My ex wants to get back together but I don't trust him?

[victoriaxoxo]

We dated when we were 19-21 and it was a long distance relationship which he ended in the most brutal way. We had agreed to be in an open relationship and he never communicated that he wasn't comfortable with that and I wasn't sensitive enough to pick up on queues so he ghosted me and tried to replace me with a girl who looked a lot like me -.- ... Anyway that didn't work out and he attempted to reconcile but I felt too hurt to even speak to him. Like the break up had me really fucked up. Years passed and once I felt like I could keep him at arms length I reached out for closure because I felt like mine & his relationship was still getting in the way of my life. When we met, he was a completely different person, so mature and grown, able to communicate and express himself clearly. He wants us to reconcile, he is willing to risk it all and move anywhere I wanna live, he's unofficially asked whether I'd be down to marry etc. I also still feel a certain way about him, like when we make eye contact it still trips me up the way it used to 5 years ago. He seems to like me too. It's just that I have this bad feeling, this lump in my throat. I feel too scared to even attempt anything serious. What should I do? Have you been in a similar position and were you able to work it out?

[exitseven]

It sounds like the breakup was really a bad situation and long distance relationships are hard to deal with If he sounds sincere and you still have feelings for him you owe it to yourself to give it a try If it doesn't work out at least you will have some peace of mind Someday that will be important to you.

[Ga-girl]

If closure is what you need then ask him those questions you've been wanting to ask. If you he really has changed then that would show in his answers.

The fact that you already have a bad taste in your mouth would be a pretty big barrier between you two. Start as friend's? A lot can change in a few years.

But if you start seeing the same guy you dealt with a few years ago then drop him. Communication is key

[PeteBy]

Pretty much verbatim what I was going to say.

[GlassTop]

Your situation is very familiar. And it always ends up exactly how you think it does. If you want to be friends with benefits, go ahead. That’s about as good as you can get. Otherwise I can see you breaking up again except with kids or something.

[Fireguy17]

It's tough to go backwards and try again.
Many time you end up just waiting for the old behavior patterns to resurface.
Sometimes they don't, many times they do.
It's a tough call.

[Guy13]

Then don’t do it. Need to relive it again to relearn it? Why are you considering it⁉️

[Ga-girl]

Maybe because she sees that he's changed. It is possible but not guaranteed. But that intuition I something else

[TheBigGuy9]

Sounds like you are purely attracted to him physically or he has a lot of money? It’s beneficial to you in some way that isn’t really meaningful?

[Andres77]

He’s an ex for a reason.

LEARN the LESSON!!!

[melanieeeB]

Then don't go back.

[Anonymous]

Then its time to block him and move on.