How to Meet New Women - As Suggested by a Woman.

[Louloubum]

Use the charm-lure method.

Observe. Be selective. Be charming. Be sincere. Keep moving. Walk away. Give space. Smile.

The key is charm. You might not have it. The truth is: you do or you don't. You can't really learn it. Maybe you can. Who knows. But how can you know for sure? You should at least try to see if you have it. You might be super charming and not know it because you're surrounded by charmless idiots. Here's your chance to see.

The idea here is that you want to show ladies that you are able to see the most interesting in them without requiring anything in return. You make them feel special, and because you are coming from a place of honesty, generosity and sincerity, it touches them. It lays a good first impression and then well, you kind of have to take it from there so if you suck past that point it ain't my fault. But keep at it.

The trick to it is: not hovering. At least not at first. You're not sitting with them, or standing around, you're not lurking nearby trying not to stare at them, hoping they will see and walk over. You are on the move. You're independent. You're going places. (even if it's just walking around in a big circle) You don't need or want anything from her at all. You are just being nice. It is the reverse of most crappy pick up strategies. And that's why charm works. You can't fake it. You only reveal it by chipping away all the bullshit your dumb homies try to push on you.

1) Observe the room / street / bar / party / coffee shop / bla bla bla. (NOT PARKING LOT LOL) Find someone you find interesting. Watch them for a bit. Take your time. Make sure you don't look creepy. Easier said than done, I know. LMAO. Just try.

2) Ask yourself, with an out loud voice inside your mind, what is it about her is that so interesting? Answer right away, again quietly in your mind, without delay. The reasoning for answering very quickly is that the answer has to be honest. Women can tell bullshit. Practice it a few times, in your head. You'll know you are making progress when an answer comes that sounds charming and happens on its own without you actually trying to be charming. You'll have some variation of the following three types of answers:

A) If nothing comes to mind, then you don't actually like her and you're grasping at straws. Keep scanning until you find a lady who you really do find interesting.

B) If the answer of why she is interesting to you is about her T & A or her fine-as-wine-body... just forget it, she will know right away, you'll fail. It's a proven fact. you're welcome. no time to waste. moving on. Hot chicks are like level 10 bullshit decipherers. Know your place. Are you at the right level of charming yet? Patience, young patawan. It will come with time.

C) If the answer is anything else other than her booty & co:

3) approach her as if you were just walking by and tell her "I noticed that _____________- is interesting about you". (like a compliment, you can finesse it your own stylings). You could wink and smile. Be charming. It's a gift you're giving her. Make sure you look like you just wanted to drop it and walk away.

EXAMPLES: neat outfit, great dancer, fantastic laugh, mix a great drink, great storyteller, choice of book she's reading, cool t-shirt, seems to smile at everyone, very thorough at selecting produce, throws rocks at everyone, seem to be a great listener, was nicely consoling a friend, bought the last round, not wearing shoes, the kids she's with look sweet, overheard you saying you liked......, gosh there are so many things that make a person seem interesting at any given moment.... if you can't find anything there is no hope for you. Sorry.

4) if she doesn't react, or reacts badly, no harm no foul, you keep walking. Don't hover or force it. you'll fail. it's a proven fact. you're welcome. no time to waste. moving on. keep going. keep walking.

5) If you like her reaction to your compliment, tell her WHY you like her reaction. Be honest. If she smiles - then you say "great smile!! Wow!" (If she gives you the finger you say "I appreciate your honesty!") Continue using the body language that you don't want to take up her time. Say something like "anyways, I thought you should know that you are _______________, I'll be over at __________ (place, location, corner of the room, bar later that night) if you get bored." Wink again. Smile again. Walk away.

6) If she tries to stop you, or asks you something else, your name or whatever, play it cool. Look like you still have to keep moving. Walk backwards. Keep it moving. Keep smiling. Make lots of eye contact. If its rolling really well, keep it up though! Stop walking away! Then the moment there is any lull or if you stall on something, tell her RIGHT AWAY you'll be back in a few minutes. Be mysterious. Smile. Wink. Wave. Be charming.

