Do you think it’s wrong for a person to not tell their date they have had cosmetic surgery for beautifying reasons?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Not at all , I would only want to know the truth if her and I started to get serious but on a date it’s not necessary and it’s not even a question I would ask considering I already find her beautiful or I wouldn’t be taking her on a date in the first place

[Anonymous]

I would want to know. Because that tells you a lot about that person.

[AI Opinion]

Whether to disclose personal details like cosmetic surgery is subjective and depends on individual comfort and the relationship's stage. Some might prefer transparency, valuing honesty in building trust, while others see it as a private matter, not affecting the relationship. The key is understanding and respecting each other's perspectives and boundaries. 😊

[Otismerc]

Yes. Omitting is the samething as lying in my opinion. If you want transparency, honesty, openness in the relationship then starting it by misleading is never a good thing, as the more people do it, the easier it is to do. So they don't have a problem later on more serious things that have a chance to happen. Example: I tell a little white lie, then another and another etc,. By not feeling guilty about a white lie the more susceptible I am to tell a really big lie and not feel guilty about do so as I have justified that behaviour. Same thing applies by omitting something about who you really are, you are more prone to omitting all facts in a situation as being acceptable and that is not always the case. Should they judge you on it? No what you done to your body and choices you made for yourself should never be in question as a factor. They accept you or they don't, if they have an issue with something about you or your past that is their problem not yours and you are better off without them cause you need to put that into a relationship as well that behaviour is unacceptable to me. I accept a woman good, bad, ugly if I agree to date her I already made a decision to accept everything about her. I know the chances and risks those are on me if it doesn't work not her. That is my opinion other guys probably different.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Probably not. If the person liked you before they found out you had surgery but then suddenly were turned off immediately as they found out you had surgery, it's just strange and I doubt they ever liked you that much in the first place.

Though if the topic comes up randomly it's probably best to just be honest. If they're worth your time they'll accept you as you are.

On a somewhat similar yet different note... not telling your date that you're trans. This is a much bigger lifestyle change, so it's definitely a much bigger deal.

So in that case I would say it is wrong. It's mandatory to find a partner that is openly accepting of trans people. Otherwise it'll just be trouble and confusion for both you and the other person.

[godfatherfan]

Why would it matter? Usually you can tell when people have had plastic surgery if it was significant. Well, maybe I should say you can tell in older women. Have you seen some of the stars out there nowadays? They look horrible.

Personally, I don't care if you have had plastic surgery. I would prefer not to date a woman that had breasts done. But I have never dated a woman or felt fake boobs, so who knows. Just like with makeup, the real you looks better then the fake you. Stop changing things.

[abc3643]

Of course, although perhaps not right away.
Nonetheless, it is imperative.

Here's an example why...

In the series "Frasier", Roz becomes pregnant by a young man named Rick Garrett, a more or less good-looking guy. Later, we meet Rick's parents and learn that Rick had a nose job. So, Roz's baby may have a huge nose! Roz might not have had sex with Rick if he hadn't had the nose job or knew that he had the genes for a big nose like his parents.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z39r2DvQ2l8https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKGOfrEW8Johttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xzCu3iinrBA

[Zoommergal]

if their kids grow up to be as shallow as their parents, they can just get a nose job too then! All works out in the end.

[abc3643]

@Zoommergal I won't disagree but, for many people, there is a strong instinct not to reproduce with someone who has traits (often physical traits) that you do not want passed to your own kids. It's one reason why racist tendencies exist and interracial marriage was strongly frowned-upon even 2 or 3 generations ago. When I was a kid, mixed race kids were almost nonexistent.

[jshm2]

It's only a date, not court.

These are the things to be talking about at the date.

As for the surgery, usually you're best to avoid such a shallow and insecure person who has had cosmetic surgery. Not only for the ugly children they will likely produce, but they will usually have mental and/or genetic issues.

You see very few celebrities have successful relationships, let alone good looking children. Yet most of them have had cosmetics done...

[CaptainObivous]

Not the first or even the second date, but after it's worn. Not all guy's are into women who get plastic surgery for beauty reasons, and letting him know early in the dating process saves a lot of trouble down the road.

[MrOracle]

What secrets are you okay with your boyfriend keeping from you? A big debt? An STD? An abandoned child?

Most people don't appreciate being deceived.

[Miristheiss]

That is not a first date conversation but if you become a committed couple then that info should be volunteered.

[AnonAndrew]

No, I don't think so.

They look the way they look, surgery or not. It's not like the surgery is going to revert overnight.

[DishLady]

Their date? What does your DATE care? Your spouse or betrothed should know bc they will be planning to have kids with you...

[danielle872024]

They should be honest about who they are maybe throw in a piece about why they went with the surgery would not hurt

[slatyb]

No, there's no need to disclose that. Maybe if the relationship becomes serious, but maybe not.

[Kaneki05]

No at all. But according to man's logic on gag if you didn't tell them it would be rape lol.

[PrincessC16]

I don't think it should be disclosed. After all, it's just a date. Not a long-term commitment.

[emeraldsaphire]

Not at all, I've had some work done and no one cares.

[beaves11]

Hmm what if it’s something like a wig toupee? They look so real now days and are growing in popularity again. How would you feel a few dates in and a guy shares that?

[emeraldsaphire]

@beaves11 Wouldn't care. I mean it might be a shock at first, especially if he pulls it off at dinner XD Also plastic surgery and wig are not the same thing. I don't take out my lip filler every night.

