Men what makes a gal attractive to you? And how to tell a friend that her energy might be why she never gets approached?

[19magic]

Sorry, long one title basically says it but details are in description.

So my bestie of 15 years now, we were talking about guys and getting approached. Her saying she's not beautiful and no guy has ever approached her except her shitty ex - started 6 years ago and lasted for 3. Like when she's out, online or the few times we've gone clubbing.

We talked about how guys have come up to me (which I've felt bad about before and even more so now), she was in serious disbelief when I called both her and I a 6, as I don't believe either of us has that inherent beauty. Plus I think attitude, outfit, hair and makeup is a lot of that initial beauty scale.

But I think a lot of this is because she's very closed off from males, I've heard her say she hates males and life would be easier if she were gay lol. There was this time we were at a Latino club, I wanted to have a dance with a guy, and spent maybe 5/10 mins with him and went back to join her at the bar. After the whole did you have fun, was: I'm glad he asked you to dance as I didn't want him to touch me.

Another time, actually one of my sweetest memories, we were at a Queen tribute live act and after it finished everyone was loitering around so the dj played a couple of rock ballards, this old guy maybe 60/70s asked me to dance and I was like sure why not, did the ballroom and as the song closed we hugged and he gave me a kiss on the cheek and said I remind him of his granddaughter. She said initially I wasn't sure if I needed to save you or not and she could never do that, when everyone was simply buzzing from the Queen music.

When out she doesn't look at guys, would never approach one and rarely talk to one. Whereas I'd do all those, along with smiles, looks and winks lol. I'm not that attractive so can't see it being that, but I do see myself as approachable and open and I do believe guys like that.

So what do you think? What makes you approach a gal? Does the demeanor of the gal affect things?

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She is a lovely gal and it's not like she's doesn't go near men, as she works in a male dominated field. And we have talked about it before, she knows not all men are evil and being friends with myself probably helps as my dad sacrificed a good chunk of his life for me. But she's said before it stems from childhood as even as a baby she'd scream if any males tried to pick her up. I just feel bad as I've been approached several times and she hasn't.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

The best start is if she’s a woman of God. What kind of better girl could a guy ask for than one who’s a cute Giga Chad? If she’s cute and is a Real Christian then that’s the biggest W ever in terms of romantic relationships and that’s a fact on my Soul. Unfortunately for you I’m too lazy right now to give a whole 2 hours worth of an explanation as to why so I’m just going to move on. Being a Chad Warrior rather than the average Dishonorable Fighter is also immensely attractive. Allow me to explain: there are two terms I made up very recently for the two kinds of people when it comes to combat, both physical and whatever else. Chad Warriors and Dishonorable Fighters. Dishonorable Fighters are the kind of people who solely rely on short cuts and easy routes to get out of a pickle. They’ll use basic b*tch tactics such as throwing dirt in one’s eyes to leaking their ex’s IP because they didn’t want an “open relationship” or something retarded like that. They’ll do anything as long as it’s in their favor and lack any amount of integrity like a GTA player committing as many crimes as possible.

Now for Chad Warriors. They, unlike their counterpart have a lot of integrity. These people will use their strengths and advantages for the good of not just one but many. Someone who’s a Chad Warrior that could easily take an easy route and/or use some P*ssy Moves chooses not to every time because they are better than that and they know it. Typically Chad Warriors are Real Christians and I think only they can be. They always fight with honor no matter the opponent and no matter the kind of battle it is.

Wisdom - You know, it almost seems that people believe one must go through exorbitantly intense challenges to get any wisdom at all but that’s not entirely true. Struggle is a catalyst for wisdom. A celestial level of understanding can allow you to gain just as much knowledge as someone who’s struggled long term, possibly even more. If you’re determined then there’s always a way, and a determined girl is very admirable (if her ambitions are good). Some traits a girl with wisdom might have are silence, strong sympathy/compassion, uhhh what’s it called…….. compliance, mutual respect, and I think lastly a strong sense of willpower. Yesssssssss.

And of course we all know it, intelligence is also attractive. No one wants to burden themselves with an idiots, I’ll say that much and that’s all I’ll say.

Okay I thinks that’s all.

[Lliam]

She has to fit my broad tastes when it comes to face and figure. Choice of attire, as well as style of hair and makeup tells me a lot and makes a big difference.

She doesn't look like a cheap slut or act like a cat in heat. But she's sexy and her clothes flatter her body.

Aside from that, she's happy, fun, funny and friendly, but not in a loud, giggly, drunken way.

She has a certain poise. She likes men in a general sense, like when you did ballroom dance with that old guy.

I can detect a bad attitude and will instantly walk away.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO. :-)

[Guy13]

Negative energy , ugly inside, and negative self thoughts come out of peoples pores and in pheromones. Counselor needed for her.

[Anonymous]

I think your assessment is spot on. There are some women who just put off a vibe that is very unappealing. The ones who harbor negative attitudes toward men always telegraph those sentiments whether they realize it or not. When I hear a woman say things like "men don't like me because I'm a strong and independent woman", my first thought is "nope, men don't like you because you don't like them".

[Jdjfjcjj]

Just do what girls always do in preface what you're going to say with a whole lot of Foo Foo to put them in a state where they won't take it as a dig

[19magic]

Okay, I'm really confused here are you talking about girls shaking their asses at guys to hook up? If not then I don't know what you're talking about.

[MrKDog]

The first thing I look for is kindness or honesty. This may sound "unmanly" to some, but I personally would want to date someone I would be happy with, not just someone because of their physical attractiveness.

[Shamalien]

In good shape, sexy, good energy, polite, down to earth

[notwoke]

be thin, it's so rare nowadays the guys will be lining up

[19magic]

Actually she's thinner than me, pretty much always has been at least one dress size less than me.