Part 2. The Friendzone: Why you are in it and what you should do about it!

[Jenny12345]

I recently wrote a myTake on friendzone, but realized that I left some information out. If you want to read part one please go here.

This is written with the same purpose as the original. I will discuss why girls friendzone and what you should do. Numbering will continue from the first article.

5. Intimidation factor: “He is too good for me.”

Yes this happens. Sometimes a girl feels that the guy is too good for her. For example, I’ve met girls (receptionist) who felt that a guy (investment banker) was too accomplished compared to her. She felt as if she couldn’t keep up with him.

Note: This often happens when there is a large discrepancy between the girl and guy’s income, education and family background.

What you should do: I’d probably stay away. You could try to make her comfortable by doung things (dressing down etc) but the girl probably has a low self-esteem. The relationship will be tiring for you.

6. You didn’t move fast enough

You only really have about six months to make a move before a girl “friendzone” you. If you wait more than that, your chance of being friendzoned is high.

What you need to do: I would distance myself from her for some time (6 months to a year) to “reset” the relationship and then approach her again. It’s wise to shape up and take care of yourself during this time.

7. A word of advice:

Try to not see the girl that often. Once a girl starts seeing a guy friend everyday, she will see him like a brother. You do not want to be in the “brotherzone”. It's like friendzone on steroids.

[btbc92]

I'm sorry, but this is entirely stupid. There is nothing wrong with being friends first to find out if you're compatible to be dating. In fact there is no such thing as waiting too late. You are the compatible or you're not. You are to be honest with what it is that you're looking for or you don't. It's up to both parties to decide whether or not they want to become something more than just friends. But healthy relationship always comes from friendships. So if you have no desire and maintaining a friendship into halves you shouldn't be friends at all let alone even try to date that person. Nobody deserves to be hurt. This is why a lot of girls especially if not just a few guys the first date strangers because every time they try to have a friendship with somebody there's always that one kind of push for something that the other person may not be ready for. A person is trying to force you to get into a relationship with them when you not ready or still trying to figure them out and decides to cut me off because they feel rejected is not the kind of person you want to date or have in your life if they choose to leave let them leave. Good people wants to be in your life not want to be in it when it's convenient for them.

[N3sha]

I disagree. It depends from person to person. To some girls starting as a friend will leave you in that friend zone forever and some fall in love during that friendship. So if you think that you should build friendship first nd then a relationship that's fine. But that's not necessarily the case with other girls

[btbc92]

This is where you are entirely wrong. It is not about some friend zone. If you're talkin about friendzone and all you really care about it sucks. It shows that you really don't care about the girl at all. That's why a lot of other girls are struggling and suffering because they don't want to do what's right. They want what comes easy and what's exciting to them. And was exciting to them is being with other strangers and then they want to know why they ended with wrong partners. So it's best not to compare your desires with other people in that matter but look at what is the right way and what is the wrong way to seek a partner and actually maintain and be successful in those relationships. Do you actually see a lot of success with girls who completely date strangers?

[btbc92]

To be honest that's why a lot of guys go out there strangers concerning women too. Because their main concern is getting sex and they mad because they can't get sex from the friend that they want to. So they know they can stay strangers and easy access to sex and they can leave the other girl who did a so-called claim as a friend alone. It's done as a shame tactic and that is wrong. Besides, you supposed to find out everything concerning values, religion, principles, belief, Faith Etc about the person before you try to date them anyway. Because he's the moment you start dating them you ain't thinking on those levels you only thinking about what you're going to do emotionally and sexually in that shouldn't even be happening. That's how so many people and it been failed relationships or broken marriages because they did all those things and then they end up in a divorce. Maybe that's how a lot of other people choose to live but that is not the way I want to live.

[N3sha]

Building friendship amd getting to know other person can be a two different things. I know many guys who got stuck in a friend zone and can't do anything about it because that girl can't see further then just being a friend. Imagine that agony. And for those people that are in a long relationships that i know of they never started as friends.

[btbc92]

Because all I really wanted was exactly what I said, which is sex. It's only dress you got it because you can't get sex from that girl. Good relationships have partners with are not just lovers but also your best friend. It has nothing to do with the fact that they can't get around of the fact that they can't see him more than just friends. It's a fact that you don't share the same values and everything that's important to them. Yes you do need Vision to see yourself wanted to be with that person for a long time, because it's for life. And you don't want to end up with the wrong kind of person. The reality is that sometimes a lot of these girls don't really know what it is that they really want and need in a person and they keep getting with the wrong kind of people not just in their friendships but in every other relationship aspects in their lives. If they wanted to be with that person so badly, they need to make their intentions clear is that is suing that the girl will feel the same way about them. Because it takes two willing participants to make a good relationship. There one has to be no Agony if you got really concern yourself with how the girl feels that are concerned about what you feel. You putting yourself first before the other person. Stop with the friend zone nonsense. It's only destroying the relationship because you people don't want what's right and best for the person you claim you like so much.

[btbc92]

And no building relationships and getting to know each other are not two different things. They are actually the very same thing. Because in order to build a relationship with that person you need to get to know who they are. You can't be friends with people that you don't share anything in common with. And if that's the case then you're friends with the wrong kind of people and they are fake or you're just being fake with them. That is not a healthy relationship. Healthy relationships all about growth and learning. If you have no desire for that then you should not be forming any kind of relationship with anybody and that's just common sense. As a wolf of myself I would never date a person I do not already know what they are about and what it is if they seeking. Especially when they don't like my morals, or my beliefs. In order to be in a healthy relationship you must be on the same page.

[btbc92]

You need to first see if you are compatible and nearly almost everything, it has nothing to do with Hobbies or other pay stuff. What about faith. Do you share the same face if you have any or do they have any? What about views about sex? Does that person believe in sex before marriage or they don't like I do? That's another serious issue you got to think about before you just try to date anybody. And they didn't take those examples when concerning about trying to see if they can have a relationship with who they were interested in then they're the ones that made the serious mistake. Stop blaming it all on girls not wanting to be involved. The thing is we women think about all these things but a lot of you men sadly don't. The only going after a girl because she looks good and that's why you men always fail in that area.

[btbc92]

As a person myself*

[btbc92]

Because all you really wanted was*

[KissesAndKiwis]

It really depends on the person. Most people think because you’ve been friends for a long time they just aren’t interested but in my opinion waiting is way better and it builds a better relationship

[btbc92]

Then that's when you let them deal with the consequences of their choices. Because it goes to show you that they only interested have is getting you into bed with them. A real friend would do that they will respect you. They wouldn't just assumed they would ask.

[KissesAndKiwis]

Wh- No, I’m talking about a serious friendship not “Just friends to see if they are likeable”

[moviedude714]

I'm surprised number 5 was worded that way because normally it's guys who get placed in the friend zone because traditionally guys do all the heavy lifting in dating

[genericname85]

who cares :D all you need abotu the friendzone is that nobody forces you to be their friend. cut them out of your life and you're free.

[anametouse]

#6 sorry real love doesn't move fast

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take..