Is it wrong to ask my husband permission to dress a certain way?

[Anonymous]

im the type of girl who wants to ask for my husbands blessing when it comes to wearing slightly provocative clothes. Is this a bad characteristic? I just want him to be content with me and asking him makes me happy. Idek how to explain it but it just feels good inside.

[BlackMaleYou]

You are doing the right thing, Trust me. Most of the people that are replying her are likely not married, divorced. Asking your husband for his opinion and permission is a good thing that says you respect and love his opinion and it is even better when he respects you opinions to. There are men (people/onlookers) that would think you are stupid and there are even more others that are searching for a woman like you, that appreciate it. Your type is hard to fine these days. I just hope your husband appreciates you for this.

[Joti_Harrison]

Nothing wrong about it. It just shows you value his opinion on what to wear. Plus, he is your HUSBAND, not a boyfriend.

Feminism has kinda made women antagonistic against heeding your partners opinion or advice.

Feminists think you are somehow a slave receiving commands when you listen to your partners opinion on things. in my opinion they are very DUMB with that mindset.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I think it's wrong. You'll end up like my dumb sister, who has to ask permission to do anything: cut her hair, find a better job, travel with her family, use her own money (since her deadbeat husband doesn't have a job) to buy things for herself, lose weight.
It'll be too late when she realises that she's wasting her life with such a scumbag.

[Asker]

Well I wouldn't be with a deadbeat... I mean a levelheaded man :)

[Cloudy25]

I'd never ask for permission, I'd take his opinion into consideration if it's reasonable though. I think it's fine to dress sexy as long as it's not trashy so I don't think I'll have that problem.

[TacosRAwesome]

I do the same when I think an outfit is a bit too risky. If he doesn't mind, then I don't mind either. But for me it is more about getting an external opinion than asking for permission.

[deraz24]

I would ask what he thinks of it but letting him pick whatever I don't know ab, I would be respectful but if you have something you wanna wear I'd wear it

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Not at all. Some people will say "you're a woman, you can do whatever you want," but I feel like you asking your husband just means you care about his opinion and whether or not he's comfortable on what your wearing.

[WhistleForTheChoir]

If a woman asked me for permission on how to dress I would think she is too needy and a little odd, but it's ok. I'm sure you'll find someone who is controlling, demeaning and abusive enough to want to rule over every minutiae of your wardrobe. Some guys will even straight up tell you how to dress.

[AynonOMouse]

It is good for people to dress in a way that their SO approves of.

[Asker]

Cool!! How come you think that way? I like this but it's my choice

[AynonOMouse]

If someone is dressing provocatively they will attract more attention from the opposite sex when in public. They should not be trying to attract opposite sex attention when they are in a relationship unless they are trying to be a cheater.
I wouldn't be wearing a tank top and showing off my arms in public while alone if I was in a relationship, because I know it gets me more attention, and I wouldn't want the girl dressing in a way to get her more attention either when alone.

[Asker]

How about if she is with you, still not allowed?

How come some people say this is controlling?

[Asker]

Also, would you be upset if he still wore it although you don't approve?

[Asker]

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[TheDamnYankeeLad]

You have every right to seek your husband's input. People don't understand that the reason divorce rates are so high is that feminists are told that they don't need to get their partner's input on anything because they're "strong, independent women" and they shouldn't try to compromise and seek advice from the men the love. You can't do it alone, and neither can he. You're both parts of a whole; of one flesh, as the Bible put it.

[ThiPampo]

Its fair that making him happy makes u happy too, its a sign that u really like him. However, u need to be happy with yourself too For instance, if there is some clothes u want to wear bc u like it, or any reason, n he doesn't want u to wear, there is a little problem. Its ok if u wear clothes he doesn't like, the problem is if he makes a big deal of it. That way he would only be showing that making u happy doesn't necerssaly makes him happy. Its a simple matter of priorities

[Kelly6]

It is normal and better for relationship to ask him

[Asker]

Cool, why do you think so?

[Kelly6]

I ask

[williamHD]

No it's not wrong once and while but you should be able to wear what ever so their is no need to keep doing it just once he understands that your thinking about him in the situation

[abc3643]

You should be free to do what you want, but soliciting his input is a good thing to do in a marriage.

[JimRSmith]

If it makes you feel good, it makes you feel good.

I don't personally feel that you should have to ask, but it's your relationship, so go for it.

[AydenHazor]

As long as you're asking him because you want to all him and not because he demands it, there's nothing wrong with it. If it makes you happy, go with it.

[madhatters4]

i think it's wrong that you have to ask for permission to wear certain clothing

[Chanel1981]

If it makes you both happy I don't see a problem, everyone's different :)

[XRabbitHeartX]

I dont think it is bad per say. As long as you dont think he owns you or something.

[Justinaveragedude]

some would say, yes, because you have the right to do what you want, but I will say if your husband loves and respects you, this is probably a quality that he treasures in you.

[Extazye]

There is nothing bad about it. And if it makes you feel good. Then its totally alright. Plus if I had a wife and she would ask the same thing. It would even make me respect her more.

[cattertone]

that should be fine, I see that as respecting the relationship you're in. provocative and revealing clothes should be saved for the bedroom anyway haha

[ATuairiscean]

To each their own but to me, it is a bit controlly.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, it's wrong to have to ask your husband how to dress a certain way.

[johnmichaei]

so you are a good little submissive wife that's what it shows and it's not wrong at all the this dominant Southern gentleman

[runnearon123]

you shouldn't have to do this but careful because you might see a prescient

[Lakshmi_Reddy]

yes, it's wrong. he is not school teacher to command you. but you can ask him about his opinion on the dress u wear

[malaya20]

No it is not wrong at all

[JEAII]

No its not wrong I feel like it shows respect

[reptocarl]

Yes it is bad

[Asker]

Why?

[reptocarl]

Because you're an adult and don't have to ask permission for anything

[Asker]

But he's my husband and I want his approval. I think once you're in a relationship you are not completely independent anymore. It's nice to have a shoulder to lean on

[reptocarl]

Bullshit. Permission? He's a husband not your dad or master. Grow up

[PoliceLivesMatter]

@reptocarl, your thinking is very reptilian I would say. It's an obvious gesture of consideration and care. It's not some "master" or controlling relationship.

[Asker]

@PoliceLivesMatter yeah I don't think it's controlling. I just want him to be happy with me and I don't want to upset him by wearing something that he wouldn't approve of.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Yeah, though I would advise that there is a difference between this and a controlling marriage. Hope you know the difference. I don't think your personal situation will turn into one, just wanted to let you know.

[reptocarl]

@PoliceLivesMatter I have a big problem with the word "permission" she's a fucking slave using that word

[reptocarl]

But what if you liked it and he didn't