Guys, I just told the guy I like that I like him. What can you make of his reaction?

[Anonymous]

Finally I am able to tell him.

Me: You know what, I really like you
Him: (looks shocked)
Him: Thank you. Thats nice of you to say. (Smiling and got shy a little bit)
Me: Ok, take care (we were in lift and reached desired level)
Him: See you later
Me: (just walked fast cause i was freaking shy)

So, what can you make of his reaction? Was I too straightforward?

Updates

+1 y

First day post confession : Were both at work but im a bit shy so I tried to avoid him (this was not obvious) in morning. Afternoon came, we passed by each other. I didn't notice but I blocked his way, I said sorry and he was all smiling and "its alright". Next, I was waiting infront of lift when he came out of the loo and saw me waiting, i smiled at him and i thought he will just continue walking but then he asked me if im waiting for someone and i said yes. i feel that he is talking to me more

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+1 y

I invited him for movie, it was special tickets so had to watch it on Tuesday last week but unfortunately, he had to go business traveling on that day. He didn't mention that we can go next time, so i was thinking maybe he is not interested. When he saw me at work and when we were both alone, he asked me how was the movie, how long was it, where did i watch etc. so i just answered his questions with a cold shoulder? Lol i know but im starting to move on so yeah.. is he being polite?

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+1 y

Today, with all my might, i didn't look at his eyes. We met quite a few times but i evaded tho I've been noticing him looking at me. Anyway, whatever it is, I've done my part :) its off my chest. I dont see any more development so thank you all for your inputs!

[NitroBlade]

Congrats on taking the leap! Unfortunately if I were him I would be confused by what you mean by 'like,' like many guys, I've been flirted with by girls who've had no real interest in being with me. Then girls who did like me would show no signs. So it can get confusing for guys.

It sounded almost like you were saying it in a friendly way, but he may have gotten a hint. He's probably wondering right now. If he's shy he most likely won't ask you, unfortunately. Even if he like-likes you. Though, maybe he'll get the courage next time, hopefully.

Just don't let this moment make you so shy you don't talk to him. If he likes you, but is shy, you need to open up to him, talk to him, keep showing interest, so he doesn't feel too shy to ask you out. If you, instead, stop talking or looking at him out of shyness, he may be too shy to ask you out or make the next move, assuming he gathers the courage to do so.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for your opinion. I honestly want to be with him. I have shown signs that I like him by texting him "you looked stressed. Take care of yourself" and other stuffs. I gave him chocolates from my holiday before. If he's wondering about my confession, im glad that it made an impact to him 😊 he actually stared at me smiling before he said something after my confession.

[NitroBlade]

Great! Hopefully he gets the idea. Remember that girls are as confusing to guys as guys are to girls. We're never sure if a girl likes us or not. He may just think you're being friendly, even if you said you like him.

Keep pushing forward with it. Help him make the next move if you're too shy to do it. Have you had anymore run ins with him? How has he reacted?

[Asker]

yes, quite a lot of run ins actually. Can you please read my update. I feel he is bolder now when it comes to talking to me. Or is he just like that to not feel awkward?

[Poppykate]

He is actively seeking your attention! Don't ignore him! Otherwise things will go backwards, and he will think that he misread the signals, and you are not interested. Good luck! I am sure you two will make a great couple!

[Johnnyjay]

I've been in this situation. I agree with everything said here

[sobg71124]

I have to be honest with you. I wouldn't be comfortable at all with being put on the spot like that. What you have done, though probably unintentionally, is remove his responsibility to pursue you, IF he so wished, and take things into your own hands. In that case, a guy feels obligated to show interest, simply not to hurt your feelings, or cause you to feel rejected, etc. When I guy pursues YOU by his own volition, then you can be certain of his feelings and interest in you. At this point, I would really back off. Give him some space! And allow him to approach you, if that's his desire.

[coffeprince]

What a genuinely good response to get update.

[coffeprince]

Her* not get

[sobg71124]

Why, thank you, coffeprince! Very kind words...

[Asker]

Thanks for your inputs. Im already backing off and moving on. I told about my feelings to him with preparedness :) I guess im that strong to take all the blows! Lol

[Azara]

Since you know each other it'd be better to have just ashes him out bc he can actually do something with that. Like day yes or no. And then you wouldn't have to try to figure out what he means.

Asking out is always better than just saying I like you in my opinion. It lets everyone have a clear idea if what's going on instead if just how people may it may not really feel. And you can't really get away with saying " thank you " if someone asks you out. You gotta Answer them.

