Are you offended when you see a woman wearing revealing clothes?

[AliceGregory]

[MrOracle]

I'm not offended. But context is important.

A girl in a bikini at the beach is dressing appropriately for the situation. The same girl in a bra and panties at a party - even if they have more coverage than the bikini - is sending a very different message.

More relevant is that the clothes she wears, as well as the other elements of her appearance, all serve to advertise her morals & values and what she's after. And if she's wearing the uniform of a "woman of the evening", she should not be surprised to be treated like one - any more than a man should be surprised to be asked for medical help if he's dressed like a doctor, or to put out a fire if he's dressed like a fireman.

Women dress in revealing clothes to get male attention (regardless of any bullshit that "they do it for themselves" or "to impress other women"), and of course, they GET that attention. That attention, though, is purely sexual, and they will NOT be taken seriously as a relationship partner. That doesn't mean men will be offended - they're simply going to see a girl in revealing clothing and put her in the "for recreational use only" category.

[Crimsyjo]

Do you feel men are so surrounded by "recreational use" women they are blind to the plainer women? Cos feels like it to me! Your either "sex object" or "too boring". Unless a guy gets to see you often like in a place of work or through friends.

[MrOracle]

@Crimsyjo The "relationship men" are usually looking for the plainer women. The problem is that the plainer women still want (ONLY!) the top 5% guys, and reject the "relationship men" because they are "too boring." A recent study shows that 2/3 of women in their 20s are in a relationship, compared to only 1/3 of men. That's a HUGE difference, and while some of those women are in relationships with older men, a LOT of them are "sharing" a top man - preferring to share rather than "settle" for something "less".

[Crimsyjo]

I get what your saying bit you always say it like ATTRACTION is a choice! I don't think the numbers are quite as drastic as you think but there is truth in the top range of men, I think. I just think it's like top 30% not like top 5%. Of course the top 5% are still getting the most choice. But there's "lesser" attractive women going for the "lesser" attractive men. But there's still chemistry and spark.
And I'm certain the looked over relationship men are also overlooking women based on lack of attraction. I'm certain only a tiny perecent of people would truly get with ANY person regardless of looks/attraction just because they want a relationship so bad.

[MrOracle]

I'm not saying it never happens, but men generally have lower "looks" standards for serious partners than women do (in recent times). And you still essentially agreed with me that women are choosing only the top men - even women who are well below average only want far-above-average men. Studies have shown that women find 80% of men - meaning 8/10 and lower - to be unattractive. That kind of bias is not sustainable. If there are 1,000,000 women, and 1,000 "acceptable" men, then 999,000 women will end up with no man, or, what mostly happens now, they end up with no relationship, and get to "share" a man for short periods of time.

[RavVid]

Very well put and laid out. Saw a girl at a pub in a lap lap - that is a belt with three beaded strings for and aft & no panties. It was clearly carrying suggestions of drunken on site sex in the toilets.

[RavVid]

@Crimsyjo There is some truth in sex object vs too boring. Obviously the first thing we notice about a woman is her body and how she is dressed. That just takes as long as it does to focus. Personality takes a little longer but not much longer. You rapidly know if she is an outgoing party girl.

The important qualities - her nature and character - simply take longer to become apparent. I have to see you being considerate to others, to start thinking you are considerate woman. What you say about a guy getting to see you often is where this is happening whilst the sex object or not is happening in 5 seconds or less. On dating apps it is a lot less than 5 secs.

I think what it feels like to you is fairly accurate and natural. The town hall dance of yesteryear was a superior meeting place for men and women because it fostered the second take on nature & character after the 5 sec or less take. So I like partner dancing circles. The two genders are compelled to be nice to each other!

[Crimsyjo]

@RavVid haha yes exactly! I'm seen as sex object. And I think maybe a party girl. Cos I like to go club and dancing every week. But if I had a boyfriend I'd be happy doing something else.
Guys on apparently and out in these types of places never see the other side of me. I work with dying people. I build amazing relationships with the elderly. I am caring, nurturing, kind, compassionate. I am also a mother. Tho I don't mix that with dating (other than saying I have kids I keep that side separate). And I'm doing a degree as well as working so I'm independent, stable financially, educated. I can talk about a variety of subjects. BUT outside of work people don't see this side of me.

Tho back to what @MrOracle said... unfortunately it's actually not that none do. I have had guys approach me at work. But none I would consider someone I could like romantically. I just can't help that tho. I'd be happy to be their friend and go out socially!

[RavVid]

@Crimsyjo Yes we don't necessarily show all of our facets in the one environment or at the one time. On another thread you said that attraction is two phased and can be more that swipe left/right. That is a good way to put it.