7) Never underestimate the power of the walk-away.

If you bump into her later, she will remember you, walking away is KEY!!

If you do want to come back later, you'll have time to figure out what to say or do.

Or you can just repeat this and keep charming other lucky ladies.

For the especially charmed ladies, I would suggest coming back with a small gift or offering.

Give it to her, wink, smile and go away again. Do not expect anything back.

Maybe by now you have conversations with a few groups of people.

Maybe she'll see you talking to other women or just a bunch of people and feel like she needs to step up her own game.

Maybe she'll walk up to you with a big grin.

You're welcome. It might sound weird but it works.

What's great about this strategy is that you are just giving people sincere compliments, over and over, not trying to pick up.

By doing that, you become more confident in yourself when you approach people, since you aren't expecting anything in return. The only result you hope for is a smile. You're being nice.

You just drop the (honest) compliment and go.

Repeat steps 1-7 until you start to feel your groove.

Keep walking, keep moving, keep asking yourself what makes a woman or person interesting.

Only compliment the ones that you really do find interesting.

Ladies can be boring and douchie too. Leave them alone.

Focus on the neat ones.

It works with anyone by the way, everyone loves sincerity.

By now if you are truly charming, you don't limit it to just women, you can just walk into any conversation and make people feel good about themselves.

By now you are likable.

If it doesn't work, it's because you are not being sincere enough.

Be patient, with time, it will come to you. If you try, you will understand why it isn't working.

If you don't understand why, maybe you're just not cut out for this.

As you begin to see the impact your now sharpened, astute skills of observation have on people, you become more aware of how a pretty girl can blossom when you give her a real compliment. You become aware that letting people know how interesting they are is powerful. Giving becomes receiving. You make friends, learn names, make plans, play the slow game. Rather than the dicks strutting along desperate to pick up, expecting surrender from women, you find yourself surrounded by people and hot women that you genuinely feel are interesting.... you are awesome, they are awesome. Of this, all of you are sure.

By now, you masterfully avoid the ladies that are plain. If they don't charm you back then blah. Sure, they might be pretty, but you know now whether you truly find them interesting, you now can spot a boring one a mile away. You will cultivate your own brand of people, based on interests that YOU value.

HUGE BONUS: If you happen to be in a room, or an enclosed area, you begin to radiate a positive vibe because you're making people smile. When you happen to find yourself on your own, leaning on something or sitting somewhere, you are looking over the area with a nice look on your face, a gentle curiosity, observing people. It gives you something to do rather than just stand there and look creepy. Your smile is real, your words are real. Women who happen to look at you notice that other women walking by you are smiling at you very warmly. They are intrigued. Does everyone know him?

If a woman calls you on it and says "Hey!! You're just walking around giving everyone compliments!" You nod, fess up and say something like "Yup, so many beautiful and interesting women here! wow!" and then wink and smile again.

You start to learn what YOU really find interesting in people, which in turn reveals what you find interesting about yourself, your answers and conversations get more and more sophisticated and before you know it - BOOM - you're charming. BOOM - you know what you want.

It will show. People can tell these things.

[Underduress]

When I first saw this my first thought was I don’t want to read all this and follow all these instructions and then I read one thing and thought I already do that and then more check, check and decided most of this is second nature common sense that I already do but really never thought about it. There are a few in here I never really thought through like the interest in her internal check so yes good write up. One thing to add might be how to handle a girl just coming to you out of the blue and not blow it because that can catch you off your game.

[Lovvyyy]

this is all true, but to be honest, if someone is ugly, i could never think of him as anything more than a very witty friend

[Louloubum]

And that's ok. You aren't beholden to be attracted to them just because they are charming. Wish them well and move on.

