Coming home from the gym, my brother was complaining about how "nice guys finish last." As in, they don't get in bed with the girls in interest because these girls my brother is eyeing are trying to "maintain their morals" with guys like him. At least, that's his explanation as to what's going on in his social network at high school.
And he did actually bring up a valid point, which I'll voice the girls' side on. Although we pose as idiots to do so, women tend to make it harder to automatically jump in the sack involving a man we respect. Reason being, we don't want him to see us in the same light as the guys we've had casual sex with do. We want to see if we're worth his time, so we take our time before doing anything with him. In all honesty, out of the people I've had casual sex with, I was in a legitimate, bf/gf relationship with one of them. And he was the only one I didn't want to have sex with right away. Quite puzzling, isn't it?
I'm glad my brother was complaining tonight, because answering his question helped answer mine. So my brothers, please don't hate yourself when you're having a tough time getting with the girl everyone else seems to be able to get to swoon, because deep down, whether she realizes it or not...
She's got you on a pedestal.