Does She Think I'm A Creep?

[Anonymous]

I am a very shy person... As a result... I have never kissed a girl, never had sex and I am bad with women. Lately, I have come out of my shell, and I am able to get numbers now and I've been on a 4 dates. I have a date once a week now. Unfortunately, during the dates, since I am afraid to make physical contact (holding hands, touching back, shoulders, etc)... they lose interest in me.

I had a date tonight... and I boldly told the girl before the date via text that we were going to kiss tonight. She told me that if I have game, then it's on.

My date with this girl was the best date I had. She was engaging, fun to talk to, was interested in me and what I had to say... and the conversation was good. Since I didn't know the area, she showed me around and we got a drink and talked. We both just shared a bottle of bud light

Towards the end of the date, while we were walking, I decided to break my shyness. I nervously took her hand. At first, she seemed kinda put off by it, because she didn't know what I was trying to do. Once she saw I was grabbing her hand, she went along with it and squeezed my hand every once in a while.

I got a little nervous... so I started jabbering on about the sites in the area and asked her about them. This went on for about 5 minutes. I don't know if she sensed my nervousness... but she said that she had to leave because she had an online quiz due at midnight. Before she left, I asked her for a hug... then a kiss (my first kiss, just a peck) and she did both. Then... I blurted out... "I told you we were gonna kiss"... then she said playfully, "it was supposed to happen". She told me to drive safely and we both left... and I told her I would contact her later.

Do you think she ended the date like that because I took her hand and acted nervousness? Do you think she likes me? Did I come off as creepy?

[21nert12]

Sounds sweet to me. My (ex) boyfriend was always kinda nervous about stuff like that, but after a little bit, he really loosened up and relaxed. So when you make physical contact with a woman, make sure that even if you can't hide your nervousness, you seem fairly relaxed. If you're tense and you squash her hand, she might be a little put off. So just relaxe and keep it cool.

[Asker]

Well it's too late for that. She hates me now XD. I'm probably being a little dramatic by saying that, but it's true. I've been on 3 other dates previous to this. I was a gentlemen and didn't even attempt physical contact... didn't hear from those girls again.

Date with this girl went well. Contacted her last night via text... no reply. Tried again an hour ago... no reply. Before the date, she usually responded promptly or texted me first, but not anymore. I'm just not sure what I did to piss her off, and I am not sure how to fix it. Should I just leave her one final text telling her that I am sorry and just delete her from my phone?

[21nert12]

I wouldn't say delete her from your phone, I'd just say you should try to talk to her and wait and see how things go. My guy is being kind of the same way, only I think things might be going better? But anyway, I think you should see how things go the next couple of days. If she's still like this, text her one last time and settle everything at once. It has taken my situation almost 2 months to get to where it is, and I'm still confused. So neither one of us may get everything worked out very soon?

[Asker]

I just don't understand what I did wrong? Maybe I should have offered her a ride home? Maybe that pissed her off? It was 9 at night, the streets were still busy and when she said she had to leave, she seemed pretty adamant on going our separate ways... and she lived 2 blocks away from the place we hung out. Maybe I should have offered her a ride to her place? I don't know...

[21nert12]

Yeah... I'm not sure what to tell you other than to try to get her to talk to you about whatever there is to talk about. If she's like my guy, that won't be easy. There will be times that she ignores you totally and times that it seems like you're the only person in her world. If talking to her doesn't work, try ignoring her when she pays attention to you. I don't know if it'll work in your case, but it worked (somewhat) for me. When he finally texted me, I replied right back, but took my time answering after that. Texting him was the first thing on my mind but I made it seem like it was the last and somehow, it worked.

[21nert12]

I'm not like most girls (in fact, I'm more like my guy-friends), but not offering a ride home wouldn't tick me off. Sure, if I didn't have a ride, it might be a bit irritating, but I wouldn't make a big deal about it. That's just me, though.

[Asker]

But she walked to the venue to meet me in the first place. Lol...

[21nert12]

Wow then I don't know what her problem is. I am a girl and I don't understand most girls. I actually understand guys better than girls, yet my guy has be completely confuzzled with all his mixed signals. Sometime tomorrow I'll make a whole question thingy about it and see if anyone can help... as far as your woman goes, I really don't know what to say. I guess just wait and keep trying to talk to her and see how things go. It's been working for me so maybe it'll work for you.

[21nert12]

You seem really nice and sweet. If she's causing this much trouble, try to look for other women until she comes around. If she doesn't, (I HATE when people say this to me) try to move on and forget about her.

[Asker]

I don't want to seem clingy by texting her once a day. So... I'm not sure.

[21nert12]

Dude, I text my guy constantly. He (usually) replies, but at least I (usually) don't feel like I'm being clingy. If she makes you feel like you're being clingy, make her feel like you're ignoring her. Like I said, it somehow/somewhat worked for me. But again, she sounds like one of those women that can confuse the crap out if a man yet leave the man still wanting her. I really don't know much more to say...