But good job being honest that's hard to do. I know you're " shy " but I don't think it's easier than just asking out and you get a better idea that way:)

I understand now that you'd be made a move you nay not want to make another so If he you think he might like you and he doesn't make a move in a week just ask him out so you know for sure.

[Asker]

Thanks! My purpose was not really to ask him out but just tell him that i like him.

[Azara]

I know my point is on general if you ask someone out instead of telling them you like them you are assured a response instead of being on the situation where you have them information while you don't necessarily know what's going on.

I just prefer to get information do I'd rather ask someone out instead if confess feelings abd have no idea what's golfing. If course whatever you want you can do. But like you wouldn't have had to ask us if he likes you if you asked him out and he'd says yes or no. That's all :-)

[Azara]

Oh sorry! Just read your update:) good job!!!

If he asks you out back would you say no bc you've moved on?

[Aleera]

Umm I don't know... I guess it was a very expected reaction of him to have. He was obviously surprised and he needs to process this. Even if he likes you (which by taking a wild guess here, he does) he needs to think his next move. How to get close to you. And not only that but if I was him I would be left with many unanswered questions inside me. Like" does she like me like a friend? Like you know- I like you, like, I like hanging out with you, or does she like me as a dude? Or does she like me, like has a crush on me?"like what the shit? Lol...

[Asker]

Thank you. I would be happy if he ask me what kind of "like" haha

[Aleera]

Haha lol..

[TrulyPink28]

I think you both feel somewhat awkward but if he wanted more, I think he'd have said something like, 'I like you too... .' He's being a nice sport about it though... not letting you feel too embarassed and not avoiding you. I personally feel he likes you as a friend though...:(

[MyBabyAngels]

He answered, that was nice of you to say, says a lot. One, you are not he's type, just friendly to you, or two, he is really shy. Is he shy? So, saying that, if you still like to get he's attention, invite him to hang out. If he agrees, then he would like to get to know you.

[timmy111]

I think you just surprised him in honesty...
Next time you see him, his reaction then will be the best indication..
Massive respect for putting yourself out there !!

[Asker]

Thank you! I shall definitely check his reaction next time but darn it, i think i wouldn't be able to face him 😂😂

[timmy111]

Hey, fortune favours the brave !!
Good luck

[Rock99]

I don't think so... If the guy is an extrovert and talks to you often, then there are no worries. He might not agree to date you (just saying, no offense meant) but he will stick to u as a friend. His smile and coy behavior proves that. But if the guy doesn't talk much... There might be a problem there

[zagor]

Don't give up that quick! If you are really interested give it more time - if you start ignoring him now he will get the impression you weren't really interested.

[Asker]

I dont know but isn't it a given that whatever actions you do after someone confess to you is most prolly your answer to the confession? Been a week already and he didn't make any move at all.

[zagor]

You said you were shy; maybe he is also? Maybe he isn't sure where to go from here.

[LuckyNo13]

It would appear he is showing cautious interest, Generally meaning one of a few things: he's been recently hurt, he's gay, he considers you out of his league, or he simply has very little experience and is being cautious.

[Asker]

I've considered those i swear but i still can't make it out.

[LuckyNo13]

There is one alternative that few would even bring to your attention, some men like to be chased. there is a certain thrill value to it though its not my cuppa.

[bananatossing]

haha he tried to play it cool but obviously is very flattering (possibly felt good) when a girl says that. If he likes you he'll make a move.

And props for doing it! If more girls would be like that...

[Asker]

Thanks! I was looking for an opportunity to be with him alone so i can proceed with my confession. Thank god i didn't chicken out when the time came. Its just a matter of how eager you are to do something!

[bananatossing]

I like the way you think, and I agree :D

[bananajams77]

@bananatossing I could never tell a guy I liked him unless he or someone else told me first. lol But I certainly do quite a bit of talking (or as they say "bust their chops") once I get to know the person and we connect.

[bananatossing]

@bananajams77 As long as you are actively showing interest you are doing good still :)

[TadCurious]

You took a chance and told him how you feel. I admire that, and I think you should feel good that you did that. You can't control what his reaction is or will be. But you said what feel. Now maybe he'll man up and take you out for coffee. LOL

[Asker]

Thank you! I've been waiting for him since last year but still no moves!

[sid312]

So awesome that u did it! It wasn't bad and u saved ur self sometime. And some anxiety and wondering. That is fantastic! U should be proud of ur self. Look how many people were pullin for u. That says a lot

[Hal171]

It is good to be honest and if you really meant it he will be very happy.

[onetimesometime]

he seems like he feels the same way, but is kinda shy. He's acting like he's trying to subtly get your attention but not overdo it. Again seems shy, but probably likes you to!

