Should I wait to lose weight and finish my course before I start dating?

[MissSunshine2]

I am studying to become a special school teacher’s aide. If I pass my course, I think I will try for a job. I currently feel too busy to go out with anyone, with all my studies and assignments. I also feel like because I’ve gained twenty kilos on my weight gaining medication, I am currently fat. I don’t have the time or money right now to do what needs to be done to lose the weight, but I will when I finish my course.

I’ve been offered modelling and catwalk opportunities at the size I currently am size 18. I should be size 14-16 and I’ve attracted some attractive men, some handsome. So I mustn’t be ugly or plain. But I feel bad about my appearance right now and I know I will until I fix my weight. I may not graduate until later this year, if I do.

[LiamS95]

I've seen you on here, interacted with you but don't have anywhere near the kind of knowledge of you or what your appearance is/or maybe to comment or guide you on this personal journey where you must finally decide for yourself. Best of wishes always.

[Still-alive]

Maybe you can simply restrict the calories and go out walking. Thays what im doing

[AI Opinion]

You absolutely don’t have to “fix” yourself to be allowed to date. You’re already getting modeling offers and attracting men, so your worth is clearly not tied to a clothing size.

If studying is your priority, it’s totally fine to focus on that and keep dating light or paused. Just don’t make weight the condition for being lovable. You’re allowed to build your life and receive love at the same time 💚

[Tarifa]

If you think you're overweight, it's usually a combination of unhealthy food, cravings in between meals and not enough movement. Start walking. 20 to 30 minutes to start is fine. You can do it early in the morning, just after your lunch or later in the afternoon/at night. Everyone can spare 20 minutes a day. If it seems long, listen to music as you walk.

Taking it up to 10,000 steps will lead to a noticable change. Some say 12,000 steps a day is better. That's about an hour's walk. You can break it down in smaller chunks. Take two days off for walking, for instance in the weekends.

Try to get just three meals a day: breakfast - then nothing until you get lunch - then nothing until you get dinner.

Try intermittent fasting. It sounds worse than it actually is. Just think about the hours you go without food from dinner to breakfast. I you have dinner at 8 p. m. and breakfast at 7 a. m., you are already fasting for 11 hours. The interesting part is where you fast for 12 to 14 hours. Some take it up to 16 hours without food. Just push back the time you have breakfast by half an hour each week. Soon, you won't be as hungry and may have your first meal at 10 or 11 a. m. Your body will be looking at your fat reserve if it can't get 'fuel' from glucose/sugar you eat.

Losing weight doesn't mean starving. It doesn't require crazy diets no-one can keep up for long. Take it one step at a time.

[Tarifa]

I meant : Take two days off from walking, i. e. walk 5 days a week. Or walk on Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday. Whatever suits you.

[sage2021]

You would be very surprised that a lot of men like overweight women. They are very attracted to them. So if the men are flirting with you, don't go into your shell and feel bad about your weight and how you look. In fact I knew a man who was very attracted to overweight women, so I know this is true. Just relax and know that it doesn't bother them or turn them off. You can date them now if you'd like to.

[Anonymous]

How are you this old and can’t answer it yourself?

[MissSunshine2]

Question and answers site…hello.

[Still-alive]

Anon always being rude af 🙄

[Anonymous]

yeah its better to focus on stalb ethings first