He texts me "Do you wanna come over?" What Do I Say?

[owlove]

I m 19 never have been in a relationship. & so as you can see Iam in the dark when a guy 25, meet just 4 weeks ago in insurance class texts he wants me to come over his place (which is technically the back room of his parents house) anyways. our first real hangout outside of school was today and now tonight he wants me to come over to his place. No he dosent drive nether do I so a 4-block walk at 9;40p. m. to his place is a "booty call"? we talked a lot during those 4 weeks and what I know is that he is nice sweet wants companionship and is taking this slow (friendship, dating BF/GF, marriage)>Bad thing is he's a 5 out of 10, and has a pic of him and his ex in his wallet, but talks shitty about her. So yea. AM I torturing myself into something thats not going to happen? Or do I need to realize he's probably just wants friends with benefits and is playing my emotions. WHAT DO YOU THINK?

[Quintheguy]

Don't jump to conclusions. Most likely if he wants you to hang out late at night he is looking to smash. Try some sweet moves on you... definitely because of that age gap and his age has experience in doing such things. Don't be scared and don't not want to hang out with him because of that. It's a guy thing. If the time comes and he. Wants to do things and you don't simply tell him that's not what your there for or interested in at the moment. If he doesn't accept that then he is playing the game. Sometimes he'lltry a nnumerous amount of times.

[owlove]

I can see where i may have jump to conclusions fast and his age dose make me wonder if he has done something like this before

[Quintheguy]

Don't miss out on a good time because of fear nor the unknown. Take baby steps. Be aware and alert but don't worry.

[BrandonMcIntyre]

If he is a sweet person then he can understand that you don't wanna hang out plus it's late so that should be a pretty good reason why you don't wanna walk there

[Anonymous]

Don't go over his place it will make you look super easy and desperate.
You guys seem like you need to hangout more and go on some fun dates! He is moving too fast.
Its ok to flirt and kiss. But don't have sex with him until you guys are official. its obvious he isn't over his ex if he has her picture in his wallet! the only reason he is talking shitty about her is because he wants to think they don't communicate anymore, but they do. My advice is don't rush sex it will confuse everything more and you will feel like shit

[owlove]

i wish we could flirt and kiss... thats why he wants to take it" slow: but if thats considered fast then yikes! were "just friends" at the moment but hell if he calls himself a simple man then why are all his texts complicated. THANKS :)

[Anonymous]

he definitely just wants to be firends with benefits. its a booty call otherwise he wouldn't have asked you to go around to HIS place so soon, especially at 9.40pm, he would have hung out with you, he's not taking you seriously. dont let him play you, you can do better!!! say you dont want to go over because you think its a bit too soon but you can hang out elsewhere if you want, and if he says no, then there's your answer

[owlove]

your right especially if he wants me to walk over there like hell no

[CuriousBlackGirl]

Go with your gut if you don't want to do it don't go. I don't think you should. Because guys that ask you to come over at night usual wanna fool around.

[owlove]

even if the guy is those religious types?

[CuriousBlackGirl]

That doesn't matter girl. They are actually the worst in my opinion. They hide behind a godly facade to reel girls in just to do the same bullshit regular guys do.

[eseilenna]

bootycall all over, don't be a fool you should show him you respect yourself and he can't play with you like that

[FurtileSpermRelease]

I think he just wants to get you to hang out at his spot. He's definitely not over his ex though if he still talk about her.

[Anonymous]

We can't tell you how to run your life. You just have to decide for yourself... trust your instincts