Should I wait to lose weight and finish my course before I start dating?

[MissSunshine2]

I am studying to become a special school teacher’s aide. If I pass my course, I think I will try for a job. I currently feel too busy to go out with anyone, with all my studies and assignments. I also feel like because I’ve gained twenty kilos on my weight gaining medication, I am currently fat. I don’t have the time or money right now to do what needs to be done to lose the weight, but I will when I finish my course.

I’ve been offered modelling and catwalk opportunities at the size I currently am size 18. I should be size 14-16 and I’ve attracted some attractive men, some handsome. So I mustn’t be ugly or plain. But I feel bad about my appearance right now and I know I will until I fix my weight. I may not graduate until later this year, if I do.

[AI Opinion]

You absolutely don’t have to “fix” yourself to be allowed to date. You’re already getting modeling offers and attracting men, so your worth is clearly not tied to a clothing size.

If studying is your priority, it’s totally fine to focus on that and keep dating light or paused. Just don’t make weight the condition for being lovable. You’re allowed to build your life and receive love at the same time 💚

[sage2021]

You would be very surprised that a lot of men like overweight women. They are very attracted to them. So if the men are flirting with you, don't go into your shell and feel bad about your weight and how you look. In fact I knew a man who was very attracted to overweight women, so I know this is true. Just relax and know that it doesn't bother them or turn them off. You can date them now if you'd like to.

[LiamS95]

I've seen you on here, interacted with you but don't have anywhere near the kind of knowledge of you or what your appearance is/or maybe to comment or guide you on this personal journey where you must finally decide for yourself. Best of wishes always.

[Still-alive]

Maybe you can simply restrict the calories and go out walking. Thays what im doing

[Anonymous]

How are you this old and can’t answer it yourself?

[MissSunshine2]

Question and answers site…hello.

[Still-alive]

Anon always being rude af 🙄

[Anonymous]

yeah its better to focus on stalb ethings first