Should I get a hair transplant or just stay bald?

[Anonymous]

I’m 27 years old and have never had a girlfriend. Due to a condition I have, I went bald at 23. The hair on the back of my head and sides grow normally, but the hair on top is too thin and barely grows. So going bald is the most cost-effective way for me to look presentable.

I don’t get as many dates/matches as my friends who have a full head of hair. When I go to speed dating events in person, women 10-15 years older usually choose me. I want to date a woman my age or younger.

One of my friend’s girlfriends told me that I should grow an afro. A friend of mine said that I need to get a hair transplant. The consensus is that women love hair. I understand that, but despite my condition, I love myself and don’t want to change. However, I want a girlfriend and eventually a wife, so I’m weighing my options.

I went to a barber and he was going to put me on a treatment plan where I’d have to come to his shop at night on a weekly basis and pay $1000/month. That’s outside my budget.

I’ve also looked into getting it done in Turkey for $3000. But I’d have to wait until next year. I need to save money and vacation days for that.

As I said before, I don’t want to change, however if this will lead me to finally getting a girlfriend, I’m willing to save up for it. When I was younger, I was too much of a nerd, reserved, and focused on school. Now I’m more sociable and ready, however I just keep getting rejected. Plenty of women want to be friends, but nothing more.

Any other men have their baldness get in the way of them dating? Did you get a hair transplant or no?

Get a hair transplant

Stay bald

[Anonymous]

I have suffered with thinning hair for many years and all the guys told me I should just accept it and shave it all off, but I never accepted it. After a while, I just started thanking God for the regrowing of my thinning hair and prayed this every single day thanking him (even though I could see no evidence of any improvement). A few months later I realized that everything on the list of things I'd been thanking God for had materialized so far. One of them was the reversal of gray hair and I was given details of how to do this through subliminal audio. But when i tried to do the same for my thinning hair it did not work!

But a friend of mine said that while they were praying, they received instruction to relay to me and I was told that in order to grow my thinning hair back, I had to speak out loud affirmations daily. I had already read a case study in the book 'The Power Of The Subconscious Mind' by Joseph Murphy, where a man claimed to have reversed lung cancer through the use of daily affirmations and visualization, so I took the same ones and modified them to apply to my thinning hair.

The affirmations then became the following (yours may differ depending on belief etc).

'Through God, my subconscious made my hair and is now fully regrowing the hair on the crown of my head. I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, wealthy, healthy, content, forever youthful and happy. I am perfect in Christ's image and by His stripes I am healed.'

I would then close my eyes and visualize the hair on the crown of my head growing back. I could see each hair strand coming out of the scalp and filling in the thinning area. When you do this, your subconscious does not know the difference between this visualization and reality (similar to how you get afraid watching a scary movie). Then after just 1 week i started to notice new hair growth in the thinning area, even when I looked at it under bright lighting and all of those angles which made it look worse!

I continued to visualize and say the daily affirmations and they became infused with belief because it was now actually happening. The trick is to continue saying them regardless of belief. Now each day the exposed scalp that formed the thinning patch grows smaller each day. It's also likely that eventually the affirmations become a new 'program' in your subconscious mind and just continue growing the hair back.

[Levin]

This is interesting to me. I know most people say manifestation is bullshit, but even taking a rational approach, ie positive focus making a tremendous difference to one's day to day life, I think there's something in it.

[Opinion Owner]

@Levin Yep, I used to believe the same thing really. Even since I last commented above, I can see more regrowth. What's interesting is when you first start with the affirmations, you feel stupid because when you look in the mirror, you see no changes and the bald circle. But once you start to notice the regrowth, your words take on a new belief and faith, and in turn that is what creates more change!

But the only thing is, what if the same happened but only after 2 months... that is what needs to be considered. Thus if yo try this, give it some time. It's also useful to ensure good nutrition because this sort of regrowth requires raw materials!

I was doing affirmations to heal my teeth and they weren't working until I increased my collagen intake.

[cyclingkmi]

Seriously? Did you see visible and considerable regrowth of hair just by doing affirmations and visualisation?

[Opinion Owner]

@cyclingkmi Yes, but the process is still gradual and reasonably slow. But I notice improvement each day. Even my family members who were always honest in telling me when it was getting worse, now say it's getting better. Please read the book I mentioned, particularly about the lung cancer case resolved through affirmations and visualization and you will understand more.

I am waiting until it has 100% fully regrown before I go back to those suffering the same to show them what is possible.

