I think in so many cases you're absolutely right. I just think you should never take this "game" too far. Cute little better try harder attitude isn't hurting anybody. It can be goofy and silly to play a little cat and mouse I think.
I agree 100% Just shows the Backward think girls have.
So yes they deserve to be called CRAZY when the act like this... or if you ask if anything is wrong and they say no when they know there is something wrong.
Here's what I think, girls are more attracted to guys they can't read. It's not about being hard to get, but you can't go all out either. You have to make them wonder about you to build attraction. As for guys yea it's better if the girls don't play hard to get.
It is true that the playhard is toxic. But be aware that easy and nice is not the good way. We have to stay in set and over the Nice guy/ asshole dilema: we have to being calibrated beings. we feel good in that way and women love us in that way.
I just ignore every girl I see and I don't give a shit. Women can sometimes be annoying as fuck staring me down but its fun when you just act like they don't exist. Minding my own business period
You older ones need to spread these values onto your kids... As a (relative) youngster, I enjoy flirty games - but the whole hard to get thing is and always has been bullshit. I think teen and young adult girls (and definitely some guys) pedestal themselves - women expect men to grovel but they don't realise not all guys roll like that.
@FreshOutaIdeas yeah I think men and women learn to accept and appreciate each other's differences more as you get older. There is also a lot of bad dating advice out there that people seem to buy into, the key in any relationship is good communication with each other. Yes push and pull/give and take is exciting and healthy, but if someone makes me feel like they're not interested in me then why on earth would I waste my time being interested in them?
I like to be honest with the people that like me and if I like them then I would definitely tell them that I like them because they might hate secrets being kept behind their back.
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I think in so many cases you're absolutely right. I just think you should never take this "game" too far. Cute little better try harder attitude isn't hurting anybody. It can be goofy and silly to play a little cat and mouse I think.
I agree 100% Just shows the Backward think girls have.
So yes they deserve to be called CRAZY when the act like this... or if you ask if anything is wrong and they say no when they know there is something wrong.
Here's what I think, girls are more attracted to guys they can't read. It's not about being hard to get, but you can't go all out either. You have to make them wonder about you to build attraction.
As for guys yea it's better if the girls don't play hard to get.
Some people like the hunt, others don't. If you don't and they want to be hunted, then there is obviously no compatability.
I like the hunt, but from time to time, its nice to have the "prey" come to you.
@Tdieseler That's not really hunting though.
Tdieseler likes the hunt -- but not all of the time.
Thank you @rocksongwriter , come on girl... you can't give forever... at some point, you gotta receive right?
I understand people like the hunt, but if you're looking for a serious long-term relationship, this method won't get you far.
I wouldn’t ever play that game. It sounds childish to me.
I completely agree with you, but a large portion of the population does not.
I'd say based on this forum that a great percentage of the population agrees with all three of us. :)
Playing hard to get is pointless to me, how is sending the wrong signal suppose to help
@deraz24
Yes, that is right.
And it's shooting yourself in the foot.
I totally agree that playing hard to get is kinda immature, but at the same time, girls shouldn't be too easy.
There are many more unproblematic ways of not being easy.
I totally agree but at the same time you don't want to look desperate
there's a difference.
There's a difference and there's many more unproblematic ways to not look desperate... :|
I think such games are futile. It's best to be honest from the start and not waste time
i one time played hard to get with a girl to the point where she had unreasonable expectations of me causing everything to just fall apart.
I'm sorry that happened. Unfortunately, playing around like this tends to have bad results... I've experienced them myself as well!
It is true that the playhard is toxic.
But be aware that easy and nice is not the good way.
We have to stay in set and over the Nice guy/ asshole dilema: we have to being calibrated beings. we feel good in that way and women love us in that way.
It doesn't just fail it leads to terrible unintended consequences which are not worth anyone's time besides stupid little kids with nothing to do
I just ignore every girl I see and I don't give a shit. Women can sometimes be annoying as fuck staring me down but its fun when you just act like they don't exist. Minding my own business period
Gaaaaaaay
Getting too old to play fucking games anymore... I'm done. Take me. Don't take me... Whatever...
Too bad all of us don't think that way, the world would be a much easier place to live in.
Amen to that!
Completely agree. Who has the time to play games? Life is complicated enough.
You older ones need to spread these values onto your kids... As a (relative) youngster, I enjoy flirty games - but the whole hard to get thing is and always has been bullshit. I think teen and young adult girls (and definitely some guys) pedestal themselves - women expect men to grovel but they don't realise not all guys roll like that.
@FreshOutaIdeas yeah I think men and women learn to accept and appreciate each other's differences more as you get older. There is also a lot of bad dating advice out there that people seem to buy into, the key in any relationship is good communication with each other. Yes push and pull/give and take is exciting and healthy, but if someone makes me feel like they're not interested in me then why on earth would I waste my time being interested in them?
I don't play games only simps love a chase. Me, i see it as untrustworthy and i can't fuck with you if you still think its ok to be childish
I like to be honest with the people that like me and if I like them then I would definitely tell them that I like them because they might hate secrets being kept behind their back.
Exactly! I'm glad you feel this way and the person you like will thank you for it :)
Thank you for sharing. There is a lot of truth in this take.
Don't play hard to get, BE hard to get.
Women tell me all the time "you know, I just don't get you".
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@Bananaman177 Haha nope. I have a great guy.
How tall is he?
He's 6'3
@Bananaman177 LOL!
@Fuentes Is this a problem?
Inside joke.
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When you said you have a "great guy," my first thought was literally, "what is he, 6'4''?"
One inch off, but you get the picture.
Yes, it's an excellent my take!
I don't believe in games
Correct!