[freakyzeaky]

Everyone is charming to the right people, but most men aren't charming to most women. A man just needs to work on himself, for himself, and keep an open mind. As long as he isn't too shallow, he will be more aware of compatible women who do find his unique qualities charming. The idea of "being yourself" works, but only if you love yourself and see yourself as lovable. Most people aren't 100% happy with themselves, that is fine, that just means you have work to do and for most people that work is a lifelong endeavor. Start small, baby steps, but challenge yourself. Tackle one or two things at a time, and eventually you will mold yourself into either a person you can now love wholeheartedly or a person who is more content with themselves.

A take it or leave it attitude is great to have, but you need to know when to allow yourself to trust others and to put your neck out for the people you grow to care about. There is a middle ground between neediness and apathy.

Trying to be charming to the widest amount of people (not in reference to the suggestions in this Take) comes off as incongruity and falseness. This is why some women claim they want men to "call me out on my bullshit!" Politeness and tact are good to keep things civil, but not to the point where it is unwarranted and obsequious.

Being charming isn't something you need to think about when meeting the right person. It should happen naturally when you clique with another person and you are being 100% yourself. If you have to try, then you already looking to hide something, even from a person you are interested in.

Just do you, and rock it the best you can! Dress sharp, get fit, expand your mind, go on adventures, explore the world and yourself, push your limits, and have an open mind. No worries if that woman doesn't think you are charming, she is but a drop in the ocean, and you are an ocean in a drop. Keep on chucking and have faith in yourself. Be inspired and be optimistic! Real confidence isn't a house of sand built in a few hours, it is one that is built brick by brick, laid down through every single success no matter how minor, and remodeled by your experiences. Keep building and screw those who try to tear it down.

[Louloubum]

Sounds like you don't have issues approaching and meeting new new people, new women though. I think with someone like you this could be a bit of preaching to the choir.

[freakyzeaky]

Well I do, but that is because of shyness. Shyness isn't overcome by simply being "charming". Shyness, like any other irrational fear, needs to be overcome by gradual exposure, building confidence through self-actualization, etc. Most guys who aren't "charming" to the right people aren't that way because they aren't 100% themselves are too reserved to act on their desires.

If I had no issues meeting new people, I would no doubt eventually meet someone who finds me charming and I think that is the point. So in my opinion, the idea of just "being charming" doesn't work, because might charm one woman might not charm other.

I agree, giving compliments are sweet and can be a great way to show interest, but that isn't the end all be all to attraction, compatibility, and romance. A bigger component to "charm" is to know how to flirt, how to have witty banter, and so forth and this comes easier when you are 100% yourself and not trying to force things to happen.

[Louloubum]

fine. But the post isn't how to be a charming person, it's just how to meet new women. I feel like a lot of comments I get pushing back are from people who didn't read it or expect that I am proposing how they can become suddenly wonderful people or how to trick women to sleep with them. I guess the post was too long, but I knew the comments would flow and I wanted to make sure I covered all my bases. Almost every single point you bring up has a counterpoint in the original post so I'm at a loss of what to say.

[freakyzeaky]

I guess what I am trying to say is that for a man to even begin to be charming is to first start with improving his own life. Often times we become naturally more charming without even having to try just by being congruent, confidence, positive, etc. Guys who have to worry about how to be charming are more than likely shy as I have explained. Charm isn't something most charming people think about.

I get what you are saying though. This is the sort of advice that you can use to meet anyone new, men or women. Just show interest and that makes you interesting. It is more of a social guide than a dating guide, which if you want to break it down, is mostly about having good social skills. I think most people can benefit from better social skill, but of course if you are shy, there are more things to overcome than simply improving the skill, you also have the neurosis to work around.

[Louloubum]

bahahaha. well said, mate.

[freakyzeaky]

For me it is mostly breaking the ice, so this guide does help. Reminds me of what I need to work on. Thank you for that!

