Too touchy-feely?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I cuddle very often, and it leads to things, which most of the time I start. Her and I are saving ourselves until marriage, whether or not we end up with each other or not. But we tend to fondle and spice things up. I'm a very touchy-feely guy, and I absolutely like it when this happens. For her, I've always made sure she's comfortable, and when she's not, I respect her feelings and stop whatever it is that is not making her comfortable. She's also one of my best friends and I share a lot of my thoughts and feelings for to her. She means so much to me, and I don't want my actions to end up pushing her away. Do you understand? Sometimes I think I'm not explaining this very well. Anyways, I guess I'm asking, if I'm being too touchy-feely toward my girlfriend; which I sometimes think I am, so it must be true. How can I be less touchy-feely, and let go a little? Because I don't want her to feel uncomfortable, and end up losing her because of my actions.

[Anonymous]

Well, just snuggle as much as you like. Try to avoid things like laying in beds together and things like that. It helps. Ask her sometime how she feels about certain things, if she says no way, that's disgusting, then don't ever try and do it with her. Simple way to keep from doing something to go too far would be to avoid the situation as much as you both want. Just try not to think of those things too.

I know it's hard because my ex said how hard it was for him to not do things with me. We didn't end for that reason but it kinda factored into my decision. He tried to start doing things and I just got fed up with it at one point and told him to stop. So just try not to push your luck! Girls will get fed up and leave so try not to let yourself get too touchy feely. Keep that in your mind: I want her to stay with me!

Hope this helps, sorry I kinda rambled ha but good luck!

[alessia93]

Just keep what you just said in the back of your head while you are cuddling with her, that way it may prevent you from getting too touchy- feely. But once and awhile touching her, knowing that she is comfortable, is a good thing because it shows your interest and a girl likes to be touched sometimes.

If you are really concerned and can't stop, talking with her is the best. Ask her if she is comfortable with your actions, but make sure to tell her to be honest regardless of how she may feel telling you the truth. Tell her that you want to make sure you don't lose the relationship over something that may be making her feel awkward.

best of luck!

[MrTinker]

Best thing to do is talk to her about it during a regular part of the day, and ask if your doing something wrong, are you being to touchy feel with her "because I care how you feel". Let her know you don't want to be with anyone else, and I wish you luck mate.