Haha wow this sounds so strangely familiar. When I was 14 I was in a situation like this girl you're talking about. EXCEPT, the guy did do things to encourage it, like holding hands and hugging and very out of the ordinary gestures of affection.
i can't say what is the right thing to do. Because in my situation, I told the person how I felt and told him I didn't expect anything but was just honest because we were good friends and then he promptly ignored me for the rest of my life. It still crushes me.
I can't say ignoring is a good nor bad way to go. Ignoring her would definitely encourage her to forget and move on. BUT depending on how mature she is, maintaining a pleasant composure would be just as fine. As long as you're not overly friendly and what not.
i think there just needs to be a balance between not being too friendly and being pleasant enough. Haha. If that isn't confusing enough.
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Wow- that's a question for me because I totally had that happen to me when I was 17- crushed HARD on my 30 year old teacher . Sigh .
hmm . Mine just faded with time . But that was really painful to me .
if I were you, I'd offer friendship . (girls that age ESPECIALLY at 14, aren't mature enough to discern love from friendship), so either way she'll be satisfied,and you'll be happy cos you won't be thrown in jail ^ ^ .
just, even at 17, I feel I would've gotten closer/ would've been happy if I just got friendship from him, let alone if I were 14 .
so . Hope that helps ?
be her friend, and once she trusts you, get her to realize it could never work .
As an adult, you have to do the uncomfortable thing and talk to her about how her feelings are natural, but that any flirtation would stumble into the grey area of inappropriate behavior.
I work with junior highers, and I've had a few boys that I've had to speak with about appropriate behavior, and even one I had to switch from my class because he kissed me (one the neck.) No worries, I reported it immediately and luckily we never heard anything from the parents. You can't take any chances- in an age where kids can cry wolf, and adult-child relationships are smeared across the news, you have to cover your tail.
I as a young girl I had a few crushes,and I don't think I ever expected anything out of it , it's just a crush . But one time that crush made a move on me and I was freaked out by it and never wanted to be around him again . So I say let her grow out of it . Or if she makes it known to you that she wants to be with you or makes a move,Let her know hey you are too young for me and I can get in big trouble from even thinking of you in that way . She will be fine . But the best way if she does not make moves on you is to let her grow out of it .
Do you Want to go to jail, look your not a celebrity so wait until she is 18, I think Woody Allen married his step daughter and Jerry Lewis married his cousin, if we were living in Ancient Greece go right ahead do whatever, but unfortunately we have laws and reminder being a terrorist watch list is bad but you do not want to be on sex offender list
As long as she is not being aggressive enough, just let the flame die out . But if she is actively trying to make something happen with you, drop the bomb on her . Make sure the war is over dude and leave no survivors in something like this . Better to break her heart than to have you in jail or worse .
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Honestly I think you should have sat her down and explained to her, that you were too old for her and that their were plenty of nice boys her age out there who would have found her interesting.
but hey dude it;s ok my older bro had that problem when my friends crushed on him big time in middle schools. Girls that age don't really think much about "age" all they see is cuteness. Don't worry.I wouldn't worry about it to much. When I was 14, crushes came and went weekly. That's how it is for most girls at that age. Do you see her often though? Because the more you see her, the worse her crush will get, or it will just persist. But don't ignore her. Act normal around her because either way, the crush will fade.
Personally, (as a girl who has experience with these sort of matters ! ), I really don't recommend confronting her about it - it will just lead to further embarrassment for you and the girl .
Let it run it's course . Nothing will happen I can almost assure you - just be friendly and act normal and as she grows older it will fade !
XWhatever you do . DON'T CONFRONT HER . Don't say anything just let her grow out of it . If you confront her she'll deny it . Trust me I know . And you'll feel like an idiot and she'll be embarrassed that you know she likes you .
That is hard but remember that she is young and while she may feel that you are the guy for her she will get over it and be glad she moved on in the end. Tell her how lucky the guy that has her some day will be but you are just not that guy. Be honest and caring.
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