[Crimsyjo]

@RavVid yes exactly!! Attraction can grow. But there isn't many environments that can happen. My longest relationship (marriage) was through work with an older guy. It's unlikely i would have got with him meeting him randomly. But through work he was funny and I thought he was cute the more I saw him.

There isn't any "good options" where I currently work. And I don't have friends that I really hang out with outside of work to meet friends or friends.

[MrOracle]

@Crimsyjo "I get what your saying bit you always say it like ATTRACTION is a choice!"

It is, more than you think. Women have let their expectations grow WAY out of control, because you can now see the top single men all around the world on dating apps and social media, and you've reset your expectations to include those men and thus to exclude normal men. 30 years ago, you'd have been limited to the men within 20 miles of you, and you'd have had to choose from the single men that were around you. Now, you're seeing men from France and Greece and Italy and Russia and Morocco and Norway and all across the US and Canada. You have "virtual" access to men that you'd never have had access to before, and so you've massively raised your standards - but that virtual access is not REAL access - the truth is that you STILL really only have access to the men within 20 miles of you if you want a REAL relationship. But no one in your area is good enough anymore, because they don't measure up to the Instagram fantasy men.

If you ACTUALLY had access to those men, you'd be in a relationship - but you aren't, because you don't. Oh, you can message them. In some cases, you might arrange to hook up with them, but you won't get a relationship with them. But now you're too good for the men around you, and so you're going to end up alone.

Now you're going to attack me because I've told you this, but the truth is that even if I never existed, everything I just said would still be true. I'm just saying it out loud. Ultimately, your results are going to reveal the truth.

[RavVid]

@Crimsyjo Yes indeed attraction can grow. For me there have been women that weren't immediately very attractive but they got my attention because they had kind and caring natures and had quiet humor. Those qualities did come out relatively quickly but took much longer than a swipe left/right moment.

[RavVid]

Yes. Mating has become a greek tragedy

[D_Bone_Steak]

Opposite of offended... more like delighted.

But even though on one hand it makes me want to fuck her... on the other hand it makes me discard her as wife material. She's only good for fucking and to pass to my friends to fuck too.

I really hope my input has expanded your mind about the male brain, because I'm being deeply serious about what I'm saying right now.

This is a subject that will make you understand the atheist mind as well as a Muslim mind as well as so many others all at the same time. Plus I know this topic is very important to woman that are looking for long lasting love.

Final advice: Make your body just the plus side of getting to be with you. Not the only thing about you that makes you attractive at all.

[lilBigPotato]

People can wear whatever they want it's none of my business. And even if I absolutely hate what they wear, I am not gonna waste energy and get offended over something that is none of my business.

[Daniela1982]

Nope, but the word "HO" does come to mind.

[MaddyJ]

No. People should wear that they want

[Daniela1982]

Or NOT wear what they want. They have nudist colonies for that.

[Lliam]

Not even a little bit.
If she's unattractive, I ignore her. If she's cute, I'm charmed.

Okay, there is such a thing as trashy. But that has nothing to do with "revealing". It's more about low life, ghetto, trailer trash or looking like s street corner hooker versus cute and classy.

I certainly don't mind bare legs or midriff. I love a form fitting outfit that shows off her waist, hips and shape of her ass. I love cleavage or braless beneath a tight top. With the right clothes, that can look really nice.

The female body does not offend me. Quite the opposite.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

As a teacher, I should!

- If I see someone dressing revealingly in places that don't need a dress code, I can just ignore them.

- If my children (students and niece) have to share the space, I'd be uncomfortable having women who don't care about others getting close to young kids. No bad influencers allowed.

- It also depends on various aspects such as the way that person carries herself online and in public too. If I notice attention seeking behaviours all the time, I will try my best to steer away.

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I would say I might be offended if a man I like doesn't care about my safety if I dress half-naked myself. ;)

[blackgaletiger]

Ya super offended. Like how dare women have the nerves to unveil their knee caps in a public setting while waiting for public transit when the weather is borderline suicidal at 8 degrees celsius. Totally unacceptable and her parents should feel ashamed to unleash a lunatic on the streets.


All joking aside if you dont like it dont look but the question can also be asked if women who wear revealing clothing feel offended if people look.

[UnusualWeirdo]

Not at all more power to them for feeling comfortable to wear what they do, but I guess I am kinda double standard-ish, I don't want to see a guy wearing something too revealing, shirtless ok. But in order to wear anything revealing I feel like you should be in shape at least a little bit. When really fat guys walk around shirtless that's gross.

[Kaneki05]

That all depends on attraction.
Nobody wants to see a ugly naked person on the street, but now make them an attractive woman the answer becomes different.
So it obviously depends how one looks. Same way if it's someone 80 years old, if your an 80 year old wearing revealing clothes that's going to offend people compared to a 22 year old. Just how it is.