[cyclingkmi]

How much time have you invested in it till now?

[Opinion Owner]

@cyclingkmi I have been saying the affirmations out loud for just over 3 weeks but not always with visualization. Sometimes I do the visualizations later with the affirmations. I've also started to occasionally say affirmations to reduce my gray hair on the beard as well.

[Levin]

tbh my hair has been thinning since I was 18, so I don't really think I give a shit anymore. My habits back then were self destructive but I don't think they are now.

[zeitgeist057]

Baldness is not an issue. I used to have a full head of hair and got heaps of attention from women. I shaved my head into a mohawk and dyed and spiked it, still no problem with women (maybe a few were turned off, I never noticed a difference). I shaved it off. No issues. I shaved half my head, literally half of my head, and matched it by shaving half my beard as well. Still had a girlfriend. More than one, in fact. I also mucked about a lot with facial hair. Full beard, half beard, handlebar mustache, chops, a chinstrap beard, regular mustache.

Hair is not really a thing. Some women love extra body hair, others don't like it at all. Does that mean a hairy guy should shave or not? If you're not pulling then I would focus on something besides hair. Do you make women laugh? Do they seek you out to talk to? Do you have many female friends? Do women feel safe and relaxed around you? I would work on your game from a personality side more than appearance. For appearance, all you have to do is be clean and dress stylish (particular style up to you).

I started getting thinner hair, I can still grow it out but I decided to start shaving. Still no problem finding women that want to flirt and date. An electric razor was less than $100.

[zeitgeist057]

I also have a friend who started going bald at 21; he had no issue getting girlfriends, lots of women were interested in him. It's because he's smart and funny, and has a good attitude.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would not spend that on a hair transplant because I think a girl who rejects you over hair is not a loyal girl you invest in. If you do get this transplant do it in your country, other countries might take advantage of the fact you can’t jail them or sue them if they scam you. I know you may be a little frustrated but it’s not worth the risk if things do not go according to plan. I know a lot of attractive guys that shave their head bald. It’s not a big deal for a girl that is marriage minded.

[cyclingkmi]

Seriously? Despite being a woman you feel being bald isn't that bad or an issue to consider for marriage?
Looks do matter, don't they?

[TrueConfection]

This happened to a friend of mine in in his early 20s. I admit that I didn't think his dramatically receding hairline was attractive at all (no fault of his own).

He decided to shave his entire head and 💥 he had girls throwing themselves at his feet. He was suddenly very sexy (I admit) unless the stubble started to grow. His confidence grew and he learned to keep his head smooth.

Embrace your baldness!

[cyclingkmi]

Girls find shaved bald head sexy? 🧐

[TrueConfection]

@cyclingkmi Some men look really good with a shaved bald head.

[Lansolot]

You said you started balding at 23. That's a long time not having a girlfriend. Most people have had one by at least 21. You sound like you may struggle with confidence issues and losing hair made it 10x worse. For now wear hats or shave it (not everyone can rock a shaved head). If you really think a hair transplant is going to improve your confidence then get one.
If you think a hair transplant is going to magically attract women, you haven't even begun to tackle the actual issues you are having. I've had similar gaps in my life and the problem was me, not my looks. Good luck to you.

[stepyo99]

Hair transplants aren't worth the money or effort. Not only is there the initial procedure, but you have to continue taking treatments like finasteride to keep the hair full. And both finasteride and minoxidil have their issues. My hair started thinning a couple years ago at 30 and I've considered those treatments as well, but finasteride has a small chance of causing permanent infertility, which doesn't seem worth it. And minoxidil requires daily application for the rest of your life (or the new hair falls out) and the instructions say it's really only effective for the crown of your head.

Just rock the bald look. It's not a big deal and it happens to almost every man eventually anyways - just some sooner than others.

[RingOfFire]

Couple of thoughts.

First, my heart goes out to you. I feel your hurt and loneliness.

Having said that, I wouldn't get a hair transplant. I would work it in another way. I doubt the hair is the main issue. Think about it and see if you can come up with something in yourself that might be preventing women from being interested in you. My first guess might be a lack of self confidence. This is a big turnoff for women.

Lastly, if you do go with a hair transplant the only place I would consider having it done is in America. Other countries might be cheaper, but you are taking a risk that they are also unsafe.

Wish you good luck... I feel your pain...

[WanderingLoveWizard]

If you're one of those dudes who can rock the shit out of the cue ball, keep it bald.

