So as I was talking to my friend, he talked about his youth being "ruined" due to some difficulties; one of them being:women. He said he couldnt get a girl cause he felt like he couldnt talk to them and as i thought, he had the common nice guy syndrome.
He said, he couldnt BE honest with a girl. He just couldnt be himself. And thats what defines a modern day nice guy from a bad boy. Nice guy emulate and start creating a new "me", which is modeled to the liking of the girl.
- The girl likes hip hop, so i have to like hip hop to
- The girl likes hipster clothing, so i do to.
- The girl hates a certain type of ideologie, so i do to.
We have no real men, because of females being our primary guides in life. We dont want to "dissapoint" the women of interest cause it may turn them off. We can't look at their figure or ass, cause we may seem perverted. We can only throw roses at them.
Im not saying bad boys are the shit, but at least we have bounderies. But we dont do it to do it; we have reason. Ill never say to a girl, your hair is ugly. And when she asks:why? I dont respond; i dont know it just is. Ill say cause of the color or something related to it. When "bad boys" argue, we dont attack the person, we attack the subject; give valuable reasoning(related to it), we admit our mistakes, let the others talk, and WE ALWAYS REMAIN CALM.
A nice guy gets sweaty,starts mumbling, attacking you with madness and even if he were winning, it seemed as he is losing cause he is losing his CONTROL. Girls love someone who can control themselves and lead their lives without stress. Who are confident for what they stand for. Cause someone who values themselves is confident. And confidence is key.
A nice guy will always fade away when talked about sex. But this is maybe the best example: You get called out in class for having a crush/sexual interest on your classmate:
- Nice guy: will shy out, deny it in every language. Start shouting, show nothing else but vulnerability which ofcourse opens door for more provocation.
- Bad boy: will plainly admit it, be honest about it. Laugh with it, even compliment the girl like: How could i possible not fall in love with someone that attractive/with that sex appeal. Closes door to any further picking, since he confirmed it. IS not shy about it.
Nice guys will pedestal women over budget. A bad boy won't, cause he is in control of his life. Now their is a difference between a bad boy and plain jerk/asshole.
- Bad boy: won't insult to gain power, is funny,intelligent.
- Jerk/asshole: will insult for power, is very cocky, likes to show off his sex life etc..
A bad boy will always stand out, no matter what or how. He won't even do it on purpose. May it be his life dreams or the way he talks or is. You can tell he is bad. He owns his world, the female enters his world but dont expect him to bend or budge for you. Cause he'll leave you like you were nothing. He doesn't overthink it, he just does it.
Cause when around females, bad boys have this natural charm and charisma/sex appeal. They make her laugh. The way he walks,acts. He is not fake, he is real. Everything he says is nothing else but the thruth, the girls mind games always backfire on her.
You can't "become" a bad boy. Cause you're being raised, by your enviroment. And you can't change that, you can dress more like or act,talk. But at the end it won't be you. You can stop being the nice guy by not flowering her. Being honest, compliment when needed, draw a line when needed. Dont be like an ankleweight on her. Cause when all ties down, she'll choose the bad guy. Cause he isn't desperate and looks like a good protector. He is stronger physically and mentally. AND stands out.