I think what you wear is only one part of that, and honestly you feeling attractive and confident will probably be more important than what we say, but dressing in sexy but classy ways will probably be a good balance if you get the other two things right.
One is location, the vibe of the place is huge, and the types of men there. Different spots have different types of guys, so scpping out the scene and talking to people who would be there. The more you like the crowd, the loosed and more comfortable you can be.
The other is your company, I'd you bring anyone and if so who and how many. Standard safety things like putting something in a drink for instance can be covered for with a friend. It can also bring out actually cooler people. I see that people who are somewhere just to have a good time and enjoy people won't worry about a group, because it's just more people to have a good time with. But someone who has some weird idea for the night, and wants to manipulate to get something from you will be scared off because there's more people there that could catch him.
I'm sure there's more to it as well, and other people can give specific fashion advice, but honestly I think you could wear any of those outfits if you had the rest of the situation in control for yourself.
Honestly, I don't think the right man even cares too much about what you're wearing. I know guy friends who are really good people and met their girlfriends in the nightclub. I dress way more modestly than everyone else yet experienced getting approached by some icky guys. You will attract different kinds of guys no matter what you wear. Don't worry too much about it.
That being said, for your own comfort you could dress in clothing that doesn't show your entire body at once, there is this rule that you either show your cleavage or your legs but not both at the same time. I personally believe if you worry about attracting the wrong guy but want to look sexy then showing off your legs is a better choice than showing off your boobs especially if you have a large chest.
You can also opt for clothing that shows more of your personality/style than simply looking like just another girl in the club (nothing wrong with that, but since you asked). Have fun with different colors and prints, perhaps graphic t-shirts portraying your favorite band/anime/whatever, jeans with interesting patterns and motifs, bold accessories, you can modify your aesthetic to your interests like weaboo, punk, old school/vintage... That will hopefully attract guys who share the same interests as you thus potentially more compatible. Plus having a bold, interesting and unique piece on you will provide an opportunity for a conversation, so don't be afraid to get quirky.
As I said earlier I don't do clubbing a lot, but when I do I wear clothes that fit my style. I don't like showing skin and like classic fashion so I instead add up the sparkle in my outfits. Silky/shiny blouse either tied up or with details like a pussybow, with a fitted pair of jeans and appropriate shoes (I usually go for boots or sneakers), and I ALWAYS wear some glitter eyeliner to have sparkle around my eyes and also some sparkly accessories. I'm in Canada and it's really cold here lol so on the colder days I like a nice turtleneck instead of a blouse.
If you seek attention outfits #1 and #3 will get you more than enough of that. They are very nice and compliment your figure but also revealing and paint a fairly loose party girl looking for a hookup vibe.
If you want Less attention it's really not rocket science you don't show as much cleavage or legs and the attention should be toned down. (A turtleneck paired with jeans and knee high boots could still count as a very nice outfit but not as revealing) that being said the weather might play into that as well.
Overall you look nice as is but depending on you want there are options.
If you want to attract guys that are less likely to want to take you home for the evening and actually want to get to know you, then dress in things that are less revealing and make your focal point your face.
You have a pretty face and smile, let that be your beacon and not your figure, at least not to the extent your current club-wear suggests/reveals. I know if I met you at a bar, the first thing I would see/think, is she is dressed for action and is not interested in meeting a decent guy. Not saying you have to dress like Mother Theresa, but maybe tone it down a little and not reveal as much of your assets in one shot.
for you? I’d wear something black with sleeves like this. You have great boobs and face and curves. But I don't know what it is your arms don’t really do them justice… at least not In spaghetti straps. They make you look more like you have a box figure but clearly you have curves. And what’s wonderful is you can wear boots or sexy heels.
Me and the girls talked about this a lot when we’d go out.
Oh I did mean your shoulders make you have a box figure. It’s your choice of dress that is giving that to you. I don’t think spaghetti straps do it for your figure. I don’t mean anything bad about your arms at all. There’s no shame there. It’s just like how look good in vertical stripes and others in horizontal stripes. You should be proud of your body. You just gotta find a dress that pulls it all together. That’s all.
Wow 🤦♂️. Is like saying Chevy or Dodge or Ford only good drivers can drive it 😂. 😑🤷♂️🤦♂️
To start with, is you. You trying to find intelligent man you must be intelligent. An intelligent man can really I. D unintelligent female 😂. In other words knows the types of one night stand female or friend ship or possibly relationship. Even female can ID a man, players or friendship or possible candidate for a possible relationship. Also it involves your surroundings, your friends and clubs you go to, but, HELL. Clubs are meant to have fun. Anything that fits for FUN.