[Gnomadic]

Some good input here on how to meet new and more women, but I will say this.. . The most a-moral/unethical, narcissistic outright jerks I have met in my life were extremely charming. Some of the most trustworthy people I have encountered are awkward, or strange, or downright bitchy at times. This will likely never attract a woman for a man. But authenticity is far better than charm. You can fake your way through life begging others to like you and approve; or you can be yourself and be proud of your eccentricities. This will attract individuals that are altruistic, honest, and will often accept you at your best and worst. If you just play charming, and try your hardest to impress and put on a charming smile, you sure will meet women - - - no effin doubt. But if you don't constantly play this game (given you are not naturally charming) you will have no chance keeping a woman without having to carry on with the show all the time. If she sees you as strong and charming upon initial meeting, and finds that number one, you can be damn sure that when you show just an ounce of "noncharm" or weakness, she will be on the hunt for a more charming replacement. So if you wanna fuck and chuck a gal for your own pleasure, charm her; but if you want to find a woman who will love you for you (which is somewhere next to impossible men) then do what you love, and be yourself. It's a bitch having to wake up and be someone you are not everyday.

I would love to see this refuted by the asker in a logical and convincing way.

[Louloubum]

Ask and though shalt receive.
1) "non-charm" and weakness are not antonyms nor synonyms. ditto "strong & charming"
2) I reinforced authenticity throughout the process. its all there
3) I also reinforced only approaching people you find genuinely interesting; the reason for this is simple, you want a genuine connection.

There is a hope that men will put themselves in touch with what they find interesting in people, and this will in turn reveal their true selves and help them approach much better prospects. The idea you present of faking and fucking is gross, I agree. But I speak of light things, and you bring the darkness. Good vs evil is not something I can tackle in this MyTake.

If your own concept of charm has been tainted by misuse, I understand that, but the definition is something much larger than your own frame of reference. Charm means the power or quality of giving delight. Everything else that follows is not up to you, is not up to me. It's up to the wielder of charm.

[r4ngeF]

first, i must say that its very nice of you to write all of that for the men here. i personally have much of appreciation.

as for what you wrote, i will have to say that i disagree with suggesting that men should go and hit on women in bars. the place itself makes it odd, and I've known a lot of people in my life and a lot of couples, and none of them started at a party. at least not the serious ones.

but, if you still wanna stay in that zone..
the best advice i can give is...

observe, and watch for the women who are not the best and good looking women around. try to look at them and choose the ones that observe other women that kind of look better than them. once you locate one, surprise her and tell her something about it. you can make a joke like "i dont know if i caught you watching other women, but i couldnt take my eyes off of you.. and i hate sounding like a walking cliche, but i told myself i must have a talk with you..."

and the strategy is to talk about "whats the worst part of the place ur'e in" since the women are too used to men who love to pick-up women there..

men must realize that this "place" (a bar) isn't really good, cause once you got rejected, women pay attention to the incident.
and that alone... lowers ur value.

[fueledbythc]

Well reading this explains why people find me charming. Im very selective in which girls i interact with. I was being neutral to my co worker and she stares at me, is super awkward and would touch me more than the average friendly female like touching my shoulders, lower back and grabbing onto my arm while she talks to me.

Being simple and direct seems to be a key factor in attracting women. It seems trying hard always backfires.

[AlphaM1]

I never take a dating advice from a woman. Only if she is my girl to know where I did wrong. I don't mean it in a bad way because all women are the same but different. You might like a more charming man but another female might like a less. So, Charming is what makes you girls the same but more or less is what makes you different. Therefore, it's is better for a man to be aware of that.

[Cosytoasty]

Well written. It's actually fun once you try it a few times without fear and get the hang of it too! Observing the bar and flirting through pure body language and the eyes will never get old, whether you're taken or not.

[Anonymous]

Since girls are at first not attracted to any gender. Women do not experience sexual attraction until they form an emotional connection with someone. In general, Women are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender, but if an emotional connection is formed with someone else, they may experience sexual attraction towards the specific partner (s).

A muscular body, attractive guy is just nice looking as like nice painting or it is not something that attracts them. Because before forming emotional connection they can't feel attracted to muscular body, attractive guy even muscular body would not attract them until they get to know a guy.

That's why women get offended if someone approach them.

[esotericstory]

" you are able to see the most interesting in them without requiring anything in return." the problem is that I experience is that narcissistic women seek out altruistic and selfless men to become their victims. So this approach is more difficult than it seems.

