Ok y’all, I’m officially invoking “project get a guy” — any pointers?

[DishLady]

(That’s it. I don’t do the online bs… if I can’t choose a shoe online I’m certainly not looking for a whole human online.)

please share your BEST advice to an OG who wants organic meetups … GO

[egan3141]

If you truly want to get a guy, just ask the ones you see in life for a date. Just keeping doing first dates and eventually you will find a decent guy to go for a second date with. And keep repeating until you find a guy you are happy to make your boyfriend.

To keep distance between you and creeps, make first dates be something simple, like a walk in the park or coffee. Only after you have verified that aren't as creepy do you go on more personal dates.

Alternatively, when you are out and about, find some guy that meets your minimum for physical appearance and ask him "May I join you" and have your mini pre date right there. You can get to know the guy a little before he gets any real information on you (like a phone number). Even at the grocery store, find some "cute" or "handsome" guy and ask if he would mind some company and do your shopping together.

Women have it easy in this regard. All you gotta do is ask and you get dates. Hell, most men would have their month if not year made if a decent looking woman asked to spend time with them. But if a man does this, he's a creep.

[DishLady]

I’ve done that before. Enormous waste of time. If a guy doesn’t ask or initiate it’s a waste of time bc he doesn’t feel he’s “earned his kill” so to speak. He’s just hanging out.

[egan3141]

Don't do the planning them. Just say you are interested and make him do the planning. Then he does have to work and earn his kill. Decline some of his offers as not good enough. If you want something, you have to put in work. Putting in work means "wasting time" until you find what you want.

[Summeroflove]

Really just meeting people in real life is the way to go…. A lot of people want to play build a partner. I want this… I want this…. That…. And this and if someone doesn’t match perfectly they aren’t for me. Many of those people end up single for a very long time or in resentful relationships.

It’s fine to have standards there is the other extreme of people who just lack even the most basic of standards and get used. Some of those people jump to the other extreme.. and people on the other extreme can’t find anyone so they panic and drop their standards completely.

Really. Do things you’re passionate about. And you’ll meet people. Organic natural connections tend to last longer then online or just talking to random people you don’t know.

[DishLady]

You think I don’t do things I’m passionate about? 🫠

[Summeroflove]

I do. But finding the right people can take time

[SixFootSexy]

Pizza trap

This could work on a lot of guys.

[DishLady]

HAHAHA

[HawkPerception]

What I just witnessed between you two

https//youtube. com/shorts/3GlKd5DOJLE? si=z92VzG2uH0gTGqK9

[HawkPerception]

Okay, GaG shafted me here. I was trying to reply in @spartan55 comment. It didn't even let me share the paste the link properly. Here it is again.

youtube.com/shorts/3GlKd5DOJLE?si=z92VzG2uH0gTGqK9

[HawkPerception]

Do me a favor and remove this comment after you watch the video. It's an eyesore to me 😅

[DishLady]

HAAAAHAHAHAHA. My goodness.

[Spencer10]

Do things you enjoy... if you encounter interesting guys at the same time its a bonus. Plus you already have something in common and a great conversation starter.

[spartan55]

Oh my...😳

[DishLady]

Yes… well I need at least a body guard of some kind. It’s too crazy here.

[spartan55]

I'm not cheap, plus travel expenses $$$

[DishLady]

Meh… I want a gag discount.

[spartan55]

5%...

[DishLady]

Nah. 25%

[DishLady]

For 5% I want the helmet….

[spartan55]

Oh no no no no, the helmet stays.

[DishLady]

Ok so 25%

[spartan55]

I had no idea DishLady was so cheap...😬

[Staximus]

Maybe move somewhere less crazy with more guys that are your type

[Staximus]

Or hire a Spartan

[spartan55]

Can't go wrong there

[DishLady]

I’m not cheap, spartan, just frugal. I can pay in solid home cooking as well, so I’m not worried.

I still work. A move wouldn’t be possible for quite some time yet. And guys are a bit odd no matter where you go.

[spartan55]

Lol... that's funny...