Secondly, stop being desperate finding a man. How about start loving yourself before loving someone else. Start changing for your internal interest not for someone else.
You won’t attract the right men in a nightclub. And, you would get hit on even if you had a bin bag on. So, wear what you feel good in and worry about ‘the wrong men’ when they turn up.
I don’t always get hit on though sometimes I hit on a guy but they almost always try to take me home like relax all I said was you’re cute do you mind if I hang here for a bit I didn’t say Omg ur sexy let’s dance like wtf
Well I can't tell you what to wear, but I can tell you what not to wear. Those outfits send the message that you are looking to hook up and get laid. You can't go to clubs and bars dressed like that and expect to only attract guys you are interested in.
If you're going to clubs and bars looking to hook up and get laid, then just keep doing what you're doing and accept the fact that you're going to get attention from a lot of guys you're not interested in. If you're looking for a quality man, start dressing like a quality woman and looking elsewhere.
Girl if your actually looking for the “right man” then your going to the wrong places, I ain’t tryna sound like a dick or anything but I have noticed from personal experiences from watching my friends aquanauts and other random men is that guys going to bars and clubs and stuff looking for women usually only want them for sex! Don’t get me wrong I like my homies but there not the type of guys I’d want my sister/daughter going out with because Ik there true intentions! If you really wanna find a good man go to events that your interested in like say you like guns go to the gun range for shooting practice or if you like rocks go to a gem and mineral show, if you like, go to social events, go to art shows! Go to organized game nights there’s so many other places to find a spouse then bars and clubs.
What is the wrong type of man is the question? If you display as much of your body as possible then even men, who aren't interested in you and consequently don't approach you, will assume you are looking for sex tonight.
The right men might not approach you for that reason.
The men that are hoping to pick up will approach you because they think you want to pick up also.
How other girls dress is a factor as the outfit you show might be quite modest in comparison.
this would look really good on you even tho they are very revealing 😌
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When a girl shows big cleavage and her short skirt is just 2" away from showing her panties, most guys will assume that you are wanting to get fucked. But the right guy will be attracted even if you don't look lke a slut. You can dress sexy without looking like you want to give a guy quick access. Examples:
Hmmm you attract the wrong men cause bluntly you look like a pro - and I don't mean that as a compliment, but rather what you'd find stripping in clubs - in the last photo.
Try to purchase some half decent clothes. Dress pants. Semi professional blouses. Try to stop looking like a cheap tramp and you'd be surprised how men looking for cheap causal sex and meaningless one nights will stop bothering you.
The first pic is cool. The 2nd pic is like mad boobs in my face (hopefully) and the 3rd pic is a breath away from a playboy bunny costume. I love the 3rd pic.😅 I say, wear whatever you want that feels comfortable. You will attract everyone not just the ones you don’t desire. Some guys are dickheads some are maybe nervous to do anything but, you can fix that with some hints or sexy gestures… Figure it out! You’re smart 🤓
Honestly, you look incredible. Like someone else is saying, sometimes showing less is better. You don’t have to show skin everywhere to be attractive or “sexy.” The best example I can think of right off. Compare the portrayal or the character “Cat Woman” from the 2000’s Catwan movie to the 90’s Batman Returns movie. (A lot of DC fans in my family.) The 90’s performance was considered by many to be much sexier even though she showed almost no skin at all.
Oh man, this question feels like a massive "got ya, bitch" kind of trap question. Just like the "does this dress make my ass look big" type of question a woman will ask her man 😂
All I can actually say is that bars, clubs, and similar places of the sort are not the types of places you want go looking for guys, as many of them will hit on anything that has a pulse and has a feminine voice. Your xhancw of finding a decent quality guy are quite low 😂😂😂
Wear a name tag that says "cleaning assistent". Where white jeans and covered top. If someone tries to make a move start yelling in a made up accent. Thats the only way.. those places only have bad men.
All those outfits will attract the wrong men because their will all be thinking one thing, sorry to be truthful.