[PVictor]

That is just amazing, also it really teaches you how to deal with rejection, priceless for improving ourselves.

[Z-Spark]

are you seriously telling us to approach you and what we should do to approach you , wow this is a whole new level of entitlement.

[Louloubum]

Nah, it's more how to approach people in general. all the problems that come with trying to meet new women usually come from a lack of charm. You can be charming to anyone, but it works especially well with the opposite sex. And listen, if you think for a second I care whether or not you're charming, you're missing the point. Do what you want. None of my business. Jerks make charming people look so much better anyways. We need them to provide the contrast. So just be yourself. Whatever that is: grumpy or charming, bitter or sweet, whatever works. You decide.

[Z-Spark]

charming rarely works for men

[Louloubum]

LOL you're too much.

[freakyzeaky]

Charming only works if the woman is attracted to you. That is the bottom line. I have read so many times that attractive women are complimented so often, telling them they have gorgeous X (eyes, hair, smile, etc.), that you like their X (dress, shoes, accessory), can sometimes be off putting. Of course a more specific compliment is better than "you are hot!" which is a no brainier that you believe that or otherwise you would have approached.

Compliments are nice, but sometimes can make you look like a try hard or a flatterer. I get the idea of using it as an ice breaker, but so many women have claimed that it gives them the impression that the guy is only interested in banging her. Some have claimed they would rather not be complimented by a stranger at all.

The current advise is usually just to introduce yourself, exchange pleasantries, and small talk. Escalate and show interest if she seems into you. If she is attracted, she is attracted, no need to flatter her.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

TL;DR: Use charm, you either have it or you don't. Either this works for you cause you know how to be charming or you don't and will die alone in an ice cave.

[Louloubum]

Some people don't know they can be charming though, they are brought up a certain way, or have friends that aren't charming, or like below, dudes who are AGAINST being charming (puzzling!) so they don't know. Anyways, if you're a dude wondering why in dafuq you can't meet people, it's worth a shot.

I'm curious, what does TL;DR mean?
Please and thank you. :)

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Too Long; Didn't Read

[troychapman]

this is so complicated why do you have to be a master like this just to attract girls

[freakyzeaky]

This is why being your best self is the most important. People say that being yourself doesn't work. They will say things like "how has it been working out for you so far?" The truth is being yourself means you are only going to attract people into your life (both friends and lovers) that appreciate you as you are and these people are naturally going to be rare. Charmers, or men who have a high degree of social skills and charm, are more outgoing and will appeal to a wide variety of people do to that magnetism. They might get laid more than the average man, but do they find more fulfilling relationships? I doubt it.

The trick is to be your BEST self. The more you improve your life for the sake of your own happiness, the more confident you will be, and the more you will let those attractive qualities shine through. Then people will take more notice and you will be more aware of opportunities and act on them. How do you be your best self? (Continued)

[freakyzeaky]

(Continued) You be your best self through self-actualization. It is a never ending journey. Treat it as such and a woman who you eventually date and have a relationship with will appreciate you even more for not getting stuck in a rut. Workout and keep yourself fit. Wear good fitting clothing that is classy. Care about your skin, teeth, smell, hair, and overall appearance. Keep climbing the ladder in your education and career until you reach a place of contentment (and that is congruent with your desired lifestyle and lifestyle of your desired partner). Explore. Get into new hobbies. Stoke your passions (if you have them). Quit some vices (smoking, binge drinking, overeating, etc.)

Work on yourself but only do it for yourself. The right woman will appreciate you for your unique qualities. Do not to get hung up on women that aren't right for you and don't be too shallow to miss out on truly compatible women.

[Louloubum]

@freakyzeaky PREACH! <3

[Anonymous]

Ah more crap from women about how we should be.

How about you women finally grow up.
Every day I lose more and more respect for women.
This is why men are turning away from committed relationships faster and faster.
Shit like this proves that most women are not equal and will not be.