[thatkaruguy]

He was very surprised guys aren't used to being complimented or approached first. Just follow up on this tomorrow to see if he likes you back.

[Asker]

Its already weekend here. Ugh. And i dont think i would want next week to come. Im so shy hahaha

[Arthurred]

Do other guys find you attractive? But regardless of whether he feels the same it took a lot of courage to confess those feelings to him... hopefully things workout but it is hard to tell what he is feeling.

[Asker]

Hmm. I guess so. I attract married men and those who are in a relationship. I dont know why, im not doing any flirts to these guys. It is very hard to tell what he is thinking. I assure you that.

[Anonymous]

Wow I really envy you!!
Hope I had this courage too...

About his reaction.. It's obvious he was surprised. Wait till the next time you'll see him and observe his behaviour towards you.

[Asker]

Thanks. I was so fed up so i decided to tell him and he's a shy guy. No matter flirt I do i think he wouldn't get it so have to tell it to him straight in the face.

[singlebee]

Hhahha you did the right thing... He was just shocked and maybe flattered...
Don't worry he will tell you what he feels too!!! 😊

And your sorry was so funny too... LOL

[singlebee]

*story

[Asker]

Im laughing at myself too hahah

[MistiGal]

well... yes I agree with the others... but he did say to you 'see you later'! he may not have said anything! ... :)))

[amanwalia]

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[TheDevilInside]

No. Straightforward is always good because guys usually can't comprehend hints.

[neverdowhatwesay]

You should be straight forward. . And he should answer that thing that time

[Anonymous]

I would be thinking... does she likes me as a person? Or does she like-like me?

[emerald77]

It honestly doesn't seem like it got across that you LIKE like him.

[fuuuark]

My advice, flat out ask him out, it probably isn't going to get anywhere if one of you don't take proper initiative

[sp33d]

Unbelievable how much hypothesis is based on a small conversation. He said he'll see you later, that's the only viable deduction to be made.

[Anonymous]

Not enough information to tell lol..

Update and let me know what he does next time you two meet. Make sure to comment so I'll get the notification.

[subzero007]

I think you surprised him better check out his next day reaction first then approach again

[Iam_Adi]

If you "Like him" Like him, then his reaction probably isn't a good sign. And no you were'nt too straightforward, Guys like it this way!

[Marzaanthatsright]

Guys have been asking out girls all these days. So, yeahh you have done something great! ❤

[Bailey090909]

No that awesome!!! I wish u had enough confidence to do that

[_Zara_]

See how he reacts next time you see him

[moxygirl11]

I think he needs time to process the news

[FallenAngel1]

I think he may also like you

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Nah he'll come around.

[Asker]

Really. How do you say so?

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Some guys like to plan things out some like things to just happen, but all guys like it when a girl shows interest in them. Except when they are gay. He may now go after you or wait awhile and try again. If you truly want him and if he wants you, he will come.

[coffeprince]

Updateeeeeee!!!

[Asker]

There, an update :)

[coffeprince]

Interesting, I have a similar situation at work, but the guy I like only flirts and uses sexy jokes/ innuendos. Its kinda upsetting and frustrating to think it won't go anywhere. Its good to move on, nor an easy task, if you have more updates share share share :)

[Anonymous]

Well, have y'all even been on a date?

[Asker]

No! We are colleagues and this guy is harder than stone, sadly.

[Opinion Owner]

So then how do you know you like him, if you haven't even been on a date. People these days!

[fearful]

If they work together, that means she's seen him even possibly when she's stressed out. That's a lot more you get to know about a person than on a normal date.

[fearful]

*he's

[Opinion Owner]

Then you don't go on very good dates do you

[zagor]

Dates are a psychological dance, with both trying to project an image. I think you would know much more about someone from working with them than from a couple dates.

Unless you work at a place like I do now where no one talks to each other...

[Opinion Owner]

You'd def. meet someone more on a date than at work

[Anonymous]

can you see it john? equality. equality is near!

[Asker]

Yes. Equality!!

[Opinion Owner]

i wait for the day i'll be asked out by a woman... . i hope im her first try though, cause they seem to quit quickly... .

[MargaritaPeach]

I see girls asking guys out quite often, and it doesn't help that a lot of times the guys will just laugh in a girl's face and say, "Uh--no." I think this crushes the poor girls spirits and then they are afraid to ask again, because no on enjoys being laughed at. Perhaps if they said, "sorry, I have a girlfriend" or something similar instead, regardless of whether or not it was true, girls might be more inclined to ask guys out more often. You can say no without rejecting or insulting someone! To be fair, I am sure some girls respond in mean ways, too. We should all just play a little nicer...