[21nert12]

It's late and my Kindle has a low battery so I gotta go. You're welcome if I did help and I'm sorry if I didn't... I'm really not sure what to say about her.

[Anonymous]

Noooo. She felt your nevousness, obviously. Maybe she got bored by what you were talking about but if she huged you and kissed you... I mean, would you kiss someone you consider as a creep?
Personally, if I thought the guy was a creep, I would have left way before.

Did it help? :)

[Asker]

Lol. So... she might actually like me?

[Opinion Owner]

Well... Does she look at you a lot? Stare into your eyes? Smile at you? How did she seem during the date?

[Asker]

During the date, everything seemed cool. She was actually the first date that I had where she was asking me questions and doing most of the talking! I also showed a lot of interest in her as well, but I was shocked she wanted to know more about me, because I was beginning to think that women were all about themselves and didn't give a shit about the guy they were going on a date with.

Anyway... I texted her last night, and she still hasn't gotten back to me. Before our date, she used to get back to me in a timely manner or respond to me the very next day. Today... I still didn't receive a text from her after I sent her a text last night. Not sure if I ruined everything or not.

[Opinion Owner]

Let her time guy ;) and don't think about it too much, stay calm, when will you see her again? Do you work together or see often?
She was really interested in your person guy! It's good!:)
If she didn't answer after a quite long time, then either you call her to ask for another date or go and talk to her, don't stay with questions on your mind :))

Guy, I need a guy opinion to help me pleeeeeease? (:

[twigsducks]

maybe she really did just have an online quiz. It seemed like you guys had a nice fun date and that moment leading up to the end that you described was pretty cute. I don't think you came off as creepy at all :-)

[Asker]

Think she hates me XD. Sent her a text last night... no reply. Sent her one an hour ago... no reply. She replied promptly to my texts before the date.

[delys]

Sounds like a good date overall to be honest.
She probably did notice your nervousness, but that's not necessarily a huge issue depending on the girl.

As for her leaving, I think you're overthinking it. Every date has to end at some point, sounds more like she'd had a fun evening but had something the next day rather than you coming off as creepy.

[Asker]

That's true. I guess I am just a little paranoid... considering my last 3 dates with the last 3 women I went out with didn't go as smoothly XD.

[Yeahhbro]

nooo i dont think she tought you were creepy, she just tought that you were not man enough. The best advice that i got from somebody is that girls like guys who are bold, daring and move fast.

[ladymcbeth]

You were fine. If she thought you a creep she would have made an excuse way before, not touched you in any way and left. Trust me on that.

[Asker]

Ha. That's reassuring.

[ladymcbeth]

Its the truth. There are guys I won't even shake their hands... Cuz they're creep me out... She did far more than that.

[Asker]

Now... I'm wondering if she likes me or not. I text her last night an hour after the date... no reply.

I just texted her an hour ago. Still no reply.

[Prilee1992]

Not fully creepy, not nervous.
Glad you make mistakes that help you know what u did wrong :)

[Asker]

True... but now she won't reply to my texts. I sent her a text last night... no reply. I sent her one an hour ago... no reply. Before the date, she was texting me a lot and we were talking a lot and texting regularly. Think I blew it... but I'm not sure what I did wrong!

[Prilee1992]

yeah, probably she was upset you didn't go for the kiss.
Usually a girl would blow him off, just like that...
Don't be too upset about it.

[Asker]

I did go for the kiss. We did kiss.

[Prilee1992]

But u weren't sure to escalate further

[Asker]

That's true. But I did esclate by taking her hand, which she reciprocated by squeezing my hand back and walking with me hand in hand. And then when she said she had to leave, we hugged and then we kissed. Prior to the date, I told her we would kiss when we go out, and I fulfilled that promise.

I'm not sure what else she wants from me. It was a good date, we kissed and then went our separate ways.

[Asker]

Like I said, man... I'm always the bad guy XD. Treat a girl with respect during the date and she hates me and never wants to see me again. Try to get physical wit ha girl during the date and she hates me and never wants to me again.

[been_waiting]

Nothing about that was creepy.

[Asker]

Feels like it... because she won't respond to my texts after this date -_-

[been_waiting]

What did you text her?

[Asker]

When we text each other... it's usually funny and very casual... so an hour or 2 after the date, I said this:

"Hey! Hey! Just wanted to say that it was fun going out with you tonight! You are pretty cool! Hope you had fun as well :)!"

That got no reply. Then I sent one just an hour ago:

"Hello there :)! How was your day today?"

She usually responds to texts like that or even asks me things like that as well. I guess the outing was that bad if she won't respond. What should I say?

[been_waiting]

Sending multiple texts when not getting a reply isn't good. Don't say anything

[Asker]

I agree with you. BUT... I've also been down that road before with women where if I don't talk, I'll never hear from that again. So... I guess I should just delete her from my phone.