Should a man or woman get any say in what thier partner wears when they go out?

[ChiTown33]

Like how you dress can be sign of the respect you have for your partner. Do you think dressing provocatively for a woman or underdressing for a man is a sign of disrespect? Should your partner get some say? I think the couples were pretty varied in this video.

[EmyyWolf]

I’ve seen all those videos before. All of them. It’s upsetting how much women hook up. 😢 @ChiTown33

But you need to understand that HookUp culture happens mainly in big cities where there is overpopulation. New York City. California, Miami. That’s the first thing you need to understand. The Birthcontrol pill also disrupts the female mating process. It creates hookup-culture more than anything. Because female nature is to be selective and picky. We’re not wired to just choose some fool in one night. 😢 I’m so sorry you had to see that side of women. THAT IS NOT ALL WOMEN. I REPEAT.. IT IS NOT ALL OF US.

Another thing, those interviews take place in Miami FL 🌴, I live in FL 🌴. The temperatures here rise well beyond 98 degrees. SPECIALLY IN MIAMI.
I’m in Orlando FL, and it gets to 98 here. Miami is 5x that. Always has been.

In an area that feels like the sauna. People are obviously gonna dress less covered up. If you only knew the humidity levels that we have here. It’s literally like a Vapor 🧖 Sauna. Specially all through summer. All day, All night. Imagine living somewhere that felt like the Sauna every single time you stepped outside.
Our cars feel like those Dry Saunas, and just outside it feels like a Vapor Suana. The extreme humidity makes the sun feel 10x hotter because the water in the air makes the sun magnified 🔍 on us.

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This is literally how we feel in Florida 🌴.

That being said. I NEVER dressed like those women on the video. Only because there are too many old creeps around looking 👀. I would NEVER EVER, In my fucking existence, dress like those chicks. Only because there are way too many undesirable ass men walking around. Old Farts. And ugly ass creeps. 😬 YIKES! I could not do it. That shits insane.

I think a man SHOULD tell a woman not to wear some insane BS. Because he’s protecting her from the eyes of all those fools. From the grotesque eyes of the undesirables. She can dress like that for him, but not out and about, no matter how pretty the outfit is.

Many women tend to dress all flashy and attention needy, because she’s trying to compete with other women. Not to attract males. But because she wasn’t to send a message “HEY IM A BETTER FEMALE THAN YOU ARE”. It’s a competition amongst women, a battle, not necessarily her wanting another guy or male attention. Sometimes it is, but most of the the time it’s not. Either way it’s disgusting and disrespectful.

I’ve never been in a relationship, but every time I go outside in Florida 🌴, I dress like this.

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I don’t need some gross idiot looking at me. Or try to ask me out. I’m never gonna dress like I need dick out and about. I am curvy and guys already ask me out here and there even with me covering absolutely everything. I can only imagine the attention if I dressed like I need dick.

[EmyyWolf]

I APOLOGIZE ON THE BEHALF OF ALL WOMEN. The women who hookup are clearly troubled. Or corrupted by birthcontrol. THAT IS NOT FEMALE NATURE ‼️

[ChiTown33]

I appreciate your post and the time you put into it. But you don't owe me any kind of an apology @emyywolf

[EmyyWolf]

A guy like this I like:
youtube.com/shorts/GZKZGAiEAWs?si=ZIJQX1-vjGwqoi9p

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe prescriptive clothing directions are too invasive and controlling but restraint based rules are allowed. Like it would be wrong to tell your wife what colour to wear, but you can tell her what is not to wear if what she wants to wear is really and obviously inappropriate. Like its wrong to complain about the colour of her shoes or the material of her clothes, but you can complain that her skit is too short or her cleavage is showing etc... But I think a normal guy would not even consider dating a girl who might dress like that if they are over the age of 35.

[ChiTown33]

Yeah I kind of agree. There's a difference between being highly critical of someone (insulting even). And just making a suggestion.

[Yannae]

I am a bit nervous, because I want to say 'Yes' to an extent.

You see, I want her to be a reflection of myself. In how she represents herself in the world, how she dresses, how she acts. Just like I am supposed to be a reflection of her and her values.
At the club you see two type of women. Group A, who barely have any clothes on, twerk as their basic dance move and have 'dance positions' become suggestive sex positions. These girls often have the same kind of pictures on their socials which is revealing, teasing poses, with a little caption like they don't know what's going on. I don't find this group attractive at all and would not want to see my partner dress this way.

Now group B ar the club, she is dressed casually. Isn't showing anything. She might be sitting on the side. Or she's dancing and it's just that simple two step. Feeling herself in the music with these basic dance moves. Their socials, you won't find any sexual tease picture on there. Now this is the type of woman I look for.

So now I explained that. Do I have a say? To an extent if she is from Group B, suddenly dressing like Group A. If we dated and she always dressed modestly all the way up until we go official and suddenly she dresses like Group A, I would want her to go change. You can be feminine, but stay modest and classy at the same time.
This is perhaps one of those things that should be discussed before you get together.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

Alright, Jennifer, let me start by saying that you're absolutely wrong about this whole "prescriptive clothing directions" bullshit. It's not about being invasive or controlling, it's about respecting your partner and their feelings. And, by the way, your ageist comment about not dating someone over 35 who dresses provocatively is just ridiculous. People should be able to express themselves however they want, regardless of their age.