[beaves11]

Really, but you wouldn’t be turned off by it? You’d keep dating/enter a relationship with him?

[emeraldsaphire]

@beaves11 sure, first off. Bald guys are hot XD second off there is a lot more to attraction then the head lol

[beaves11]

Well right but he wore the wig all times beyond sleeping etc just because he preferred the look

[emeraldsaphire]

@beaves11 I'd be ok with that too. I have few wigs maybe we could trade XD I'd like to see him in my pink or blue ones :D

[beaves11]

Huh, but you wouldn’t find it goofy or odd? They are custom based on the guys real hair etc so defintely not obvious etc

[emeraldsaphire]

@beaves11 nope lol

[beaves11]

Cool thanks for your insight! I just think it’s good that guys have an option. Some just don’t feel like themselves without hair!

[Valdemort]

Why would that be a topic of discussion anyway? Maybe if they asked about it, yeah.

[beaves11]

What about things like wigs/toupees hair replacements etc? What if a few dates in a guy revealed he was wearing a wig because he had alopecia etc?

[Valdemort]

@beaves11 Got it - I don't think I would mind either way. Knew a guy with alopecia who'd wear a wig and he looked great with and without it. Sure, I'd probably have questions and be blunt enough to ask them too, but based on just that - I wouldn't think it was any of my business

[Valdemort]

@beaves11 I do think I'd probably prefer knowing pretty early on - not after 3 months or something.

[beaves11]

Yeah no I get it, probably say date 2-4 ish so defintely before 3 months. It wouldn’t turn you off etc?

[molonski2]

No , certainly not in the early stages , maybe later.

[Flower7]

It doesn’t matter. It’s not like the date is being catfished. The new appearance is permanent now.

[HungTexan]

Why tell your date something personal like that? It’s not relevant.

[TheSpaceGnome]

How would you not know just by looking at them?

[MaxW1]

It's not wrong but you also should be honest if asked

[sinderella18]

I would say it is completely up to them, so no wrong or right.

[JustinTheGreat]

Not at all. I don’t really think it’s anyone’s business

[GrinchyTsy]

I mean going from Andrea to Andrew I can see (it is kinda of a big one, no not against it….) but a nose job or somethinglike that nah…..

[DrPepper12]

Their date? Fuck that! You need to EARN that knowledge over the long term.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I think for the most part you can tell without them letting you know.

[beaves11]

What about male wigs toupees etc? Curious since it’s kind of the same realm. Like what if a guy shared a few dates in?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@beaves11 hair pieces aren't surgery

[beaves11]

It’s cosmetic alteration-so curious how you’d react/feel etc

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@beaves11 it's not the same thing. It's not surgery. You didn't put your life on the line for some shallow reason.

[beaves11]

Okay.. I mean I don’t disagree but would you be turned off by a wig/hair piece etc if a guy shared he had one a few dates in bevause had had alopecia or something?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@beaves11 No. I'm not shallow. He's insecure but not careless enough to put his life on the line for a hair transplant. So I respect him. He needs to learn to be confident though.

[beaves11]

He can’t be confident in a wig though? He didn’t wear it just to get dates but prefers the look!

[beaves11]

You keep dating/enter a relationship with the guy who wore one?

[beaves11]

(In this hypothetical where all else went well in the first few dates)

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@beaves11 yeah he can wear a wing and be confident, women do it all the time

[PrettyCrumblBb]

*wig

[Pohjolan]

Kind off. Having cosmetic surgery doesn't stop one from having ugly children.

[robocop666]

A man in China found out after the kids were born and sued and won. I am not sure if this is a true story or not.

[YayaArias]

No because it’s nobody’s business what you’ve gotten done but your own

[anmari2001]

No.. let them ve fake pretty in silence

[beaves11]

How do you feel about wig/toupees etc?

[anmari2001]

They are fine

[beaves11]

Really? So if a few dates in with a new guy if he revealed his hair was fake and he lost his for whatever reason, it wouldn’t turn you off or weird you out? You can be honest! I’m just curious since they are rising in popularity again.

[anmari2001]

keeping it as if it's a scary secret is more weird to me
Probably if I like the guy, I will look over this but I will try to understand better why he wears it

[beaves11]

Oh no not a secret, this would be something shared early on, date 2/3 etc. he just wears it because he lost his hair to either alopecia or other baldness stuff and he prefers his look with hair.

[beaves11]

Or is it very weird to you etc even if he just wears it because he prefers the look?

[itsannalee]

Nope, that your personal choice to fo that

[MannMitAntworten]

Most can tell in person. So we figure it out fast.

[LiamJHayden]

Not the date's business.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s none of their date’s business

[beaves11]

What about things like wigs/toupees hair replacements etc? What if a few dates in a guy revealed he was wearing a wig because he had alopecia etc?

[Opinion Owner]

@beaves11 different because that’s something that the person can take off, or can fall off during an intimate moment. She’s gonna find out sooner or later, which is not true with cosmetic surgery. But I personally would have no problem dating a guy who wore a wig because of alopecia.

[beaves11]

Oh no yeah figure he shared it like date 2/3 defintely not something he kept hidden

[Opinion Owner]

@beaves11 that wouldn’t bother me at all

[beaves11]

And it wouldn’t turn you off? You can see my post history ne with mine!

[Opinion Owner]

@beaves11 if I liked a guy and he wore a wig because of alopecia, it would not turn me off. But this is a side discussion. I really don’t think it’s any of her date’s business if she had cosmetic surgery sometime in the past.

[jackramada]

It's best to be natural.