also a friend to his wife, not her "owner".
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my father tells my mother what to wear most of the time. But my mom is okay with it because she doesn't know what to wear sometimes. I think at some point its somewhat controlling. But when he's telling you to wear a better shirt that covers your butt, I think he's being protective of her seeing how the world is today. But when it reaches the point like "You don't have this collar on properly" and "That shirt is missing a button. change it". Its kind of controlling and its like he's treating you like a child.
A husband as a right to some extent... why should he be okay with the world seeing things only he should be seeing... I think going bra-less is really gross so I see his point there. He seems to be a little crazy with the length of the shirts but in general he should have some say
I think that a husband has the right to offer an opinion on what his wife wears but not dictate it. Something like "honey, that's a little revealing" or "I don't feel that's appropriate but it's your decision" is okay but telling her that her shirts need to be longer because he's not comfortable is not acceptable at all in my opinion.
You shouldn't marry someone you feel doesn't dress appropriate. What I mean by that is, if you're a really conservative guy like say Josh Duggar you probably shouldn't be with a girl who likes showing a lot of skin and dresses like Miss Twerksum. Marrying says you accept them how they are. So unless she radically changed her style from when they first met he should deal with it.
Dictating what she wears? No he doesn't have the right.
Telling her he isn't comfortable with inappropriate clothes, he should be able to. If I'm married to her I won't be okay with her going out with something exposing parts of her only I should see.
It's like who are you trying to impress?
As someone who doesn't like to show skin in the first place, I would be VERY comfortable keeping it conservative.. I don't care if I'm taken or single. I AM A FUCKING LADY, AND I WILL KEEP SHIT CLASSY ON THE REGULAR... but when people start making "demands" on how I should dress... you can expect FULL rebellion. I do what the fuck I want. When the fuck I want...
A marriage is a equally balanced playing field. If your husband restricts what you wear than do it. That will give an equal and opposite ability to you restrict what he wears.
He has the right to give an opinion, but not to demand. She can wear whatever she wants cause it's her body, her life, so it's her decision, if he doesn't like it, he knows where the door's at.
I would tell your husband that you didn't marry his friend and that you are your own person. Disn't isn't Afghanistan or Utah you can ware or dress however you want.
Honestly what kind of husband orders his wife around? To me any husband that does that is a shitty husband who doesn't truly care about his wife's happiness if he has to tell her what to do. In that case he's just babying her and barking orders.
no marriage isn't a fascist regieme in most parts of the world--where are you from?
you're not a child. he can give his opinion but its no ones place to tell you how to dress. you're an adult.
I don't think anyone should go braless because I don't want to see saggy boobs no matter how young you are, but the rest he needs to mind his own business about.
No way. I was in a relationship with a guy who liked me the way I was dressed when we first met but eventually he wanted me to tone down my outfits. I broke up with him as I want to dress the way I like.
EXCUSE ME. Why are we not focusing on the fact that her friends husband told her how to dress, not her own? THAT is out of line, no question.
No way. My husband needs to understand that I am my own person. Nobody has the right to tell me what to wear. If he likes he can offer an opinion, which I can choose to listen to or not.
The way you dress is none of his business. He shouldn't tell his wife what she can and can't wear. I think it's okay for him to mention that he doesn't like how short something is on his wife though.
Haha, he's not only dictating what his wife wears, but is trying to push that on you, too. I don't feel I have the right to dictate but I can make suggestions...
not in that way! maybe sometimes telling me to cover my cleavage or wear a longer skirt or something like that but nothing more!
it should not be like that.
bt he should asked you to wear what you like. what u dont like he should not.
it's different depending on the man himself maybe he just means well and he's jealous
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