Now, to answer Chitown's question about whether a partner should have a say in what the other wears: Yes, absolutely! Communication is key in any relationship, and discussing your feelings about your partner's attire is a part of that. It's not about controlling them, but rather about understanding each other's boundaries and preferences. If your partner is wearing something that makes you uncomfortable, it's important to talk about it openly and respectfully.

Ms. Jen is an ignorant hypocrite who thinks that controlling your partner's clothing choices is acceptable. You also have a disgusting ageist attitude towards people over 35. Grow up and learn to respect others, you unrighteous control freak. #expression #choice #booblove

[msc545]

I have gone out with quite a few women and I have never had occasion or really any reason to spontaneously tell any of them what they should or shouldn't wear. I've had a few women ask me if I'd liked their outfit several women ask me if they should bring a jacket or a sweater because of the weather, but I think this is different than what you are intending with this question. So to reiterate, no I do not tell people what to wear.

Conversely, I have had a few women tell me what I should wear without me asking for their assistance. I find this very insulting and intrusive and unless there's a good reason for it, I don't tolerate it very well. I'm an adult and I can dress myself without assistance.

[ChiTown33]

Well without a doubt tact should be used if attempted. I tend to agree with what @rigmarole said. Because it's a routine problem you're probably dating the wrong person. I just stumbled across this video and thought it'd be topical for G@G.
Thanks for you opinion.🙂👍

[Singing_Hollow]

Most the time its the women that dress inappropriately. Women Crave attention and the only way they get attention is by dressing lustfully, however its the wrong attention and men know this thats why when a man gets into a relationship he is trying to shield his partner from attracting the wrong attention and tries to keep her modesty. Women fight this because they think the man wants to control her but its not, if a man truly loves and cares about you, he will protect what he cares and loves and wants the best for her. A man should have a say on what his partner wears and where she goes in order to protect her because thats his job.

[Rei13]

Yes and no. If you’re choosing to date and then marry someone you know what their style was previous to you entering that relationship. You can’t expect someone to dress a completely different way for you, so if she was goth don’t expect preppy in pink or vice versa. However you also do reflect your partner and should be respectful of them. If you’re a woman and you’re in a relationship maybe don’t wear super provocative clothing and if you’re a guy don’t dress like a total bum with a ton of holes in your clothes. It’s okay to talk to your partner and say what you are and are not comfortable with. They do get a say, but that doesn’t mean they get to completely control how you present yourself either

[ChiTown33]

Agreed but like I told the administrator people can and do change. Yes I totally agree! You know what you're getting into when you get to know someone. But people can and will change sometimes.

[YesterdaysChild]

I would say so, under certain circumstances. Would you want to go with someone who dressed like they were homeless or a street walker? Also, what respectable gentlemen would want his girl to dress like a prostitute? At least not anyone who doesn't want people to think that is what you hang out with. Of course I'm only speaking for myself. What everyone else does is their business and they can take their own fallout.

[BoopBoopBeep]

If she likes this suit better than that one by all means let me know. I'm going out to dinner with her I want to look good for her, however she describes that. I expect the same consideration in return. What you wear when I'm not there isn't my concern.

[rigmarole]

You have all the say you want. If they don't dress in a way you like preferably just don't date them to begin with, but at worst you can break up with them at any time.

[ChiTown33]

Agreed. And I think that goes without saying but I can still ask the question. Lol

[rigmarole]

I didn't report you or try to censor you. Ask all the questions you want.

[ChiTown33]

Thanks man🙂👍

[genericname85]

everyone should be entitled to their preference for their partners attire. you can and you should not be allowed to make your partner dress in a certain way. however you are and you should always be allowed to not stay with a partner who does not present themself in public in a way that you can accept.

[tzdc21]

Well here's the thing, and this doesn't just go for dressing, there are things you can do when you're single that you should not be doing when you're in a relationship. So if you dress provocatively, or go to strip clubs, or continuously flirt with people when you're single, that's fine. But that doesn't mean it's appropriate to do that when you're in a relationship with someone.

[A_Bell]

Yes. Respect for each other is important and that means putting effort into appearance and not dressing like a psych ward resident all the time.

[snowboarder720]

Any person should wear whatever they are comfortable with. If their partner disagrees then they aren’t compatible.

[Spongebobssocks]

Yes. I'd respect him so he should respect me too

[Mac-One]

You should definitely express your concern if your partners clothing causes you to be uncomfortable. It should be nice to coordinate your clothing and even wearing matching clothing is nice and attractive.

[soe11]

• I don't think so
• Depending on occasion.
• Depending on environment
• Depending on weather

[Fireguy17]

If I looked like a dork yes I would hope she would let me know.

[dolemite58]

i would never try to control what my girlfriend does, id just set boundaries that i wouldn’t be her boyfriend anymore if she dressed like a hooker when she went out.

[LiamJHayden]

I suppose if it really offends the person, he or she can refuse to continue the relationship.

[Bobbybopeep]

Yeah. I don’t see why they shouldn’t.

[ChiTown33]

Because some might view that as controlling I guess. Like I've told others this is why the views will always be varied on this. It's not only what you say sometimes but how you say it.

[Bobbybopeep]

I just think people are too soft these days. If your hair is sticking up I’d tell you. And I put this scenario in the same category.

[DreamLife7]

No..