Personality is pretty useless without looks
I am going to send a link to this post every time I read a comment from a man saying that it's not fair that no girls ask him out, and women are so superficial, and women hold all the power in dating/sex....because this is the reality for everyone. If you are not attracted to someone, then you aren't. No amount of looks or personality depending on what you value more or both, is going to change whether or not they are attracted to you. Everyone has a preference and if those boxes aren't ticked about what floats your boat, then that's it. And for anyone that says, well looks fade...yes, they 100% do for most of us over time, but you still fell in like/love with that person partially because of the way they looked and their personality also happened to be something you liked so that and a whole host of other factors is why you don't leave them because they gained ten pounds or have gray hairs down the line.
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I agree. Personality alone will get you as far as the friendzone. You need looks and personality for the person to feel more satisfied and not like they’re settling. I have to date someone who has both. He doesn't have to be hot or handsome but certainly cute at the least. Face is the first thing i look at when i see a person
Looks fade with everyone. My experiences dating are that the younger girls (18 - 24) place a high value on looks, but if you look a little older, say (30 - 35) looks become less of an issue. Every girl is different though, I've had some girls tell me they could only get off in sex if the guy they were with was noticeably less attractive than them. Those same girls most guys would assume would be out of their league.
Take a break from dating and work on yourself - the results will speak for themselves.
You’re right. Looks matter to both genders.
women just dont say it out loud because they dont want to seem shallow.
and guys delude themselves into thinking that they dont need good looks to get women, just “game” and status. The truth unfortunately hurts.
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Lol… if that’s what you found, you might have a good personality just not the right personality to attract a lot of women.
No it's not. Personality is the key to longevity. You have to understand how mating works. Mating is predicated on 4 things:
1. All of what you offer
2. The Quality of that offer
3. The difficulty there is in replacing the contents of that offer
4. Your environment
Looks is just 1 thing of which you offer. If you want better results offer better things and make them high quality. Personality can be changed. Looks can be built up to a degree but personality is completely changeable. Also the life you provide is apart of what you offer. There are ways to make up for not being a 10. And if you do you can still get at the very least a girl who is a 6-7. Many ugly dudes have hot chicks because although they lack looks they rock in the other areas of their offer.Depends on the person. Personality is essential to me, don't care how good they look if personality isn't there.
We all want the best, but have to make tradeoffs. Those are your choices and may change as you age. It's a formula of some kind.
You do need physical attraction of some sort, but chemistry is more important.
I disagree. I went on a 'blind date' with a girl, I was fixed up with and did not find her particularly attractive. What a complete fool I was? I should have started going out with her as she was a WONDERFUL girl, and I was a dumb ass for not continuing with her.
Sometimes you might see someone and say to yourself meh not sure If I am physically attracted to her but then she might have the cutest laugh or the biggest smile you ever seen that might make you think differently. Now if you are simply just talking about someone who you know for sure they ain't my type then nothing will probably change that.
You would look good too if a woman would give you complements a few times. The added confidence would make your skin glow. So sad you don't. It's like an endless cycle of low self esteem. You have low self esteem so woman treats you bad and then it in turn lowers your self esteem even more.
I have the looks but no personality, and I get nowhere with women.
Ok, I have a good personality, but it takes too long for me to let my guard down and show it.
I have no problem attracting them in the beginning, but once they start talking to me they usually lose interest.
It's a god damn curse.Seems like a lot, many guys say they really like me before they have ever met me. Then again I could send them a ugly pic and suddenly they stop liking me.
If your vain then your right.
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It’s very important. Looks fade. Personality doesn’t.
I think I'm in love as that's one funny woman in that pic... I love a self-deprecating humor and light-heart person. That's someone who can do "stuck/married" and life roller coasters with style and strength.
Your looks might get your foot in the door, but without a winning personality it won't last long.
Mostly everyone looks for both physical attraction and mental attraction.
And this is why no woman wants to date you. This attitude of yours.
The looks are going away with time. Are you going to break up once she ages then?
I don’t think you can assume to know what all women find “physically attractive “ 🤷♀️
Well if that is the way you want to live sure, but the reality is that looks change so if the physical is the foundation for what you find attractive than be honest about it.
In my case, there are times where personality can change how i look at the person. There was a this one girl who i thought was unattractive physically but we became closer because she has a really nice personality that made me fall in love with her so her personality changed how i look at her. I fapped at her pictures and it worked!
Because ugly men get women.
And if we can get women so can you.
Being useful and having skills, humor doesn't hurt either.
Very true so just go for people in your league in looks. You’ll still have plenty to choose from
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