Cliché bus crush, how do I approach this guy?

[pixiepan]

For 2 years I've been getting the same bus home from work as my newfound bus crush. Until recently I never took any notice of him. We would catch each others eye but it was always accidental. However about a month ago, we caught each others eye and I smiled at him for the first time, I don't know why I did but I was rewarded with the cutest, shy smile, now whenever we see each other share a glance and we smile. He stares straight at me as he's stands to go down the stairs (we sit upstairs) and smiles up at the window where I sit once he gets off the bus.
I'm not assuming anything, but I would like to get to know him better. Unfortunately I'm not sure how to approach someone on the bus of all places! If you were in my situation how would you handle it?

[BearsAnswers]

Problem with a situation like this is that you have no way of knowing his situation. You don't know if he's just really shy, if he has a girlfriend, if he has a boyfriend, if he has an ex-wife and 6 kids... and the only way for you to know is to talk to him.

If you want this to be more than just a crush from afar, you'll have to just sit beside him one day and start the conversation. From what you've described, he probably thinks you're cute, so that gives you a huge head start. A quick conversation will clear away some of the doubts right away, so it's clearly going to be your best first move.

What to do from there will depend on how chatty his is... how receptive he seems to your approaches. If he isn't saying much, you may just want to leave your number with him and see if he has enough interest to contact you. If he is a little more attentive, you may want to get his number so you can follow up yourself. If things go smashingly, you may suggest grabbing a coffee or something together... if you are on the bus heading home after work it should mean you are not rushed for time. That should give you lots of opportunity to suggest something spontaneous.

[PixiiDust]

Hi, I'm not sure if you're still on this site. I just want to say thank you for your advice on this question. I'm the OP (profile change since then) and the guy who I was talking about is now my partner. We've recently moved in together and we are very much in love so thank you for your advice.

[NitroBlade]

Look for something in common. Maybe something about the bus, or the area you both are in, or the old fashioned weather talk. Or if he reads a book, ask him if its any good and what it's about. Or ask what he's listening to. Can't really go wrong with anything to break the ice, since he clearly finds you cute.

But you'll never know anything until you talk to him. Don't let him slip by and wonder what if, in the future! Good luck!

[PixiiDust]

Hi, I'm not sure if you're still on this site. I just want to say thank you for your advice on this question. I'm the OP (profile change since then) and the guy who I was talking about is now my partner. We've recently moved in together and we are very much in love so thank you for your advice.

[moxygirl11]

Just go up and introduce yourself. Like "Hey I'm ____ and I always see you"

[PixiiDust]

Hi, I'm not sure if you're still on this site. I just want to say thank you for your advice on this question. I'm the OP (profile change since then) and the guy who I was talking about is now my partner. We've recently moved in together and we are very much in love so thank you for your advice.

[Jocko]

Try sitting next to him and just start talking. Like hi im so and so, this bus would be a lot better if it had an elevator, something stupid like that. I think that's really your only option, just gotta go for it.

[PixiiDust]

Hi, I'm not sure if you're still on this site. I just want to say thank you for your advice on this question. I'm the OP (profile change since then) and the guy who I was talking about is now my partner. We've recently moved in together and we are very much in love so thank you for your advice.

[apexalpha]

easy get off at his bus stop and approach him have a small talk and take his phone number

[PixiiDust]

Hi, I'm not sure if you're still on this site. I just want to say thank you for your advice on this question. I'm the OP (profile change since then) and the guy who I was talking about is now my partner. We've recently moved in together and we are very much in love so thank you for your advice.