How often do you get crushes?

[blessed_curse]

and how long do they last

[beyonder]

Well in middle school, literally every other month 😂 Lesser in high school and now rarely if ever. I still think those guys are attractive, but I don't have that crazy infatuation about them like I used to. I'd say each crush lasted 3-4 months before I kinda forgot about them.

[mskay]

So far I've had only two, considering the fact that celebs crushes doesn't count :p

One from 14 till 15, and another is from last summer until now..

[LittleSally]

Not at all anymore.
I used to - when I was your age - they could last forever.

[blessed_curse]

Lol.

[JustinX9]

I have a crush on a lot of girls I easily turned off when I know she already have a boyfriend, the length simply depends on my attraction towards her, but recently it last only a day. But I prefer not have crushes on girls anymore

[Illusive_Man]

Have... never really had one in particular. Inflatulations yeah sure , I'm human but crushes? Don't recall.

[blessed_curse]

How often do you feel infatuated to girls?

[MissNowhere]

Not that often. I've only had 1 serious crush that lasted for 3 years and that ended 2 years ago. Other then that, I do get crushes sometimes, but they're small ones and last only for a few weeks.

[MissNowhere]

*than

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I think 1 in 20 more or less, depends on how well I know them and if they are younger or the same age as me. More if in university or high-school because loads of girls are attractive. Less if in the workplace with a bunch of older people/dudes.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

and they last until I don't run into them anymore or if I realise they have an unattractive personality.

[Phoenix98]

I used to all the time and then I just grew out of it now a days I just simply either like a girl or I won't lol.

[Kay211]

Two. One lasted from third grade to 9th grade. The other from 10th grade to this past June or July. lol

[XNicholeMariex3]

Very rarely to be honest... but when they do... they usually die very quickly.

[Kingfrosty]

Any reason why?

[XNicholeMariex3]

@Kingfrosty It didn't use to die so quickly. Growing up I could have a massive crush on a guy for years if I saw them enough. I had a crush on a guy for like 5 years straight. But like, every time I had a crush... it would just upset me whenever I'd see them date other people, so I just stopped having crushes. I'd force myself into a mindset of "okay, I am attracted to this dude... but this will clearly never happen, so I must look the other way and forget about it".
I'll still be attracted to guys but I try my best not to obsess over it.

[Kingfrosty]

@XNicholeMariex3 Well take the first step then you attractive and all i see no reason why i guy wouldn't go on a date with you :P, just make sure you don't pick an ass. My problem is I'm just extremely picky and hate wasting my time , mostly waiting for what happened with my last girl.

[Phoenix98]

Wow that's a bad thing to subject yourself to /: the only thing that makes something or someone not possible is often ourselves we are our own worst enemy and our own great obstacle.

[Prochnost]

I used to get them a lot when I was younger, at least 9 a day.
I only get about half as much now, and they last as long as my phone's battery life !

[DodgersGM]

It's pretty rare for me. It takes a really special person to light that fire, and I'm okay with that. :)

[Frost_Byt3]

Not very often, but when i get one, they last for a looong time. My current crush, I've liked for a couple years now.

[SakuraChii]

Not that often since it starts out with attraction and they don't last long but I'm usually still attracted to the guy.

[TheOneAndOnlyBart]

Very rarely. They often die down after a few weeks when I realise there's no chance in hell she'll be dating me.

[Ihav2fart]

Lately more often..

XNicholeMariex3

^^ has been a whole now.

[Illusive_Man]

@XNicholeMariex3
Ohhhh Nichoolleeee , don't miss this.

[Ihav2fart]

@Illusive_Man bastard!!! Thats something I'd do if I were younger!

[Illusive_Man]

Hejehrhrhrhrhe

[serious]

I have never had a crush on anyone.

[blessed_curse]

Not even feel attracted?

[serious]

You are asking me to be honest?

[blessed_curse]

Yes?

[serious]

Well to be honest with you, yes I do feel attraction and there are three things, first is I feel attraction only sometimes, second is they don't last long it's short lived and third is the attraction that I feel is of a different type. Unless you are curious to know which one, I won't say it. Do you understand what I am saying?

[serious]

I mean unless you are curious to know which type of attraction I am talking about.

[blessed_curse]

Sexual attraction, you mean.

[serious]

No. Never it's not that kind of attraction. Honestly speaking, I am totally immune to that kind of attraction that you mentioned, it's different and a strange kind of attraction.

[blessed_curse]

Then what? Attracted towards their personality?

[serious]

I'll tell you.

[serious]

Have you heard of a type of attraction called " Aesthetic attraction". Do you know the definition?

[blessed_curse]

Nope, I don't.

[blessed_curse]

Tell me?

[serious]

I'll tell you is simple words just in case.

Aesthetic attraction: It is a type of attraction where the person feels attracted to the other, that person may find certain things attractive about that person, be it personality, looks or even both. However the important point is this attraction is not connected to any sexual aspect/desire of that person, no romantic connection.

Hence this attraction is totally different from sexual/romantic attraction and is called an aesthetic attraction.

[serious]

Hence "Aesthetic attraction" is what I feel that too only sometimes, not often. Hope you got my point.

[blessed_curse]

Oh yes I get it. Well that's not what crush is, is it :D

[serious]

No, that's not. You're right. This is totally a different type of attraction.

[serious]

Do you want me to give you an example, I mean if you are interested in knowing, otherwise it's fine.

[blessed_curse]

Yeah of course, tell me

[serious]

I'll give you an example:

I find women who have short pixie cut, Boy cut hairstyles attractive, If I happen to cross path of women who have such hairstyle for a moment I just can't take my eyes off them , so yes I do feel attraction, however as I said this attraction is of the "Aesthetic type". I just feel the attraction from a distance, nothing more than that, I will never ever go and approach them or something like that. Yes "Aesthetic attraction" is the only attraction I feel, that too sometimes.

[serious]

Last time I felt this type of attraction was 17 months ago, almost 1.5 years ago. Hence, it's rare for me.

[blessed_curse]

Ahh I get it. Haven't you ever had a crush on anyone? on anyone at all? 'cause that is quite hard to believe :D

[serious]

I know it's hard to believe, but whatever I told you was the truth. I am immune to all other types of attraction, except the one I told you.

Hence, it's true I have never had a crush on anyone, none at all.

[blessed_curse]

Well, interesting it is :D

[serious]

I am sure it sounds interesting to you because you may not have come across men who think like me. It's okay.

[blessed_curse]

No I haven't

[serious]

Yes, that's what I said. Well today you have.

[I_am_repulsive]

When I was in elementary and highschool, plenty. Nowadays, very rare

[Saydou]

Not any more, i remember i used to have crush every 3 weeks when i was at high school.

[jacquesvol]

The last time was in 1967.

[blessed_curse]

Wowow that's a long time!

[smahala1991]

Usually a couple months or until I find out she has a boyfriend, Longest one I had was 10 years

[Bluemax]

When I was your age, asker, about once a year.

[IamNuts]

I've only had a crush once.

[OrangeBoy]

Few, sometimes happen... but kinda rare.

[JackTyler]

Rarely. Almost never