I always initiate

[Anonymous]

There's this girl I've had my eye on for a while. She goes to my college and after a few days of talking to her, I got her number. But the thing is, I'm always the one initiating contact, but when I do her responses are generally happy/teasing and she'll ask questions and keep the conversation going. But she'll never text me first, unless it's wishing me luck for my interview or saying happy birthday. Other than that, if I don't text her, she won't text me. But when I do text, she'll keep the conversation going.

Not sure what to think of this.

[pgutekunst]

I recently went through something very similar to this with another girl. I specifically asked this question to the girl, but found the answer being weak and thoughtless. Her reason was it was "tradition" to her that the guy talk to her first to show her that he's interested, which I have never heard of. I called bullsh*t, and turned out to be right and got out of that situation real quick. My opinion on this is I question whether the girl really has any feelings for you, and may be just using you as a boy-toy/doormat. If she had feelings for you, she would talk to you first and want to initiate contact just as badly as you do.

Ladies, men want to feel important, too. If you have interest in another guy, talk to him when you have something to say and make an effort to show that you want to spend time with him. If you just want to keep things casual, say so, and leave it up the guy whether or not he wants to stick around.

[mike63092]

Well it seems to me with that you and her are not going out. From experience and others people telling me this: girls do not text guys first. They don't want to come across as clingy or desperate. The good thing is she seems to want to talk to you and she seems interested in you by what you said. If I were you I would ask her out on a date because she seems like she is genuinely interested

[Sydelicious]

I am guilty of this.

I just started dating someone, and I never initiate contact. I guess I am trying to figure out if he really is into me, before I start "trying harder".

But, I now see how it makes a guy feel, and I don't like it!

So my answer to your question, if she is like me, she is into you, but doesn't want to come across as needy or "too available"...but really she is way into you.

I am done playing games. I am digging this guy, so I am going to start showing it : )

I hope my answer was somewhat helpful, but I think you helped me more...so thanks!

good luck <3

[star709]

I do the exact thing she does lol

I always wait until he texts me cause, I feel that I might be annoying him or he is busy.

Maybe she thinks of it as a habit. I always wait until he texts me because I know he will for now.. I want 2 but something is keeping me from it

There have been sometimes where I have texted him 1st,but most on his part.

Maybe you should let her know that, you would like to text you sometime as well.

Idk about the she doeesnt ever text you 1sr. For me I freakin out so I eventually text him

[Deajevou]

I'm a girl and I do this. I don't text to my guy friends when they ask for my number. Not that I'm not interested or not thinking of them I just don't do it. I feel it's kinda sweet if a guy texts you. It shows he's interested. If I text a guy first all the time, I feel like he will get annoyed with me or think I'm into him to much. There's also another possibility that she hates texting.

[Anonymous]

I think she wouldn't text back and keep the conversation if she wouldn't have interest in you. Most girls nowdays think that the guy must earn her and make her feel special/wanted, so they wait them to make first move. It is how the Nature made us, guys and girls :) Be somehow Hard to get for week or two (no text messages at all), then ask her out suddenly after one or two messages like it's not a big deal to you . In those 2 weeks try to make something for yourself (try sport, play music, ...), to get away your thoughts from her. :) I hope the best for you! :P

[Deajevou]

You summed it up pretty well..!!

[ryanontario]

this doesn't sound like any problem . it seems like she is responding to your actions and enjoys being your friend . girls are often busy and don't initiate much anyways I find so that's not surprising she'd do this

you may also want to talk to her in person as much as possible , that might help her get to know you

[Brando]

i say back off a little bit. it may be playing the "hard to get" game but I don't think it really is. you've initiated enough and if she's not willing to devote the time and the thought to talk to you, then what's up with that? test it out, don't text her like clockwork and be brief with your conversations and see what happens.

i don't take responsibility if something goes wrong lmao

[Anderkat28]

She likes you.

And I think that it's good for the guy to initiate most everything at first. But if you guys actually get into a relationship, or she's interested in one, I'm sure she'll begin to initiate.

I applaud you, though. I hate it when guys don't initiate, it's a big turn off for me.

[Dmarie86]

She is into you, or else she would respond with close ended texts. during the dating stages of a relationship I think the guy should initiate conversations! the fact that she remembers things like your birthday or an interview you talked about shows she is definitely interested!

[emma17]

if she is not "giving back" to the conversation, she is not worth it. it is the same with guys...if you try and they don't talk back to you in the same way...they are either just bored and find you uninteresting or they really just don't want anything to do with you. its kinda harsh, but I have learned that with guys...and as a girl- I am sometimes like that with guys.

[hollywoodlandxo]

Most girls do this. It's cute when guys text first! It lets us know that he's truly interested, and it's not just us doing the work.

[cherrycoke]

I do the same thing,

she's playing hard to get, and if you don't text her for a few says, she'll probably come around.

[Cerigo]

She likes you but she is insecure.