If not... I mean, it's 2023 bro. Baldness is hardly the end of the world these days. Bastards figured out how to make it grow out of fucking thin hair *pun intended*

[Elliegirl]

I say either shave your head or buzz your hair really short, like no longer than a quarter inch, and just own it. Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal. My husband started losing his hair and it looks so much better now that he started buzzing his head. When you hold out from buzzing or shaving, it makes it much more obvious that you have thinning hair.

[cyclingkmi]

You'd not recommend and prefer a guy getting hair transplant?

[Levin]

I have a shaved head. I doubt your problems will go away because you get a head transplant.

Also, be aware that, depending on the type of procedure you get, it can leave you with a huge scar, thus precluding you from shaving (if they still do that one).

[Bricealan]

Hair transplants are not what they are cracked up to be. I met a guy at the gym who went through it and it was expensive and he was very unhappy with the result. They may have improved the process since he went through it...

Just to satisfy your curiosity, you should visit a place that does it and ask a lot of questions, cost, what result you can expect, what the procedure involves and then go from there.

[Anonymous]

Get a hair transplant!

People always say they prefer natrual in every small detail but they dont. Their crush problaby had something done. Most people have but it looks so natrual People can't tell. The avarage person doesn't do the Hollywood look when getting surgery or transplant or whatever.

[cyclingkmi]

It's worth it?

[Opinion Owner]

@cyclingkmi yes!!! It will last till death

[cyclingkmi]

Would it last so long?

[Opinion Owner]

@cyclingkmi yes its life long. They take out roots of the hair at different places where you have hair and put the roots in where you miss the hair. Then it will grow there instead

[Joshuabenitez]

I am thinking of doing the same thing my head is balding too.

[Joshuabenitez]

I am probably going to get transplant I hope it works for me.

[Asker]

Yeah. I might get it next year.

[Joshuabenitez]

I got like 5k so I am probably going to get it done soon. I still need to look good.

[msc545]

That barber is trying to rip you off. Get a hair transplant or just shave your head (I do this).

You are black which automatically makes you more attractive than most guys who are not. You are also good looking which helps a lot. If you are 6' tall or taller that really helps too. If you are rich or can become rich THAT is the key to almost all women.

Good luck my friend.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Don't half-ass it though. Shave that shit. No 1-guard. Straight up blade on skin. Do women like nice hair? Yeah they do, but I know a lot of bald guys that own it and rock it.

[BobbieBoy666]

Bald is the new look. 💞

[Dinklex3]

If you don’t want it then don’t get it.

Chances are you won’t miraculously get girlfriends just because of a hair transplant. Just go bald.

[cyclingkmi]

As a young woman what do you prefer and suggest? Keeping it shaved off or getting transplant?

[alice55]

If being bald is the only things holding you back from getting a girlfriend then you should get hair transplant, i mean it's not that horrible of a deal.

[cyclingkmi]

What do you prefer?

[alice55]

@cyclingkmi I prefer a guy who have a head full of hair

[cyclingkmi]

So you'd prefer he gets a hair transplant?

[alice55]

@cyclingkmi Yes I would

[Rockstarrrrr]

If you have the time and money... Go for hair transplant... it's becoming more and more common... and once you get there... it's totally worth it... Losing your hair is probably the worst thing that could happen to your appearance...

[exitseven]

If it makes you feel better about yourself you should do it. If you are doing it because you think that this is why you cannot get dates then you should save your money.

[Anonymous]

Its hard to believe thats the main reason you’re not getting a girlfriend. I mean sure it would probably help but I wouldn’t think itll solve everything. Have you asked girls why they rejected you?

[cyclingkmi]

Doesn't head hair matter in attracting girls?

[BlackJeep]

I'm bald and I've dated women your age and younger. I've never dated 10-15 years older than you. Its not the hair

[cyclingkmi]

Seriously? Even at this age and with bald head you've attracted young women?

[BlackJeep]

I started dating right after my divorce and dated a 30 year old for a year and a half. We broke up and I took a couple months to get sorted out and started dating 2-3 a week for 2 months all between late 20s and early 30s. I've been with my current girlfriend for a year and she's 20 years younger than me. I can't explain it because I own a mirror. But a bald head isn't the end of the world if you own it

[cyclingkmi]

These girls especially young girls don't ever complain or make any statement about bald head?

[BlackJeep]

never

[cyclingkmi]

No complaints or any statement?

[es20490446e]

If you get a transplant do it just because you prefer it yourself.

[DailyLife]

Wtf 3000$ ? I am doing hair transplant 1000$ in Istanbul lol