My ex and I have been very back and fourth. he was in my school for his last semester but it was funny because he decided to break up but he would come up to me and talk to me. He drunk cried to me in August and in September he even wanted to tutor me lol. I told him I didn't want to talk to him so we had this weird back and fourth..
We tried talking about it but he said he was getting a lot
of anxiety dunno. back in September.
Anyway in December he came over to help me with some things.
I had asked him to come to some market and he said he would but he did not. I asked again and nothing. He helped me with some things beforehand so I thought why not.
He would message me Jan and Feb just simple things.
February he initiated to see me but I wasn't at the school.
Apparently he kept talking to a friend about me how I've changed and stuff.
A week later I had the courage to ask him out for a drink. He agreed but the day came and he bailed… driving 8 hours to see his brother bc it was his anniversary.
I told him I didn't want to chase him and if thats the case I will leave him alone. I dont chase for people and I can very well just block him if he wants to and i said goodbye (i actually blocked him and he noticed until i unblocked thats why i mentioned the blocking) I also mention I feel like he's running away from me so ill
leave him alone.
He texts me and says he is not running away. He says that he will
plan something and I won't have to plan anything and he will tell me.
Anyway on his way back to Canada the next day I am in class and he visits my school. Canada is 8 hour drive so I found it funny that instead of going home he came to my school “to see a friend”. however he kept waving at me and making eye contact and calling me. he kept on calling me and texting me and I asked him why he was here and he said that. Him and the friend chatted for
He also mentioned again in person that we would plan something its just hard combining schedules as my classes end at 9 pm and 7 pm and he does your typical 9-5 but commutes 1 hour every day and even stays longer he said.
So yea I completely understand.
We chatted for the whole
week from Monday to Friday but I being super busy would take hours to reply… he just left me on read Friday and I pa
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Wow. There is a lot here. First of all, I’d recognize that he isn’t committed to you. Plain and simple. Blowing you off that many times, isn’t acceptable. In relationships or friendships. But at the same time, based on what you said, you’re clearly looking for someone who is reliable and takes their commitments seriously. This guy doesn’t. Period.
You either have to accept that this is who he is. Flaky. Unsure. Not reliable. Uncommitted. Etc. OR you have to recognize that it’ll never work out in the long term and move on from him.
You mentioned in your question that you don’t wanna chase him or scare him off. I’m not sure I’d say “scare him off” but I’d say end things. You either have to chase him (while also changing what you’re looking for) or end things with him. He’s shown who he is. You can’t change other people. So although you might not want to make that choice, it’s necessary that you do.
Personally if I were in this situation, I’d end things, and stay true to myself and what I’m looking for. I know it’s hard and heartbreak sucks. But long term, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
Never get back with an ex. They are ancient history. The same issues that caused your breakup. will still be there.
Never go backwards
Keep him as an ex and move on with your life!