Boyfriend won't have sex with me because I'm a VIRGIN!?

[Lusty101]

When we first met & I told him, he straight up told me I don't take vcards. I got a little offensive & said well whoever said your gonna take this one anyways then he got offensive. But that was kinda a long time ago. Were dating now & he won't do anything sexual towards me :/. Last night my bf asked him so when are you guys gonna have sex since you got jokes (he makes fun of her boyfriend for not sleeping with her next) && he said me & her are a whole different story && she said how cause she a virgin& he said yeah so she said so are you guys gonna have sex ever & he goes no I don't take virginities.. It kinda hurts my feelings cause I actually want to.. I just don't know what to do or why he even says that.

[Anonymous]

he doesn't love you enough.. he is not for real and he doesn't see you with him for a long time.. he even makes you feel like being a virgin is a bad thing while it is the complete opposite.. he should be happy that you are "pure" and not act that way.. so what that says to me is that he doesn't deserve you.. you should move on!! and anw where is this leading and what does he want? you going with someone you dont know so that you won't be a virgin and then he will touch you? it is honestly crazy! and dont feel bad and hurt it should be the opposite actually! feel proud that you waited for a special guy and haven't gave it away easy and believe me this is not the guy that deserves it after a so long wait!:)

[Opinion Owner]

by saying"Well no I've been raped & he knows that soo I'm thinking maybe that plays a part".. that can only mean that technically you are not a virgin...

[Anonymous]

He probably doesn't wana take ur vicinity cus he doesn't want u to get too attached to him.
Which means he doesn't really like u.
Break up with his ass, he should feel honored ur willing to let him take ur virginity, let alone have sex wih him? What kind a guy refuses sex with his GIRLFRIEND? Lmao! like thats ridiculous to be honest.
Also the way he rudely responses to you and gets offensive, if he had a genuine reason to not want to take ur virginity he'd say it. He obviously doesn't have a reason, he doesn't care enough to give u a understandable explanation besides saying "I don't take virginities".
BREAK UP WTH HIM NOW. And date a guy who doesn't get offensive towards you.

[Opinion Owner]

Virginity*

[Hopefuldreamer8]

Seems like you're wasting time with this guy. It doesn't make sense that he wants to be with you then. Eventually in most adult relationships it leads to sex. Does he just want a hand holding non physical relationship for a while? I can't see how this can be a long term relationship because it's not like he is going to never want sex again. He's eventually going to want it. So is he going to dump you just because you're a virgin? I've never heard of that. Maybe he's just playing around with you or he's nervous. It just seems like an odd situation that he wants a relationship with you but not sex. Maybe he's a virgin as well and he's scared.

[Hopefuldreamer8]

thanks for mh

[Lusty101]

Yeah last night it got brought up again by a friend & I started saying maybe because he getting it from somebody else & he got mad and said why you letting him (called her him) get in your head with that stupid shit. & then he said let's just say she different, were different I'm not like your boyfriend (taking to my friend) the first night I met him he wanted to have sex with me, I even was rubbing him &all that.

[Lusty101]

One day he told me "let's just say you something different and I hope it can stay like that" . I really don't know what he means by any of that, it bothers me cause he won't tell me what he means by that.

[Anonymous]

Have you told him you want to go ahead and have sex?

If after that he doesn't want to "take your vcard" then ask him to suggest a friend of his that might. :p Okay, getting snarky there, but he's being kind of a dick about it. Hopefully he'll get over it and do some stuff with you.

(if he doesn't feel ready for sex himself yet, that's another story, but that's not what he's saying, now is it?)

[Klaatu51]

personally i feel him, i'd not want to be with a virgin as well LOL

[smokahonntus]

How so?

[Anonymous]

My friend and one of his friends would always say that. They say it's because things didn't work out great when they did previously and the girls get too clingy and are way too in love and that's even after they break up.
That being said, my friend found a girl he actually loved and took her V. I'm not saying your guy doesn't love you, I'm just sayin that's what he did.
Guys are scared to sometimes aswel. I mean, lots of girls have big hopes and dreams of losing it, and that's a lot of pressure and responsibly on a guy sometimes.

[xPoison]

He don't take virginities because he view it as something special or disgusted by hood alone AND mostly importantly he does nor see himself with you long term thus he don't want to take that from you.

:) honey, get yourself a new bf

[loverlost24]

That's weird.. Maybe he thinks you'll turn into a clingy girlfriend, terrified of losing him? Have a serious talk with him about what he is thinking. Ten years down the road he won't want to sleep with you, so leave him if he doesn't change his mind. You're wasting your time.

[2ndOne]

Bruh doesn't want you to get attached because he doesn't seem himself with you for too long. You better break up with that ass.

[Lusty101]

He told me he seen me long term & that's why he chose me over all the other girls.. he's told me a couple of times "you something different and I hope it can stay like that".. I don't know wtf that means cause he won't tell me.

[2ndOne]

lmao what is bruh's problem? idek what he means by that, like is he planning on marrying you and doing the whole no sex before marriage thing cause thats what he sounds like.

[lumos]

And... why is he with you, then? I mean yeah, I get that there's a lot more to a relationship than just sex, but at some point the both of you are going to get bored of not having sex.

[lumos]

Especially considering that neither of you seem to be asexual?

[MsAnthropist]

He probably thinks that you'll become too clingy after having sex. Most women (and men) fixate on the person they first slept with.

[KBob93]

He doesn't want to take your innocence, because he loves & respects you too much.

[HappyToBeAlive]

Respectable boyfriend. Respect his beliefs. If you dont like them, find someone who will take you virginity. In my opinion, he's a keeper.

[abundantlyrich]

i think he's freaked out by blood.

[Lusty101]

Well no I've been raped & he knows that soo I'm thinking maybe that plays a part..

[abundantlyrich]

hmm you never said that in the details section.

[2ndOne]

wait, but then technically you're not a virgin

[lilia2012]

I am sorry but that is kinda cute.

[JackKerouac77]

Seems odd. don't know what to think.