[soe11]

• Not at all, but according to environment, function, occasion
• I respect those who wear revealing and exposure outfits.
• My girlfriend and her mum wear too.
• Both of them wearing bra free and pantie free too mostly.
• Both love getting attention.
• I appreciate and approve them too.

[pascal_climbs]

In summer lots of girls wear revealing clothes. Here most people and that normal

[DexWest]

Why would I be? Now, in my personal opinion, I don’t like women that wears clothing that shows off everything. Leave something to the imagination. Women wonder why guys like girls in sundresses. That’s why. It’s slightly revealing, but leaves room for intrigue.

[elizamichale1]

Thankfully everyone i m around doesn't mind n instead encourage me to wear as revealing as i want... they dont try to take my confidence in me away

[Swordnen]

Dear, only you are required to brighten life 😜.

[elizamichale1]

@Swordnen 😊😊

[DrPepper12]

Offended is PROBABLY the wrong word... Beautiful, happy, bold, confident, fit women are a gift that I will ADMIRE forever. I'm grateful for whatever glimpse of zen they will grant! 😍🥵♥️

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Apparently, a topic able to unite several political wings.
While the result looks the same maybe, the reasoning and its implications maybe not.

[fantasticass]

Hell No... I'm proud when I see another sister looking her best ❤️

[soe11]

fantasticass
I'd proud of my girlfriend wear.
I appreciate and approve her.
Encouraging and endorsing her.

[fantasticass]

Good to hear!!. We need more men who think like you❤️

[bowenw]

No problem for me. It’s her body to wear whatever she wants on it.

[KingslayerC]

Depends if they're around children or not. Same way I feel about men exposing themselves to kids. It's creepy and borderline pedo behavior.

[Cripplingkingship]

No I don't care. However if the women is pretty and nice figure, it might cause my worm to stand up to attention hahaha,

[NathanDavis]

nope, never been

I'm not that fragile myself... I am an adult

[paledreams]

Only if she's ugly, unattractive or not a legal woman including trans including those who aren't 18 yet, I for one would be offended if someone under 18 or some tranny was

[paledreams]

Tranny is not offensive it's just a short hand of Trans

[sawno]

No, it will either be classy or trashy depending on what the outfit is but its never offensive to me.

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope... just keep it contextually appropriate. I don't need to see your daring, deep plunge cocktail dress when I'm at Home Depot or dropping my kid off at the daycare center you work at.

[Swordnen]

I would say depends
Places that don't offend me
Pubs, parties, clubs, malls, home

Places that offend me
Places where children are there
Temples/any religious place
Around my parents
Family functions

[Fireguy17]

Nope, why would I, I'm a guy, we look, that's what we do.

[SuckOnThisOpinion]

No, I think "slay queen, tell em".

[Gwendoline]

Not really. Bring trashy is a personal choice

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope, it doesn't bother me.

[Berethor]

I am not from Afghanistan, I don't want women to wear burka and hijab crap, no need too.

[strateguy632]

It can't hurt me so the term offensive is fake... usualy to try manipulation.

[Red_Arrow]

Nope. She can wear whatever she wants. If she is good looking, I will enjoy seeing her.

[jahaims]

Nah, it just let's me know she uses her body for attention to feel validation because she is insecure

[stratford]

As long as they don't mind me looking at getting aroused.

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

The point is YOU don't be offended when I want to stare.

[Jersey2]

I will ogle her but still think she is a jackass for coming out like that.

[robocop666]

no thats how they should dress

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[llorando]

If course not, none of my business what someone chooses to wear.

[seviyorummm]

No, I'm interested. People can wear whatever they want it's

[elaphe]

I am not offended, but if it extreme I think she looks cheap.

[morganherrel]

If she's fat, then yes. It's usually offensive.

[kaucky1]

I wanna go back before existence started no clothes existed

[Effie1998]

No I’m not I like seeing it on them. Plus it shows they are comfortable in their skin.

[Smashingdoozy]

No. I love to respectfully look

[SweetDripp]

Why would that be offensive?

[Likes2drive]

Nope, maybe intrigued

[DtMe89]

I'm not. Why should I be?

[Dreamclouds]

neah not at all, she should wear what she likes

[Marcia1218]

No, not at all!

[Gauoda_]

No, Happy

[QuietRunner]

no not at all!!

[slatyb]

No, I'm interested.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No..

[EnjoytheDay777]

No I'm happy for her

[RedInnocent69]

Not in the least

[abc--123]

Quite the opposite

[Wise4myage]

No, not ever.

[OfDeath]

No (filler)

[Rohaan2020]

Not at all

[eagle1951]

not really