Shirts and cleavage arnt the only things you can wear while you are out. I'm not saying you have to cover up but if you are looking for a guy with not just sex on his mind they you need to make sure his eye are focusing on you and not your tits
girly your outfits are great and regardless of what you wear there's gonna be shady guys everywere you dont need to change your style in fear of them wear whatever you want but just rember to stay safe and conscious around people
This is the stupidest thing I’ve ever seen I have never had work done definitely can’t afford it I’m a 22 year old student I love makeup it’s my passion my question wasn’t about my makeup so I’m not sure why your giving an opinion on something totally unrelated. I’m definitely not a hoe even if I had work done ummmm it wouldn’t make me one either
I also have suspicion you only give your attention to the hottest guys in the room. Leaving the guys you want (good guys) in the dust. Likely because they dont meet your physical standards or just aren’t confident enough to approach you. You may have even befriended a few and only see them as ‘friends.’ But if you ever actually asked them out they’d totally go for it. In other words they are in your ‘friend zone.’
I don’t go for the hottest guy in the room I honestly usually go for less attractive guys because I feel they are less likely to leave me but they leave too lately I started going for the hotter guys and it seems like my suspicious where right they leave at the first sign of problem cause they have fragile ego’s and lots of options. But the nerdy average guys leave too but they are more likely to wait it out / hear me out than the others
There's no such thing as attracting the "right" men. You attract men--PERIOD. If you want to ensure you don't end up with the "wrong" men, you need to filter them better.
My guess is, you have an excellent system in place where you reject any and all decent (in the sense of being morally upstanding, employed/employable, etc.) dudes, and bee-line it straight to the thugs, druggies, and serial philanderers.
Wait 10 years and see how that worked out for them. How many were cheated on, how many were abused, how many ended up in jail or on drugs. I've seen plenty of those kinds of people and where they end up in life.
Truth. I’ve had to reject unserious guys and it hurts to feel lonely but I know it’s better than being used, cheated on, abused, or lied to or lead on and embarrassed. Where do you suggest I meet decent men?
Date a school bus driver. I used to be one, and due to the strict requirements, they can't have a record of substance abuse, or any kind of bad criminal record. If they ever mess up in life it will ruin their career. I don't know how you would meet one though without having kids first. Maybe try eharmony website. I think people on there are more serious.
I'd also suggest if you can stand it to not drink alcohol at all, only date others that don't drink because then you would be more likely to be with someone that is responsible, and is far less likely to make bad decisions in life.
@Bekaaaaaaaahhhh I'd say to find groups or hobby clubs that involve things that you are interested in. Let it come naturally instead of seeking it out and you'll find men who want the same.
However, how would I know what most girls that go to clubs wear? I've never been in a club. However, in my opinion those dresses are worn by girls looking to add to their already high body count.
@Guardian45 I didn't know either when several days ago I watched a JustPearlyThings YouTube video and Pear and her guest were saying "304." I had to Google. If you type 304 in you calculator, turn it upside down, it reads hOE.
All you can do is not show too much skin, modest. A long dress or something. But that won't save you from the wrong men, but it might maybe attract less.
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If you're going out to clubs and bars, you're going to attract attention from guys you don't want attention from. You just have to accept that fact. If you're looking for attention from quality men, clubs and bars are the wrong places to look.
I don't know what you'd consider "wrong men", but I'd wear something really long that doesn't expose anything. Make sure that it's as unappealing and ugly as possible. Works every time 👍
Hmm, I do wonder why you need to specify hygiene, are people that bad these days regarding that? Isn't also just normal for the people to want yo know each other? I mean it is the only way a connection can be even made in any way and maybe souls to connect which can be so beautiful. You said nice things.
There is no such bar or club where the wrong people don't hang out. Your better off avoiding those places 90% of people that congregate at those locations are not worth a moment of your time.
Look at her age, it’s the right time for her to experience the night life if not now when? Girls can go to a club have a drink, dance and enjoy themselves while still being responsible, know where and who to hang out with the only problem is the creatures you mentioned more like pests who come to the club already drunk and go bug everyone I’m a guy and they give me the same anxiety you get by firing up a grill by the swimming pool. I think the dress weather we like it or not is appropriate for that purpose and it tells me she is a young woman who want to look and feel sexy and it’s her time now. It’s just that simple.
Its never the right time. Clubs are the worst place for both men and women to go to meet eachother. If you think about it clubs offer nothing of positive value.
Who said meeting I never went to a club in hope to meet some lol I agree. But still you can still go a nice sports bar and shoot some pool and maybe a have a drink just pick a classy one and you are good and the right time I meant Before you settle and have kids and you are grounded forever
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