[freakyzeaky]

Most social "how-tos" suggest that being interested is interesting. This has nothing to do with meeting women. This guide is more so about how to be more social and how to win people over. You can compliment and charm men to. It is almost a required skill in some professions, especially in sales.

She isn't suggesting you be a certain way, just that this can help men who want to approach women and show genuine interest. Of course if she isn't attracted to you, she will turn you down. Of course it takes more than being charming to keep a woman attracted and to manage a relationship. Of course no all women will find you charming, so like I said before in other comments, just be yourself.

Men are turning away from committed relationships because it seems like women do have higher expectations and despite equality, for safety reasons, still require men to put in the effort to charm/approach them, so in a way, I can understand your frustrations. Still, bitterness is not a good look.

[Opinion Owner]

@freakyzeaky After being married for over 10 years and then single for years I can tell you the change in dating is astounding.
The games, the requirements, the fact that just being me has clearly not been enough was a bit of a surprise. The difference in how women act is night and day from years ago.
With all the whining about equality now, surprisingly women actually expect more from men and offer far less then before.
It's also a bitter pill that everywhere I see how men need to be this or that. The impression given is that we are no longer enough as we are. That's unfortunate, particularly for boys growing up and young men trying to make themselves a good life.

[freakyzeaky]

Oh I understand that frustration fully. It is one of the reasons why I think women are the vast majority of initiators of divorces with divorce rates going up overall. Women are finding more reasons to be unhappy with men. There are still down-to-earth women out there, but it isn't like how I was taught growing up. I mean granted, if you are a good for nothing bum, what woman would want that? But for the average male, it sometimes feels it is hard to meet these modern requirements by just being yourself. I get that completely. Women of course are going to deny that they get bored easy and that it is up to the man to step up his game, but what about the women? It is like the women are pricing themselves out of the market.

Not all women mind you, which is why it doesn't pay to be bitter, but just know that the right one is out there, you just have to ready for her. Don't waste your time with a woman who expects you to do all the wooing, plays games, and acts like her shit doesn't stink.

[Louloubum]

@freakyzeaky I feel both of you. I agree with everything you say, and I also feel the effects when i talk to men and they are so mad and bitter and distrustful towards me when I've done nothing wrong; it's all these terrible women tainting the waters. As a good loyal woman who is honest and doesn't fuck around, I can say with certainty that I've met guys who've treated me a certain way, and despite me knowing that they were just hurt and lashing out, I've had to walk away because those grounds are no way to start a healthy relationship. No matter how great the guy is, if he comes at me and accuses me of stuff I never did, we just can't move forward. the biggest red flag for me is a guy who says "I'm playing games." This day and age, women have to either sleep with you right away or they "are playing head games." I pay my own way, do my own thing and i just want to get to know the guy first. I have to chose between being a slut or playing head games. It's awful. And it is our fault.

[freakyzeaky]

@Louloubum, yeah, as we get older, we appreciate a more straight forward approach. It is still fun to be playful, to have great rapport, to flirt, tease, etc. You know two people are right for one another when that sort of playfulness comes naturally, when the two are completely at ease and comfortable. That said, when I say "playing games", what I mean is that the woman isn't clear about her intentions. If she is interested in a relationship that will last and likes where this is heading, then should speak up and say so. A mature man will respect her honesty and should know that the sex will come when the time is right rather than to try and force it. So many men are given the advice that if that you don't turn on your sexual energy early on then she will not see you as a romantic interest or will think you are not interested in her. It pays to be straight forward, to know what both people want, that way you don't waste time (continued).

[freakyzeaky]

(continued) If a man just wants sex, there is nothing wrong with that, but he should make those intentions clear so that way you know where he stands. That is when, rather than playing games, you let him know that you are only interested in a lasting relationship. If he respects that, he will either move on if that isn't what he is looking for, or he will have to consider being committed to you. Of course at this point now you will have to be double concerning about whether he is really interested in a LTR and not just a short term fling, but at least you know where he is coming from.

When I say "playing games", I mean women who set tests for men. It shouldn't feel like the man is applying for a job. Who needs that stress? Love and romance shouldn't be a battle, it should be a collaboration, a dance, where you want to see each other succeed. That is the whole point, or why even date at all?

