Why do they always invite me to their house but not on a date?

[Anonymous]

now this has happened with more than one guy so I'm beginning to think its me... here is how it goes - we hang out , I try to play it cool. they usually make the first move either try to kiss me or something. One instance the guy and I had been texting a while , he invited me over to watch movies ( we had partied together a few times before) I went over just as friends - he kissed me! I liked him but didn't want things to be awkward so after the kiss I just said I had to go and good night. we hung out again , got drunk , and made out a lot. he couldn't wait to hang out again - so we did but I was more cautious and just cuddled didn't kiss much. he never called again. Another guy took me on a date so perfect!kissed at the end of it then another night he asked me to a party - we got drunk and made out , I left the next morning. he couldn't wait to invite me over the next night - but only after he had been drinking! I was offended and said why are you inviting me over at 1am? he apologized and took me for a date another day - but after that never called again. happens a lot we hang out like twice and then I never hear from them again. most guys text me at eleven at night! invite me over! but don't ask me on a date...why? I usually don't go over and if I do I try to act respectable...

[dollme777]

They just want to have sex with you, or they see you as a girl they can just have some naughty fun with, when a guy picks you up late, texts you late, and want to see you after they are drunk they obvioulsy don't hold any true interest in you but maybe a bootie call, those are like the 3 big signs. What you need to do is if a guy wants to hang out with you make sure he takes you out on a date first...play it cool don't bring up sex specially through conversation while texting or whatever but if he brings it up he may only want sex!... and stop getting drunk and making out with these guys because if you think that is getting them more interested in you its not. That's where you are going wrong

[LadyRugger]

This usually happens when a guy is looking for one thing only... the booty. I've had this happen to me before too and it isn't a good situation to be in. The guy is usually just wanting to have sex or use you for a warm body to sleep next to. This guy may have some sort of feelings for you, but it's a good chance he doesn't really respect you.

One thing I did, and it turned into a pretty good relationship, is asked the guy to make dinner together at a reasonable hour like 5 or 6 that way it still leaves time to hang out but you can leave at a decent hour.

It's best to not talk with this person and just cut off contact because he doesn't respect you for who you are.