It's not her style and she thinks you'd look better wearing different clothes. More attractive, in her opinion.
If you haven't figured it out yet, parents are judgmental about how you look, wear your hair, who're your friends, because they want positive life outcomes for you. And at 18 you are pulling away from your. home of origin and this is a difficult time for your mom.
She no longer has the control over your choices that she once had and she disapproves of them.
There's nothing you can do but assure her you're happy with your style and your friends are accepting of it. When you're around her, occasionally wear something she likes to see you in, AS WELL AS what YOU like to wear so she knows you aren't always (even if you are) doing the metalhead gear. Don't send her any more pics of yourself in your regular outfits. Send her you and friends in bland outfits on occasion so she doesn't blow a gasket.
Yes, this isn't completely honest. But it's that time in your life. Peace is a wonderful thing during this period of adjustment. And you'll probably go through a. host of style changes. Avoid showing her ones you know will bug her to avoid conflict. It's more important to be close in ways that you can. Save your regular wear for friends and yourself. YOU know who you are. Your mom is afraid your outfits are saying you are someone she doesn't know and can't reach. We know that isn't true. Let her know it too! Good luck!
Very simple: she's your mom. She will judge because you're her kid. She won't understand wtf you doin or why you dressin' like that. Sooo she gonna say something, probably to break you.
Never care what parents think or say. As long as you are not hurting anyone and being respectful, then your doing fine. You must remember, parent's are humans. They are not perfect, they done their fair of shit to because they have also been young. But also they are you parents, you where their babies, they loved you and cared for you all your life. They only know that love and care, they have all these memories with you as a baby, as a kid. It's difficult for them to understand that your growing up, it's difficult to not to feel needed by your kids, it's difficult to know that this little ball of love they helped grow up is now out there and won't always come home, won't always call them, won't always need their help. It's hard but nice at the same time. They love you so much.
Because she doesn't understand she is making you self conscious. If she knew the damage she is doing to her own child she wouldn't do it. The damage is happening subconsciously. She should be saying something that is going to empower you to be confident and happy. That way being those things becomes a habit or a strong habit.
You look so beautiful and fashionable. Every inch of you looks stunning and cool.
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Have you told her about the metal head stuff or you just one day decided to change your look and dress all punk or whatnot, cause if it's out of nowhere and she's clueless about your interest in metal music then I don't know what reaction you expected tbh lol
She probably doesn’t understand that everyone doesn't dress the same or maybe she was trying to be funny or something ☠️ if you don’t like what she's saying, talk to her
I hate hearing about parents saying things like this to their kids. It is not okay for your mom to make comments like that. Sorry you have to deal with that.
Sidenote: been a huge Metallica fan since 1984!!!
Not sure why, it seems pretty tame to me. Maybe she doesn't like the rocker-look, but it was likely around when she was a teen. She may have even dressed like that a few times herself when she was your age?
I know you might find it offensive, but keep in mind it's coming from a place of compassion. If she didn't love you, she wouldn't care what you're wearing. But she does love you, and that's why she brought it up. I'm not necessarily saying her judgement is right, but it's coming from a place of compassion and care.
I think your mom means well, maybe she prefers you to dress normal than the metal rocker phase. I bet your mom went through a rocker phase with Metallica during the 90's and 2000's. You should dress as you want as it's your life.
Parents always judge what their kids are wearing lol
your outfit looks good, just ignore her
m Are you sure she isn’t just bad because you stole her wardrobe from the 90s?
she's probably a pervert and liked you better naked
Becasue it looks like you're wearing your younger sisters stuff.
Looks okay to me. You don't show too much skin so what's the big deal about some chains,
She is a jerk! Metallica rocks! :)
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because that's what parents do. Just be glad she cares enough to question your "wild style" without demanding you change into what she would prefer you to wear. I see nothing wrong with this.
You look good but your room looks like fkn disaster.
It looks nice. Very metal. Is your Mom a Metallica fan or does she not get it?
I dont know. It looks really good on you. Your mums just a hater haha.
She doesn't understand and she doesn't have to. Look good 👍
Trashy crop top and stupid ripped up jeans...
You look really cool and very pretty 😍
I think you look hot like that!
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