Not at all , unless she likes that sort of thing , some girls like being controlled. which is sad just shows she doesn’t value herself and has low self
Esteem and her man controlling her is the biggest piece of shit on the planet considering he doesn’t think his shit doesn’t stink , I feel bad for girls that fall for guys like that honestly , They will never experience true love , they mold a girl to be his slave that isn’t love that is abuse , When someone loves you unconditionally they love you for you not for what they want you to be , the only control there should be in a relationship is guidance , when a man tells his girl that he doesn’t feel comfortable with her hanging out with some people , and same Goes for her to him , that isn’t insecurities it’s respect for each other , everyone has some sort of insecurity whether they say they do or not , if you are in a relationship with someone that doesn’t care what you do then they more than likely are screwing someone else or they aren’t scared of losing you , if they are overly insecure and can’t let you leave their side , then they are More than likely cheating on you , A little bit of insecurity is good in a relationship but over insecure is control and a manipulative tactic , If it’s not ok for you to do something but ok for your partner to do it then they don’t love you they only care about themselves , why it’s best to always wear your partners shoes like they should be wearing yours , The only time control is really acceptive is in bed with each other
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My wife tired. It only pushed me to wear more women's clothing out in public.
I been crossdressing the entire time we been together openly for that last 31 years. In the early years she tried to tame me.
I got defiant and pushed back. I went to normal everyday clothes wearing to extreme most outlandish drag queen I could be in public. I made it my goal to teach her a lesson, to either to get her to leave or accept me for me
After a week she gave up and I won. Everything went back to normal. Now 31 years later we are still together.
I guess I won
Hell no, it is NOT ok.
As someone who was on the receiving end and giving end of it. It's just wrong. You have to accept people for how they are. As in, how you met is how you should accept them.
I used to have an ex who would constantly say, " you don't have to wear makeup" " you don't need to worry about what you wear" mind you, never complained about having to wear makeup or how I would dress as I love doing both of those things as they make me feel pretty and like a million bucks. I then realized he was just trying to get me to have low standards on how I viewed myself so he could better isolate and control me. Needless to say I told that mofo to kick rocks on a highway.
In another instance, I tried to, in my view, 'elevate' how one of my exes would dress as I felt they dressed like a friggin dork with how they wore graphic tees, one precisely that read "siracha" on it... sigh. I was wrong for trying to do so because it was not my place to control what they wore.
If a person I'm attracted to likes to wear a particular style, then I either have to like it too or get the hell out of the way so someone who does like how they style themselves will.
This has nothing to do with what style or manner of clothing your partner has you wear. There is only one point about your question. It is the world "control."
The only person who should have control over what you wear is you.
However, you might want to wear something to please your partner from time to time. That's wonderful. You might even ASK your partner what he or she would like to see you wear. But the control is YOURS.
If you allow yourself to be controlled in one aspect of your relationship, this could sidle over to other parts of your relationship. My question is why?
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No it wouldn't be, I'm about to be 50, I think I'm quite capable of picking out my own clothes.. That doesn't mean wouldn't wear things I know my partner likes seeing me in, but someone telling me what I can and can't wear, yeah no and wouldn't do that to my partner either...
Not control, they should never forbid or force you to wear anything. But being in a relationship you should also value their feelings - if wearing a particular garment upsets them, you should definitely take it on board and not undermine their feelings!
On the other hand, if they want you to wear something you're not comfortable wearing then compromise and maybe wear it in a more private setting or just for them. You can also customise clothes to either cover up or reveal more (for example).
Your partner, if you're in a healthy and loving relationship genuinely wants what's best for you or at least what they sincerely perceive to be the best for you. They shouldn't be controlling but what you do is definitely their business and it's normal they'd voice their opinions. After all, if you're together then your looks reflects not only on you but on him as well (and vice versa, I definitely had an inpact on my boyfriend's wardrobe).
If you can't agree at all then it might be best to go separate ways and search for a partner whose cultural values match yours better.Is this a serious question? Why would anyone want to be with someone who controls what they wear? Many times I cannot wear what *I* want to wear because of my mom. Well, OK, that's what I get for NOT being eighteen... HOWEVER, once I'm on my own, I guarantee you I would NOT put up with anyone dictating what I wear! I will be looking for a husband, not a handler.
"Sweetie - does this leash go with my outfit?" No... not happening. I'm not anyone's pet.@Breanna_nonbinary Obviously the answer is no but the solution is creating a joint, agreed upon vision for the relationship. That means they make a vision of exactly how they want their relationship to look and I mean EVERYTHING. Then from there you progressively realize the vision in a state of harmony. That's the fun part. If one does that then this type of thing won't happen because you'll know about the issue before the relationship is set to serious and once you do you can address and split up or one has to say they want to change and genuinely mean it.
There is a lot more to it but because people don't do that, this type of stuff happens. We don't vet people nor our relationship potential well. We don't even vet ourselves well. We have never been taught.Control, no.
But they are free to point out what they think about it.
I can easily see why it would be a problem for a girl if I never bought new clothes and just used my increasinly worn-out cloths to the point where it became unattractive. In such a case I'd want to be given a warning-sign.
I don't know when I would step in though..
I mean if she decides to become a nudist.. I.. shit.. I don't know how I'd react..
Actually, yes I do.😈
But seriously, maybe I'd try to convince her not to but in the end, her will is hers alone..