[Louloubum]

@freakyzeaky yup. I'm single but I don't date. Gave up. Girls these days make single women look bad and I'm not up for being treated like one of them. Just gonna do my thing. Went dancing on the weekend because I like to dance and was subsequently accused about 10 times of trying to pick up men, by girl and guy friends. No. I just like to dance.

I feel like being single makes me some kind of whorebag. Everyone assumes I'm on tinder and I hook up with strangers every weekend, or else I stay at home and eat ice cream and talk to my mom on the phone all day. I hate it. It's not embarrassing for ME though; it's embarrassing for all the others who jump to those conclusions. I have no idea how I will ever meet a normal guy who isn't jaded by all this crap, but I figure there must be some out there.

[freakyzeaky]

Just need to keep an open mind. When I say date, I just mean going out with a guy of interest, not necessarily going on the "hunt", using online dating websites, or being overly assertive.

I agree with you that if people were just more friendly, looked to make others feel good (complements, teasing, flirt, play, etc.), you are bound to find someone who is interested. The question is, is that person right for you?

I can see where it would be frustrating if all guys who approached you (or you approached) only wanted you for sex. I can also see that is why some women don't approach since some guys might take that as an opening for a fling and not a prospective relationship.

I know me personally, if a woman was friendly to me, flirted but without sexual undertones, I'd get the picture that she likes me but not necessarily looking to screw. I'd understand that it would still be on me to ask for a date, but the breaking the ice part is the hardest for me being introverted and shy.

[Opinion Owner]

well here's to dreaming of a world where we can just find someone to call a best friend, lover and companion without the silly posturing, expectations and madness both sexes bring to the table now.

"Hi, nice to meet you. I think your interesting. You too? Great. Let's get to know each other and have some laughs and adventures along the way."
If only it could be this easy again.

[freakyzeaky]

I wish it were that way too, but with my shyness even that would be a challenge for me. hahaha. I am working on it though...

[Phoenix98]

Nah just go to a gym, coffee shop or outside, your guaranteed to meet new women in those 3 places.

But your advice is pretty decent for those that don't know how to interact with women.

[Names93]

By walking around giving compliments you get known as a "nice guy" and nice guys don't get girls.

Still this is simply one person's opinion on one specific approach to dating.

[ChaseLonnergan]

Have to be physically attractive for this to work. So... I'm out.

[Anonymous]

Meanwhile, all girls have to do is look pretty.
I fucking hate my life.

[Louloubum]

No way. Girls have to be charming too. You decide. If just pretty is good enough for you you'll get stuck with a lame ass woman. beauty fades, charm is timeless, ageless. At my age, all manner of guys are leaving heartless bitches they married when they were younger and hotter. This is why the divorce rate is so high - you have to have better standards for a woman than just hot. Aim high. Take the high road.

[Opinion Owner]

Considering none of the girls in my age group want a relationship:
Yeah, no.

[freakyzeaky]

Well usually physical attractiveness (hotness) is what entices a man to approach in the first place. He isn't going to approach you and give you a compliment on your charitable heart if he has never met you before. So as far as attracting a man's initial interest, of course "all girls have to do is look pretty". Chances are, that is how you as a guy will initially attract a woman too. Looking handsome or pretty isn't just how you dress up, clean up, your body type, etc. it is also about your body language, how you carry yourself, your mannerisms, your facial expressions, tone of voice, and so forth.

Look, most people aren't "charming". Most people just let their most natural positive self shine through and if that is attractive to you, great! If not, then so-long!

[John_Doesnt]

According to James Bond "Never take advice from women about other women."

[CaptainSmartass]

Well, he does know what he's on about. The 007 guide to going on the pull would be the ONLY guide any dude needs to get a woman...

[Anonymous]

Too much to think about. With so much to remember and focus on, I will go crazy before I even approach her.

[shephardjhon]

I know you said a lot but I only looked at and do these "Keep moving. Walk away. Give space."