And if another mans gaze breaks us up then so be it. If she don't want to stay, what can I say..I feel like what you wear is your decision but at the same time I feel like you shouldn't wear anything that would embarrass your partner
Like I'm going to wear my blue polo and my black dress pants no one's going to stop me but if I was wearing something that was a little more embarrassing than yeah I totally understand if she would say that I can't wear that like if I were to wear a pink tank top and a purple Speedo or something like that you'd get it or something with polka dots I'd get that but now if you're wearing something that isn't like ridiculous or embarrassing then no honestly they shouldn't choose what you wear because what you wear is part of who you are
Of course there are exceptions to the rule such as lingerie, formal attire, costumes, and anything wedding relatedI think there should be certain things that both people should go along with what their partner finds as acceptable. Revealing clothing that often is worn to seek attention from others is one of those things. That also includes whether a guy should go shirtless in public as well.
If someone doesn't wear something when staying home for the day with their partner, but only wears a certain outfit when going out in public then it IS to seek attention from others. I think people that seek validation from strangers more than they do from their own partner are too immature for a long term exclusive relationship. Someone's partner should be their priority, not impressing strangers.No but it’s considerate to take into account their feelings, and it’s selfish not to on the basis of principle. For example, I’d never want my boyfriend wearing a shirt with the F word to my family party. And I won’t wear shirts with pokey nipples around his siblings. Can I? Yes. But do I know that it would bother him to know that his family can see my nipples? Yes. Does he know that I would be bothered by his f word shirt? Yes. This is a relationship. It’s not about using each other as stepping stones to push ourselves higher. It’s about learning to live life together happily.
Yes and no. If a woman is dressing like a stripper every time she goes out with the girls, then I completely understand a mans compelling to say something about her choice of clothing.
However, I also believe that if a mans girl is dressing like she left half her outfit at home, then perhaps the guy should think about getting a new girlfriend? 🤷♀️no way are you kiding it ok to ask for a opinion but i would rather feel comfy in something i lik not in a downer with something i dont like if i liked it i would say yeah thats a good idea now and then but if i didn't i would say no i like what i want if you dont like i turn around nd walk away nd dont look back no one is aloud to control me
The fact that you’re using the word control should make the answer very obvious.
Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you become their belonging. You are still an individual who is more than capable to choose your own clothes. Your partner has zero rights to dictate on that.Generally, when I am out with other people male or female I am not worried about what they choose to wear. However, with the ladies, I am a passive control person. By passive I mean if I am not comfortable with the lady I WILL NOT go out with her. This is 100% my right to do. I don't like to go out with females that wear things like this! If she is dressed like this ---
I am telling her to put some clothes on or I am going alone! While it is not right to be a control freak, I do maintain and reserve the right to control who I go out with!
No, of course not wtf? We don't live in the biblical ages anymore, where women were men's property and had to get their permission to do anything.
It's ok to offer stylish tips, as long as it's done in a polite, non-insulting way...
I he can't be civil about it, tell him it’s time to go try and control someone else and dump him. You can and should dress however you want, and if he can’t see past the layer of clothes you wear to the person you are, then he’s got a problem, not you, and worse, it’s a bad ego problem.Yes, but it should happen once in a while.
And also you should say is "choose" instead of control. Your person will like it too.
Bit if you repeat it again and again, then boom! He will never come to your place with some clothes, even in your room.
And this is universally used everywhere.
Yes another thing if your partner likes it then he will ask again, so depends on your choise and his taste.
Or if he/she wears like off fashion then just suggest and describe the aura of that clothes.
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My husband doesn't control what I wear, but I pick his clothes. I won't let him out of the house in crumpled clothes or totally mismatched. I'll choose and his tie his tie for him if the occasion calls for one. He'd wear tshirts and the same pair of pants everyday of I didn't intervene. 🤦 Stains, holes, wrinkles, he couldn't care less.• It's absolutely not OK any partner forcing each other regarding outfits.
• it's a violation of basic human individual rights.
• both parties should be made pre agreements.
Me never force to my girlfriend what to wear, what not to wear, it's a her freedom of choice, if she ask advice then I do my opinion.
I always compliment and encouraging her whatever however whenever she wear.I believe when in relationship you should dress discreet unless I'm with him. But I don't think it's okay for anyone to tell anyone what to wear and what not to wear. I've had controlling ex's try and tell me what I'm gonna wear. I laugh and leave that's bullshit and uncalled for
I think it’s ok to tell your partner what your preferences are but ultimately your partner can wear whatever they want to. If you feel embarrassed by their style choices, maybe you might just not be compatible. As far as being unhygienic, wearing worn out/beat up clothing with holes in it, or too revealing etc I can get why that would make someone want to change the other person but really maybe you shouldn’t be dating them either.
If I’m about to make a clothing choice mistake, I’d rather be told by someone who cares about me that Im making said mistake than by someone who is just being a jerk. In that sense I’m ok with being told not to wear something, because that is helpful and useful to both myself and anyone else who would have the misfortune of seeing me.
Everyone has their favorite clothing styles. Sometimes it’s a reflection of how you’re feeling that day, other times it’s for other reasons. I think it’s important for you to be able to make those choices yourself. The unthought of benefit of making these decisions yourself might be an unsolicited comment from those who you care about or love. Somebody is controlling what you wear or any other part of your life, it takes away those unexpected enjoyable compliments and self pride.
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